This is how a Norwegian comedian exposed feminist gender specialists and proved them idiots

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Herald Eia a Norwegian comedian who exposed feminist gender experts by his documentary called “Brainwash”

Feminist gender theories of equality emanating from gender studies specialists in Nordic countries (that are top rankers in gender equality) were stripped to reality when a Norwegian comedian Herald Eia asked them a few simple questions. So much that Nordic council of ministers have later decided to defund this university.

Eia filmed a documentary where he tried to understand the answers of a few questions related to gender issues. He found that even in #1 egalitarian country Norway there existed a disparity in terms of choice of jobs. To show that, he first went to a Norwegian construction company and found only 10% female engineers there. Then he went to a hospital where all staff nurses were females. There were no male nurses. Norway was #1 in gender equality in 2008 and had been a top ranker in terms of gender equality ever since.  Even there these jobs were not shared. In fact, a report stated that almost 90% nurses in Norway were females. The ratio of genders in certain jobs in Norway was found to be stable since 1980. (it is called Norwegian Gender Equality Paradox).

Eia asked about this gender divide in jobs to Norwegian Equal Opportunities Commissioner Kristin Mile. She admitted that govt. efforts could get one / two year effect after which the ratio falls down. Former cabinet minister Huitfeldt said – “girls do better in school in all subjects except Physical Education”.

So, why less women were found in technical fields in the most egalitarian country?

Some women he interviewed mentioned that technical jobs were boring.

Camilla Schreiner, who studied trend of girls’ technical education in 20 countries found that Girls in less egalitarian countries were more interested in technical education. Camilla had taken a survey with a set of 108 questions and the she didn’t find any equality in job interests in most egalitarian nations. In fact, she found that the more modern a country was, more was the divide in job selection.

Some common women that Eia surveyed believed that it’s always been a woman’s job to take care of children. Some believed that it was human genes to select and like jobs. Some believed the two genders to be different. Feminists however believed that this was because of Social and Cultural training of human brains.

Eia then visited Catherine Egeland at Work Research Institute to understand the gender preferences of job selection. Catherine has written several books of job preferences by the genders.

Catherine didn’t think there was any difference in brains of two genders at all and thought that studying brain difference in genders was irrelevant when trying to understand their different behavior.

Another Nordic gender researcher Joergen Lorentzen at the Center of Interdisciplinary Gender Research at Oslo University thought the study of brain difference was “Old fashioned” research. He mentioned that most researches on studies on brain differences had been refuted later. He also confirmed that only gender difference that existed was in outer signs of gender and innate traits like Intelligence, capacity etc. of the genders were in fact identical.

Joergen said that it was about social reinforcement of gender roles that made the two genders choose different jobs. Martin Aurdal, Columnist said gender reinforcement by society happened from childhood that leads to different job choices.

So Eia went back to his mom and to his daughters to understand about the social reinforcement of gender roles and to understand if his mom treated him as a “tough little guy” from childhood or if he was discriminating against his daughters. He found that none were true.

Feminist gender specialists always talk about sexism in toys, TV shows, videos etc. to reinforce gender roles in humans. To examine the same Eia asked a few male toddlers if they wanted to play with girls’ toys and found none of them to be interested in female toys.

Feminist gender researchers like Jorgen believed that there was no limit to the extent a child could be moulded through social conditioning that led to such toddler toy preference.

To understand this, Eia then visited Richard Lippa, Professor of Psychology, California State University. Lippa had conducted a study on job preferences in 53 countries. He got over 200,000 responses from those countries. He found that men were more interested in thing oriented occupations and women are more interested in people oriented occupations. He found the trend to be same in ALL 53 countries. So he concluded that the job preferences is linked to human biology.

To understand social conditioning and to understand how early we can find gender differences, Eia then visited Professor Trond Diseth at the National Hospital Department of child Psychiatry.

In their experiment, Professor Diseth and his team had designed 10 different toys – four feminine toys, four masculine toys and two neutral toys. 10 toys were placed in a particular pattern and toddlers are sent there without anyone else being around. The entire experiment was monitored through CCTV cameras and there was clear differences found in toy selection among healthy boys and healthy girls starting from age of nine months. Male toddlers chose masculine toys while baby girls chose feminine toys. Dr. Diseth thus concluded that – “children are borne with clear biological disposition as far as gender identity and behavior is concerned, then environmental influences either increases or decreases that behavior”. Diseth also confirmed that he had done a lot of research through several years to prove that gender differences exist from early ages.

Simon Baron-Cohen is a British professor of psychiatry at Trinity College in Cambridge was a distinguished researcher for Autism and he discovered some distinct gender differences through his studies. Eia visited Prof Cohen to understand his findings about gender differences.

Professor Cohen designed two types of objects, one mechanical type and the other was a human face. He found that even one day old babies had gender differences as his study showed that more boys looked longer at the mechanical objects and more girls looked longer at the face. Professor Cohen also explained that this difference in gender behavior was because boys and girls produce different amounts of testosterone. This hormone determines how their brains develop. Boys produce ~double the amount of testosterone”, he said.

Prof Cohen also elaborated that as a part of his research he studied the testosterone level of babies at pre-natal stage and found that higher the amount of testosterone in pre-natal stage of a baby, they were likely to –

  1. Slower to develop language
  2. Make less eye contact

He concluded that more Testosterone leads to slower language development and slower social development. He also told that girls with higher testosterone level shows masculine toy preferences. Prof Cohen studied these children till 8 years of their age and found that they were less on empathy, less on recognizing other people’s emotions, or taking someone else’s perspective. But they had more interest in systems and how things worked.

Evolutionary Psychologist Prof Ann Campbell of Durham, Northern UK explained to Eia the differences in X and Y chromosomes and why they carried the respective characteristics genes. Campbell believed in Darwin’s evolution theory and process of selection of better genes for survival.

