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From the column of a male feminist
How am I supposed to react in a situation when a woman beats me in public for no fault of mine? There are 3 ways I can think of today and all of them seem pointless:
I could lodge a formal complaint against her (if I could first prove that I didn’t intentionally fall on her or “try to molest her”) which would again make me look bad as her defense will be that she was just defending herself. (More than enough for any court to throw out the case.) Here too the media will happily drag me into a debate, with an article that will be possibly headlined, ‘Woman taken to court for merely defending herself’.
She can file an opposing case to counter my case. And can actually get me arrested without the tiniest shred of evidence. A few good people stepped up to back me in the station; guess how many of those good people will be my witnesses in court. And guess what… She doesn’t need any witnesses to back her story!
I could behave the same way as her (trash her back or shout at her) which would incidentally land me in hot water because of such actions tantamount to harassment of a woman in a public place. Besides, she could use it in a case against me and as you are well aware by now, the word of a woman carries more weight in the judicial process. Furthermore, someone in the crowd can actually film the quarrel by phone and before I know it my face will be plastered across social media as yet another example of an aggressive male chauvinist pig. Even worse, she could take my photo and post on Facebook that I tried to molest her in public. Without even inquiring into the matter the whole nation would take turns systematically destroying my life. Sound familiar?
Option 3, that I can think of today is that I could wait it out and plot revenge worthy of a Bollywood movie. But I am cutting it short right there because that is not who I am. Even if there is something I could do, it still pales in comparison with what she could legally do against me.
I chose an option 4 where I simply shut up and moved on with my life which I did… well almost. I still can’t get over this. I played the scenario over and over again in my head to see if there was a way in which this incident would have ended differently. I put myself in the woman’s shoes. I still can’t seem to justify attacking a guy just under the suspicion that he is a pervert. The worst thing I would have done is to shout at him. Imagine the scenario where a woman falling onto a guy in a crowded station, the guy is not to make a big deal even if the woman was a sex-crazed fiend (blasphemy, because an Indian woman is devoid of sexual feelings towards men, so she won’t do this, besides a woman falling onto a guy is supposedly a win for the guy!)
Note by The Male Factor – Dear Roni. I hope that you understand that the reaction by the crowd shows how much misandry men like you carry in themselves. If you were in their place even you would have behaved the same way. Did you see women behaving the same way when a woman is a criminal? Don’t just be grateful to the old lady who supported you. Men in such cases would have whacked back the man if he had done something like this in public. The very point that women did not hit back even the Rohtak Sisters or Jasleen Kaur proves that women only want to fulfill their selfish desires. They are not bothered about men and men are overly concerned about women.
The reason first three options seemed impossible to you is again misandry within you. The same is true for any male feminist. If any man reacts otherwise even you will term him as chauvinist and would want to thrash him for his barbarism. Sadly, this is the low grade of life you gave to our boys.
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