Campbell also explained that if women needed to carry children and raise them and if there were some psychological traits that could help them achieve that easier, then human evolution had sustained that trait as well.  So women naturally developed qualities of empathy, avoiding confrontation, avoiding social exclusions etc.

Ann explained that today’s women are more oriented towards other people than men. She said, gender typical behavior is observed more when one is put under severe stress. Women under severe stress want to be with other people whereas men typically choose to be alone. She explained, that this social behavior of women makes them comfortable with professions like nursing, teaching, social work etc.

But if gender difference is in our genes then why do more girls in less egalitarian countries like India want to study Technology?  This is because with equal opportunities both genders show typical gender behavior without any restraint whereas in poor countries like they are forced to choose whatever they get easily and whatever can give them money.

Ann also explained that if evolution had changed our body and reproductive systems, it was highly unlikely that it didn’t change our brains that controls everything.

When Eia confronted the feminist gender champions with the scientific research on gender differences, Norwegian feminists say that they had theoretical belief in what they proclaimed to be gender equality. Feminist champions of gender studies spoke only about their hypothesis on gender equality while refuting scientific research by biologists and evolutionary psychologists of The US and The UK.

In short, this simple yet powerful documentary by Norwegian Comedian Herald Eia exposed feminist gender studies experts. It showed irrelevance and stupidity of the Norwegian policy influencers that were sucking Nordic funds for years and leading the nation to a fools’ paradise. Once exposed, a group of Nordic ministers have decide to end funding for the NIKK gender studies department that was at the forefront of creating various policies in Norway since 1970s. This led to closure of the institute but it has reopened later with a different name (Nordic Information of Gender Knowledge).

Nevertheless, the efforts of Herald Eia in exposing feminist stupidity is commendable and we salute him for enlightening us about critical gender issues.

See his original documentary here –

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Gender equality can’t bring happiness – study

Even though World Happiness Report 2016 states that more a country attains gender equality more they will be happy because of equitable distribution of assets, a detailed analysis of these two reports shows otherwise.

A comparison of top 20 happy countries from 2016 World Happiness Report and their corresponding ranking in terms of Gender Equality as mentioned in 2016 Global Gender Gap Report it is found that 13 out of 20 countries that had gained maximum happiness in last one decade have all slipped in their gender equality ranking –

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Most of the gainers of happiness have lost in gender parity

Out of rest of the seven countries, such data was not available for three countries and only four countries have shown improvement in gender parity while being happy.

It is also observed that out of the top 20 countries in Gender Equality per 2016 Global Gender Gap Report, only six countries viz. Norway, Philippines, Nicaragua, Switzerland, Germany and Latvia have shown improvements in happiness and twelve countries have shown a decline –

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In order to gain gender parity countries have lost their happiness

Data for Iceland and Burundi are not available.

The above analysis clearly shows that contrary to the claim made in World Happiness Report, Gender equality can’t bring happiness in a country.

In fact, a study of top 20 countries in terms of minimum standard deviation of happiness (Figure 2.5 of World Happiness Report) or Equality of Happiness (in other words, happiness for all) only four belong to top ten in Gender Equality (better rank in std. dev. or lower std. dev. means maximum people fall near a mean value of happiness).

In fact, there are countries like Bhutan (121), Mauritania (129) and Rwanda (128) in this list that fall at the lower end of gender parity. In terms of overall happiness index too they fall below but we need to understand that this year’s happiness index also include factors like per capita GDP, Social Support and Healthy Life Expectancy where the third world countries are at clear disadvantage –

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Gender parity don’t bring Happiness for all

Only countries like Iceland, Finland, Sweden and New Zealand out of this list of top 20 countries are also in top 10 ranks of Global Gender Parity chart.

Clearly feminist controlled UN and other global bodies are trying to show feminist nations as the most happy ones contrary to the fact that in order to gain gender equality nations need to lose their happiness.

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This study confirms giving women higher education is not in the best interest of a nation

A large number of highly educated women isn’t going to help a nation. New data released by World Economic Forum reveals high level of education remains as mere ornaments to them as these highly educated women do not contribute to the economy to the extent similarly educated males do.

Recently published Global Gender Gap Report, 2016 shows that countries that attained highest order of Educational equality and countries with higher proportion of women with tertiary education do not get equal contribution from these women in their labour force.

A study of 24 countries that have attained #1 position in Education Attainment in 2016 Global Gender Gap Report shows none except Denmark has equal participation of highly educated women in labour force even though in all these countries proportion of women with tertiary education is much higher compared to that of males.

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Countries with highest Educational Parity shows low workforce participation

One favorable point for these highly educated women is – overall they participate in workforce more compared to ordinary educated women.

A study of countries that has maximum proportion of highly educated women shows abysmal work force participation by those highly educated women across all geographies and in all economies –

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Highest proportion of educated women do not ensure equal work participation

A common feminist reply to this situation is women across the globe need to ‘sacrifice’ their career for their families and for caregiver role that society ‘forces’ on them. This is the reason even though women end up working more hours every day (Global Gender Gap Report also shows women doing more unpaid work in all countries) compared to that of males, their contribution is not taken into account in countries GDP calculation.

Unpaid Work by women and Feminist concept of ‘Salary to Wife’

A few years ago Indian Feminists wanted to create a new law in India where 20% of husband’s monthly income was to be automatically given to the wife every month. This arrangement, according to feminists would help calculate a woman’s actual contribution to GDP and their unpaid household work will be valued. Feminists argued that men can earn because their wives take care of their homes and it is duty of the husband to pay commensurate monetary compensation to their wives.

However, this concept has not gone well with many women as this brings in an employee – employer relation in a family. Many men who lived alone and got paid their full salary while they took care of their own homes did not find any reason why they needed to shell out 20% of their salary unnecessarily.

Do women ‘Sacrifice’ their career for their home?

To understand whether women really sacrifice their career for their homes or it is another feminist myth created and nurtured over years that many of us believed to be true.

To understand this we need to take a look at this research done by Harvard Business School (HBS) researchers. Researchers Robin J Ely, Pamela Stone and Colleen Ammerman of HBS studied professional women for 20 years and had surveyed 25,000 MBA graduates from HBS of three different generation, viz. Baby Boomers (age 49-67), Generation X (age 32-48) and Generation Y (age 26-31). Harvard graduates are trained to assume leadership positions globally and by taking both male and females of the same business school, these researchers had ensured a level playing field for all respondents.

This survey found stark difference between corporate satisfaction levels in the two genders –

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Corporate parameters don’t satisfy high achieving women – HBS study

Clearly, women executives aren’t satisfied by business parameters. But do they opt out of workforce for their families? The HBS researchers found that “Only 11% are out of workforce to take care of children full time”.

The researchers had also found out that these high achieving women do not “opt out” to take care of their children but because they find themselves in unfulfilling roles. The part time work they take up don’t satisfy their intellectual ability.

This study also reveals that men and women both at senior levels of management had taken career decisions (like flexible working, less travel, no promotion etc.) and there is no gender bias in that. This study showed that both genders have equally taken career decisions. The study concluded that simply being a parent did not change any of these outcomes. That means that feminist myth of women compromise with their career because of unpaid family work and child raising responsibility is completely baseless.

Another Survey done by CNBC in 2015 with more than 2600 executives from US and Canada shows that men work more in extended hours and women complain more for working in extended hours.

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Men often end up working extending hours

From above analysis it is clear that women when given higher responsibilities tend to complain more and very often renounce the opportunities. Both genders seek work – life balance but men show more dedication to their work. This explains squarely why a highly educated women population is of no help to a nation building. Because caregiver roles – the natural choice of women, do not require higher degrees.

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Global Gender Gap Report, 2016 shows why Indian males should worry

Recently World Economic Forum has published World Gender Gap Report and per this report India ranked 87 out of 144 countries in gender parity. In this article we present a comprehensive analysis of the report that that led to this calculation.

Features of the report

Measuring Gender Gap rather than level of Empowerment

This year’s Global Gender Gap report seeks to measure gender gap based on access to available resources of the two genders in a country rather than women empowerment. So this report cuts down on factors of availability of resources in a country based on its financial condition. This report assumes that rich countries naturally have access to more resources and the two genders of the country should have access to similar levels of resources.

Measuring ‘Outcomes’ rather than ‘Inputs’ or ‘means’

Another significant change in this year’s report is that it measures outcome rather than ‘input’ to the outcome. So this report seeks to measure where the two genders stand in terms of different indicators rather than ‘means’ adopted (policy decisions, culture. Customs etc.) for the same.

Measuring Gender Equality and not Women Empowerment

This year’s report ranks countries based on their proximity to gender equality and not on women empowerment. So this report seeks to have eliminated the so called ‘battle of sexes”.

Four Subindexes

Global Gender Gap Index, 2016 examines gender gap of a country based on the following four subindexes –

  1. Economic Participation and Opportunity – measures participation gap, remuneration gap and advancement gap.
  2. Education attainment – measured by access to primary – secondary – tertiary level education and literacy rate
  3. Health and Survival – natural survival tenure for female is considered as 87.5 years and that of men is considered as 82.5 years and a sex ratio at birth is considered as 944 females to 1000 males for these calculations.
  4. Political Empowerment – level of women participation in the highest level of political decision making based on years in executive office in last 50 years in considered.

Assigned weights to each subindex

This year’s report also assigns weight to each parameter of a subindex. Weights are assigned based on standard deviation of the parameter. Higher the standard deviation of a parameter higher is the weight assigned to the same. This makes sure that countries that deviate in the higher areas of impact is penalized more. Table 2 in the report explains the same.

How India perform in gender parity?

India’s performance is summarized in the two graphics below –

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India’s performance in different sub-indexes

Economic Participation and Opportunity

Surprisingly in this segment despite having more professional and technical female workers India –

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is assigned the average score which reduces India’s rank. Our analysis shown later in this article shows that the scores of Labour Force Participation and Wage Equality is arrived at without taking into consideration some data that could have improved India’s scores. Please note, wage gap is arrived at by asking questions to company executives and mostly perception driven.

Educational Attainment

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Clearly India is lagging behind in terms of the long term indicator – “Literacy Rate”. This may be due to the fact that women not attaining schools for various reasons for so many years. With implementation of various adult education programs, improving sanitation in schools and stopping child marriage the current situation of education is improving. We see a slight imbalance here as we see more women enrolment in primary and secondary education. This leads to a thought that male students are selectively discouraged from education system which is dangerous as even today males are considered to be the primary breadwinner in Indian families.

Higher enrolment of female students in primary and secondary education when the number of females in 0-6 years are much less compared to that of males (census data, also naturally more male children are born) only leads to the conclusion that more male children are deprived of primary and secondary education in India.

Health and Survival

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This indicator shows that Indian women can expect prolonged healthy life until 59 years compared to 56 years in case of males. Absence of any male friendly policies, infrastructure or government institution for men’s welfare can be attributed to this.

Political Equality

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Even though India gained because of female heads of states, burning issues in this area seems to be the other two parameters.

Contextual Data

The World Gender Gap Report also presents selected data in country profile sector. If we look at this data we find that the report selectively takes data that is to disadvantage of India. For example –

Workforce Participation

The report does not disclose numbers like workers employed in part-time that could show more women engaged in similar work. Also discouraged job seekers would have shown more males as discouraged because of reservation for women.

However, this calculation does include parameters that are not favourable for India, like unemployed adults or proportion of unpaid work by the two genders or hours of work (because women do engage in more household work).

By being silent on these parameters the report creates an inherent bias in calculation of Labour Force Participation and Opportunity Index.

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Access to Assets

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Please note that all values marked above are not based on any data. These are values assigned to India based on parameters not clarified in the report.

Access to Technology

Surprisingly the area where India could have done well is not considered at all in the Index calculation –

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Health

The 2016 World Gender Gap Report shows Indian males are more prone to all kinds of deadly diseases –

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Yet, no benefit program for men. WCD ministry is trying to create bias against male patients by giving priority of women patients in National Policy for Women drafted in 2016. This shows that a systematic institutional bias is created against Indian males that will slowly lead to killing them.

This report clarifies that Indian males need more attention and progressive policies for education, skill development and healthcare benefits. However, all Indian government programmes today are women centric. When the need of the hour is to educate and save males, Indian govt. is driving ‘Beti Bachao, Beti Padhao‘ program. Reason good enough for Indian males to be terrified about their future.

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Here’s why Aditya Tiwari, a single father who adopted a special child has created a history and it is not what you think of

For 28 year old Aditya Tiwari, a Pune based IT Professional it was not easy to adopt Binny from a Bhopal orphanage. From his own family members to the orphanages he had to struggle getting approval for the same. Some orphanage officials have gone ahead to discourage him saying no girl would ever marry him if he did so. This is because, not only Aditya was unmarried but Binny was a special child with down syndrome and a hole in his heart along with other ailments.

But no such discouragement from the society or from his own family members could deter this 28 year old single man to adopt Binny. As he said in his interview to media that he felt amazing attachment and connection to the child the first time he met him in an orphanage. Even Binny used to recognize him every time he visited the orphanage.

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Aditya in an interview with NDTV (click image for interview)

His story and dedication for the child and for a great and noble cause to adopt a child and give him a family, love, care and protection. In this process of being the first youngest single father to adopt the child he had to write ~ 100 letters and approximately eight months to overcome all obstacles.

This interview of Aditya tells us the struggle he had to go through to get the child in his family. Originally when WCD ministry was working on creating this legislation (Juvenile Justice Bill) they had kept in mind only girl children. The interview below tells us how the ministry kept its focus to girl children so much that increased the adoption of girl children but not boys.

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Maneka Gandhi in an interview with NDTV

When the new adoption laws were enforced in August 2015, everyone has hoped that thousands of children will get their new homes and love of parents –

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Click the image to open the video from WCD ministry FB page

Aditya’s fight was for a boy child and was for a child with special needs. We get shocked to see the kind of hurdles he had to go through especially when the new guidelines assure easier adoption norms.

From minister’s own statistics we come to know that more girls are being adopted but what about our boys? WCD ministry is also responsible for our boys’ and when we see that despite intervention of her ministry and CARA authorities, Aditya had to undergo so much pain in adopting the child we understand the fate of our boys in orphanages.

We hope the WCD ministry and CARA authorities will look into the welfare of our boys and will encourage noble and kind hearted parents like Aditya Tiwari to come forward and give family to those unfortunate children.

Aditya Tiwari’s act has not only a new history created because as an unmarried man he adopted a special child, but also because he had gone against the Govt. created hype of saving only girl children (‘Beti Bachao’). He has also shown us that the so called patriarchal male dominated Indian society do abandon their boys and we need our Child Welfare Ministry to work for them as well.

Binny comes home

Aditya celebrating with Binny – Image credit The Better India

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Nonagerian illiterate woman wins Maharastra Gram Panchayat Election, creates sensation

Gangubai Bhambure, Khed, Maharastra

Indian Express story on the matter

The feminist created myth that India is a patriarchal society and Indian women are not valued took a severe jolt when in recent Maharastra gram panchayat election a nonagenarian illiterate woman won the election and is now all set to become the first sarpanch (head of panchayat) of the village. Gangubai Bhambure (93) was initially not interested but her grandson had convinced her to contest the election and win.

This news is significant because Indian women and especially the village women are always projected globally as oppressed women. The example of Gangubai Bhambure will be an eye opener for the world. Nowhere else in the world we have such aged woman becoming a leader.

It is said that her good connection with the people of the village had made it possible for her to win. People often call on her for their personal issues and Gangubai always helps them.

India has many firsts to show to the world. Hope feminists who are always busy spreading lies about the life of our village women will take their lessons from Maha Gram Panchayat election results in Khed and get moving with real development work as Gangubai is all set to start.

We wish Gangubai all the best as she will soon start giving public speeches and learn to sign documents. Really, there is no age limit to learn new things and lead. Another gift to the world by the so called patriarchal and regressive India.

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Maneka Gandhi’s interview that shows development is last priority for WCD ministry

Many Indians are made to seriously get concerned for female foeticide issue. Even though I have never understood why the gender ratio in 0-6 years of age group is considered a statistical evidence of female foeticide (because any death after birth is infanticide and not foeticide) but I still wanted to check the same data from census records –

As a first attempt I tried to compare the number of children in 0-6 years age group with that of 10-16 years group in 2011 census. Because these two numbers should ideally represent the same group of children. This was the result –

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Census data 0-6 years

I have never understood how could the number of children in same age group increase when in natural circumstances this number should have decreased. To check this in detail I have also checked the same details for other age groups.

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Source – Census India

It was seen that for all other groups the numbers have decreased (natural, because of death) but only for first two age groups the number of females have increased. Clearly indicating that our census data is fudged to show female foeticide.

While it was clear from the census data that female foeticide is a hoax created by the feminists using government machinery, the main reason behind it would have been unknown unless I have seen this interview of minister for Women and Child Development and Welfare (WCD) Ms. Maneka Gandhi.

Maneka Gandhi interview

In this interview she said every day at least 2000 girl children are killed in India and some of them are killed by putting pillow on their faces. Question comes, how does she know? and if the government is aware of so many details why is that they are not able to take punitive action to stop this crime? This clearly shows that she is spreading lies on national television.

This interview also clarifies that our government wanted to bring institutional delivery or a mechanism to control our sexual freedom from bedroom in the disguise of a fake issue called “Female Foeticide”. So now GOI wants to bring govt. controls in our bedrooms and cut down on our sexual freedom and that is in no way in favour of women empowerment. Because in institutional controlled delivery mechanism even mothers will be monitored.

Second part of her speech talks about girls being thrown out to orphanages instead of being killed. She also gives some statistics but a quick look at census data about India’s homeless data shows us all that she said were untrue –

Census - Homeless Data

In the above analysis it can be found that male children are abandoned in higher numbers compared to female children. But this was the statistics from 2011 census and the interview was taken in 2015. So is the situation reversed in 2015.

Currently we don’t have any mechanism to check her claims. But if the male children were abused and abandoned for so many years as seen in census data, why WCD ministry didn’t bother? In 2007, WCD ministry had conducted a survey that found the following –

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India Children on streets

All possible data that could be found from govt. sources are not current but all data shows that more number of boys are on the streets, rather than girls.

Maneka’s interview giving a high number for abandoned girl children is clearly an attempt to shift focus from the real issue of abandoned boys and they becoming criminals in turn. This was also shown in 2007 WCD report –

Children in conflict of law

We don’t know the real number of abandoned children in 2015. But from the data available to us only shows that WCD ministry which is also responsible for boys’ welfare in India is keeping a blind eye on their development.

The new adoption laws are gender neutral but special provisions like privileges for adoption of girl children etc. can jeopradise this initiative. As she mentioned in the interview that all 89 girls were adopted in one month and only tells us about the grim future of Indian boys. They are left out by the ministry meant for their welfare to be criminals in future.

This clearly shows that by promoting and spreading lies or half truths our WCD ministry is taking our country far from development. Because, when a country starts making laws or legal provisions based half truths or lies; that signals the end of prosperity there.

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Related – Aditya Tiwari created History by adopting a special child

RTI reveals important Kolkata Police circular on dowry cases

[In this series “The Causal Affair” we bring RTI special for sharing important information that are not available to general public but of immense help to them. Normally information obtained through RTI remains with the person files the same and the same is not percolated to all the people needing them.

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Find the complete RTI Here

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ReplyCover Letter, Reply Pg1, Police circular

Last week we have shown how an RTI reveals important police procedure information in dowry cases (IPC 498a and 406). This week we are presenting the continuation of same RTI that brings out an important Kolkata police circular on dowry cases. –

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The RTI questions presented were –

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RTI questions on dowry cases

Reply from Jt. Commissioner of Kolkata Police were –

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RTI replies from police

The police circular was –

Kolkata Police circular on dowry cases

The Kolkata police circular

What this RTI reveals

  1. Kolkata police did not have any guideline until the RTI date to curb misuse of dowry laws.
  2. Police department cruelty to husband and his family members revealed. When a falsely accused husband request information about circular to curb false dowry cases, police gives him a circular that wants to implicate them more.

How this RTI can be used

  1. Kolkata police circular says that appropriate provisions of Dowry Prohibition Act should be invoked in each dowry case. So husbands must try to file DP3 case against his in-laws.

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Identify the feminist states in India

Indian census data reveal one very important information about our states. It reveals the states that are most feminist controlled.

Feminists have always considered marriage as a major oppression for women. The main reason behind bringing all gender biased family breaking laws are also the same. Thus by analyzing the information of divorced and separated women in different states we get a fair idea of most feminized states in India.

Since population of a state may vary depending on its area or population density we have considered the ratio of female and male population in each case to understand the divorce situation in each state.

Separated individuals

As per census 2011, in terms of gender ratio of separated individuals, Kerala tops the chart with a staggering 3.8 times women in that category compared to number of men. Tripura is second with the ratio being 3.3.

Here are the top ten states in this category –

Top 10 states in separated men women ratio

Source Census 2011

Divorced

In terms of the ratio of Female : Male divorced individuals too we find Kerala topping the list with Odisha being a close second –

Top 10 states in divorced women to man ratio

Source Census 2011

Separated and Divorced

When we combine the data of separated and divorced individuals we find –

Top ten states separated and divorced

Source Census 2011

…and the Homeless

But the above data give partial information. When we combine the ratio of homeless men vs women and try to find out the states where men are mostly becoming homeless due to feminazi invasion, we find –

Top ten states of homeless men women ratio

Source Census 2011

The information becomes clearer when we combine all the above data together –

Top 10 feminized states in India

Source Census 2011

The smaller states like Andaman Nicobar and Lakshwadeep need to be ignored for all practical purpose of study because a small switch in numbers can skew the statistics.

It is evident that the states influenced by communism is worst affected by feminism as well. We find Kerala and West Bengal in leading positions in breaking family as well as creating homeless men. Other communist infested states like Tripura, Andhra Pradesh and Odisha can also be seen in the list.

Recently, these are the same forces that rallied behind Yakub Memon. Time to ask, if our internal political parties used to break this country? Looks like same forces carry out separatist movement in some states and they also carry on a systematic movement to break our family system in the name of feminism. This once again proves #FeminismIsTerrorism.

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Survey on intimate partner violence against Indian men

Domestic Violence against men

This survey is closed

In all domestic violence surveys conducted previously, the survey focused on gender biased definition of the crime. Even UN, USAID and NFHS failed to study this crime in gender neutral manner. This is first of its kind effort to capture domestic violence data in detail to understand the magnitude of this crime against Indian men.

For the purpose of this survey husband/wife includes live-in partners and marriage includes live-in relationships

Physical Violence

Sexual Violence

Verbal and Emotional Violence

Economic Abuse

General

Thanks for taking your time for this survey.

Please share this survey with others and help some NGOs collect more data.

Related Article

  1. How UN created a wrong pcture of Domestic Violence in India

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Share your valuable opinion and let the world know about the same

Reader Comments

1. Name: Sandip Sen
Comment: Good poll
Time: October 6, 2014 at 11:00 pm

2. Name: Satyendra
Comment: This is true that Indian men and their families are in problems because of wives and our legal system. There should be equality in the society to balance. But we found gender biased rules and very disturbed in life.
Time: October 6, 2014 at 11:00 pm

3. Name: sathya
Comment: Dear Partha, appreciate all your efforts to show the real bias in our society and how everybody is utilising this to their short term gains at the cost of boys/men! Hopefully neutral body will come forward to do research and bring changes to reduce men’s responsibioities and pains which society and system have convienietly ignored that men are also humans! Salute your efforts mate.
Time: October 7, 2014 at 2:50 am

4. Name: Ram looking for justice
Comment: DV law should gender neutral.
Time: October 7, 2014 at 7:37 am

5. Name: ramesh
Comment: I felt all the economic,physical,verbal abuse from my wife everyday in my life.
Time: October 7, 2014 at 8:19 am

6. Name: Hussein Ali
Comment: Where to start from, still paying the price of marriage, stll suffering for the crimes i did not commit. Such is the heights of frustration that I wished I had taken dowry and troubled her, atleast the pain that I am suffering could be justifiable.  Empowerment Women has robbed my life of my precious years that NOBODY WILL EVER RETURN ME. Paying Price of being Men in India.. Taliban where are you..
Time: October 7, 2014 at 11:51 am

7. Name: Avinash
Comment: Excellent poll…
Time: October 7, 2014 at 12:19 pm

8. Name: aaa
Comment: Good servey
Time: October 7, 2014 at 12:27 pm

9. Name: R S Chaudhary
Website: http://www.IISS/bhopal
Comment: Twice she registered false DVA case much long after she had left the matrimonial home without husbands fault.
Time: October 7, 2014 at 1:29 pm

10. Name: Jyoti Prakash Rath
Comment: Thanks to find ways to bring men’s problem out to society . men are harrassed ….it is difficult for majority of people to understand it .
Time: October 7, 2014 at 2:09 pm

11. Name: rakesh
Comment: I am proud to take this survey to express my feelings
Time: October 7, 2014 at 2:33 pm

12. Name: Vijay
Comment: Indian men are suffering more domestic violence from wifes.
Especially who were educated and knows the flaaws of indian laws are causing this damage.
Time: October 7, 2014 at 2:34 pm

13. Name: JB
Website: http://www.saveindianfamily.in
Comment: It is one of the most extensive and exhaustive poll which does not only helps men understand if DV happened to them, but more so makes them understand what all is DV.
Innocent Husbands (all of the Husbands) don’t even know that as per the definition of DV in India, wife demanding money again and again for illegitimate / avoidable expenses is DV on them. Husbands ignore this, Society ignores this, Courts ignore this and unfortunately, Law ignores it too.
I am hopeful that this survey will be an eye opener just not by it’s results but also by sheer reading of the queries.
Great effort.
Time: October 7, 2014 at 3:07 pm

14. Name: Biswobhusan sar
Comment: Please help, I am really in to trouble and I love my daughter who is with my wife and we are living separately, she is not interested to stay with me. Thanks.
Time: October 7, 2014 at 4:51 pm

15. Name: JB
Comment: Much needed survey. Good effort, let the truth comes under the sun.
Time: October 7, 2014 at 5:35 pm

16. Name: Anupam Dubey
Website: http://www.daman4men.in
Comment: Dear Partha, all your efforts are worth appreciating. Excellent poll
Time: October 7, 2014 at 6:08 pm

17. Name: gourab
Website: https://www.facebook.com/gourab.panda
Comment: Thanks for creating such survey!
Time: October 7, 2014 at 6:54 pm

18. Name: sk
Comment: Good one 🙂
Time: October 7, 2014 at 7:57 pm

19. Name: Vivek
Website: http://menrightsindia.net
Comment: Have put the link to survey on menrightsindia.net.  Let’s hope people fill up
Time: October 7, 2014 at 8:46 pm

20. Name: amit
Comment: I just hate my marital life i will never wish to get marry once again in my life better den marriage i would like to adopt baby
Time: October 7, 2014 at 8:26 pm

21. Name: santanu
Comment: Good poll
Time: October 7, 2014 at 8:29 pm

22. Name: JJWS
Comment: Domestic Violence by wives is the most common yet under-reported phenomenon in Indian society. It is lost in the noise of ‘women-empowerment’. Problem is the stereotypical yet grossly false imaging of wives as ‘abla naaris’ when wives have proved themselves to be diabolical and grotesque against their husbands and in-laws.
Time: October 7, 2014 at 9:28 pm

23. Name: satish
Comment: my wife and her family wuld not only insult me even my family.
For no  fault of mine.her fault i am facing 498a,dv and now divorce.on
She aborted first baby on her parents advice.when asked why?
i am facing false 498a,dv and divorce cases
Time: October 7, 2014 at 10:36 pm

24. Name: santhosh kumar
Comment: Because of her parents, especially her mother, she lost her standard livelihood and child with me and by me.
Time: October 7, 2014 at 11:54 pm

25. Name: Dr Ashwani Kumar
Comment: Nice Survey
Time: October 8, 2014 at 12:53 am

26. Name: ashish
Comment: Some of the que are irrlevant as per me. You should have included the option of in-laws too since they are play a major role
Time: October 8, 2014 at 8:33 am

Response – In-laws are not covered under our DV ACT, hence did not include.

27. Name: gursharn
Website: http://gursharn.wordpress.com
Comment: Some of the option not suitable for just one months marriage …. …. if possible add NA with all.
Time: October 8, 2014 at 9:44 am

28. Name: AMOL
Comment: This kind of survey needs to be submited with Govt
Time: October 8, 2014 at 10:19 am

29. Name: JANAK MERCHANT
Comment: There are all kinds of violence taking place on Indian men all over India. Worst is emotional and then comes financial. In the end it all boils down to wife wanting lots of hard earned money of her husband.
Time: October 8, 2014 at 2:19 pm

30. Name: Parikshit Goyal
Comment: Look forward to this poll making the spark needed to light Fire. Long awaited on continued injustice against Men. The Bias, needs to Stop. The cruelty needs to stop. The real culprits need to be punished.
Time: October 8, 2014 at 3:11 pm

31. Name: G M (Sonu)
Website: http://–
Comment: Somebody Please help, I am really in to trouble and I love my Wife , My Daughter and without my fault she left my home and she is living separately with her Parents from last eleven months i am trying to convince and requesting her to come back to our home but she is not coming, She is not interested to stay with me even she always threatens us and demanding money again and again, my wife and her family insult me  so many times In spite of that i don’t want to spoil my married life. The real culprits needs to be punished.
Time: October 8, 2014 at 4:38 pm

32. Name: sahil
Comment: Good survey
Time: October 8, 2014 at 4:57 pm

33. Name: sajan
Comment: Why domestic violence against man is not serious issue?
Time: October 8, 2014 at 5:32 pm

34. Name: Mr A sharma
Comment: options are limited in its reach to understand DV
Are u not taking opinion of men who are not battered by their wives ???
Time: October 8, 2014 at 6:38 pm

Response – In all the questions we have an option for replying in negative.

35. Name: Suresh
Comment: Thanks for conducting this survey.
Time: October 9, 2014 at 11:52 am

36. Name: Vikas
Comment: Good
Time: October 9, 2014 at 5:00 pm

37. Name: DURGA
Comment: laws MUST be gender neutral for god’s sake
Time: October 9, 2014 at 5:02 pm

38. Name: Vaddy Venkata Satish Kumar
Comment: Victim of false cases…..
Time: October 9, 2014 at 5:26 pm

39. Name: abhishek kaushik
Comment: Feeling gud be the part of this survey. This section made life hell. And still going on but I felt really bad abut mom and sis why they have been trapped into all this mess. It was  me who done the love marrige to her. I think it law should be equal for everyone.
Time: October 9, 2014 at 6:12 pm

40. Name: Partha TR
Website: http://wordkatana.blogspot.in
Comment: This poll is a path-breaker. We hope to see many more polls of this nature to let the world come out and openly admit to the fact that men are also subject to domestic violence by women
Time: October 9, 2014 at 8:54 pm

41. Name: RV
Comment: This is verbatim from various women in silicon valley :Economic abuse Very common : “My money is for vacations and shopping. His money is for family”
In fact, it is not even an abuse. It is considered ‘normal’. It happens in my own family right now (relatives). It happened on Kaun Banega Crorepati when a mom of a lady responded in a similar fashion and everyone laughed. I never thought of it as economic abuse actually. Even today, my dad thinks after losing his health to all the cases still thinks that it is ok for a wife to not contribute to household earnings.

Verbal abuse: Again, very common . Men are expected to abuse physically and women will abuse verbally and emotionally. Sitcoms joke about it. But this is now (rightly) being recognized as an abuse

Sexual: For me, it only happened once she was having an affair. Guys don’t tend to talk about it so I don’t have any anecdotal .

All of these incidents are from silicon valley with the husband and wife working in the well known companies like Google, Facebook, Cisco, LinkedIn.. There are plenty of divorces happening in these companies and extremely common in couples where both have done MBA from top universities and have no child.. Its interesting to do a demographic study.
Time: October 9, 2014 at 9:14 pm

42. Name: Hemant Dokwal
Comment: आदमी को बली का बकरा बना के रखा है। इन औरतो ने
Time: October 10, 2014 at 9:11 am

43. Name: tom
Comment: good survey , but please add NA to each question because some of them really need it
Time: October 10, 2014 at 10:46 am

44. Name: Chendu reddy
Comment: It’s hardly been 2 months since I got married, but the amount of verbal, physical and emotional torture and threatening things I went was almost going to hell everyday. My mother is a single parent and she used extensive abusive language which was unbearable.
Her mother witnessed the behaviour of her daughter, but no action took place. However they started demanding money and maintainence. Also threatening me that they will put dowry harassment case and other possible cases. I’m ready to fight against everything to ensure that such females are a disgrace to women in the society.
Time: October 10, 2014 at 12:38 pm

45. Name: Syed Fasih ahmed
Comment: Pls suggest what to do
Time: October 10, 2014 at 4:45 pm

– Please call 08882 498 498 for any help

46. Name: krishna
Comment: yes true indian innocent men  their families faceing so many prablem disgustive wives and legal systems
Time: October 10, 2014 at 7:27 pm

47. Name: Zodiac498
Website: http://zodiac498.blogspot.com
Comment: Such surveys should be promoted more among Indian men who are always taken for granted by the Govt. Such surveys are necessary at the grass root level and in collaboration with various other NGOs and Govt orgs.
Time: October 10, 2014 at 10:21 pm

48. Name: Chirag
Comment: Thanks for putting this survey.
Time: October 10, 2014 at 10:35 pm

49. Name: mrapoorna
Comment: The world created a place for women to report domestic violence but there is no forum for men to report.  In fact, men shouldn’t report domestic violence in India – He will be labeled as impotent or he need to face any/all the pink crime (section 323 to 498a).
Time: October 11, 2014 at 10:44 am

50. Name: Kiran
Comment: Please add, i dont know option, in my case i have a doubt that my wife has a extra marrital affair but not sure.
Time: October 11, 2014 at 10:46 am

Reply – You can ignore the question

51. Name: MALAY BHATTACHARYYA
Comment: I most humbly feel that laws like DV Act should be gender neutral & for 498A etc, there must be mandatory punishment for the false allegations and wrongly accused person should be monetarily compensated by the perjurer.
Time: October 11, 2014 at 2:12 pm

52. Name: Gajanfar Chamanshaikh
Comment: wife takes cover of law favourable to them in India to grab the property of husband and to enjoy the extra marital affairs threatens of consequences of law taking care of them.though husbands are in constant fear of illegal legalities.
Time: October 11, 2014 at 3:01 pm

53. Name: Venu
Comment: Good  one , thoroughly appreciated
Time: October 11, 2014 at 7:28 pm

54. Name: susinjan bhattacharya
Comment: wive centric laws has turned marriages to contractual demand of sexual service and killed the sacredness of marriage. now marriages are source of income and extortion, harrasment by wive and her blood relations. laws also permit wives safely misuse laws at husband’s workplace and damage their professional career and it is more where such bitter relations work at same place.
Time: October 11, 2014 at 8:40 pm

55. Name: Mihir P Bhatt
Comment: 1. If a wife should be earning, but if she is very selective that husband should not buy anything from her money, her money should not be spent for the household expenses. In other words, it is like that “what she is earning is her own, and what I am earning there is her share always. Her economic freedom and power of her earning are clearly visible.
2. In sexual abuse or harassment, wife may not be interested at all in intercourse. More over she may be neglecting her husband’s need knowing fully well that now a days a husband can not sho his right on her body.
Time: October 11, 2014 at 10:04 pm

56. Name: Hitbad
Comment: Good survey …Indian man is bound with marriage law.

57. Name: virendra gupta
Comment: since last 17 years i am fighting the cases and i am travelling from vadodara to ujjain my wife belongs to ujjain. i am giving 5000/- rs maintainance per month. my wife is government teacher and she is earning approx 25,000/- rs per month and because of travelling and the cases i am not be able to do any job or business. thanks
Time: October 12, 2014 at 1:27 am

58. Name: बृजेश

Email: drbrijeshbansiwal@gmail.com

Website: http://www.saveindianfamily.in

Comment: यदि आप जयपुर या उसके आस पास से है और पुरुषों की पीड़ा को समझते है और उसके प्रचार प्रसार एवं पुरुषों और उनके परिवार वालों की मदद करने की सोच रखते है तो सेव इण्डियन फैमिली आपसे निवेदन करती है की “पुरुष आयोग” की हमारी मुहीम हेतु जयपुर में साप्ताहिक बैठक की शुरुआत करे | अधिक जानकारी हेतु संपर्क करें :-

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आपकी जानकारी के लिए हम इस बैठक के उद्देश्य बताना चाहते हैं –
१. झुंटे दहेज़ प्रताड़ना IPC 498A, 323, 406, 306, 376, CrPC 125, 24HMA और घरेलु हिंसा अधिनियम से पीड़ित पुरुषों एवं उनके परिवारजनो की निस्वार्थ एवं निशुल्क मदद |
२. पुरुष आयोग की जरुरत को बढ़ावा देना |
३. सेव इन्डियन फैमिली को जयपुर में दिशा निर्देश करना |
४. अधिकारियों , मीडिया और आम जनता से वार्तालाप करना |
५. जनता को जागरूक करने हेतु समय समय पर कार्यक्रमों का संचालन करना |
६. भिन्न भिन्न क्रियाये जो समय की मांग को देखते हुए जरूरी हो |
अगर अपने आप को इस काबिल समझते है कि पुरुषों और उनके परिवारों पर हो रहे अत्याचार को जनता तक पहुंचा पायेंगे तो फिर अवश्य कॉल करे | पुरुषों के हित के लिए आगे आइये | तो इंतज़ार किस बात का – तुरंत कॉल करें |
Time: October 12, 2014 at 1:44 am

59. Name: Madhab Mitra
Comment: I am a victim of 498A
Time: October 12, 2014 at 7:01 am

60. Name: Pawan Mahla
Comment: One of the most survey… excellent.
Time: October 12, 2014 at 7:07 am

61. Name: Ahmed
Comment: Hope to raise awareness.
Time: October 12, 2014 at 9:15 am

62. Name: Harpal Singh
Comment: Its nice poll for collecting data relating to voilance against MEN, hope law makers will have a look on the results and will change to the law to make it gender neutral and having penal provisions for misusers.
Time: October 12, 2014 at 11:40 am

63. Name: ARUN KUMAR SHARMA
Comment: Nice work
it should be done clearly and constantly by other types of media and communications also.
and legal help should also be provided to the aggrieved husbands.
Time: October 12, 2014 at 3:42 pm

64. Name: xguy78
Comment: thanks
Time: October 12, 2014 at 7:58 pm

65. Name: shiv
Comment: loop sided laws,greed of money quick money by misusing law, ultimately renders women to spend their lives as spinster, the institution of marriage & the sanctity of this institution  is threatened, women need to wake up before it is too late, cause they too have brothers,law makers should wake up too as the danger is lurking in their backyard, Thanks for presenting the reality to the world,men beware! don’t get married or else be prepared to be thrown out of your own house along with your parents
Time: October 12, 2014 at 9:16 pm

66. Name: murali
Comment: Me and my wife separated from7 months,she is threatening by saying she will fail false complaints on me and my entire family
Time: October 12, 2014 at 9:32 pm

67. Name: prithvi
Comment: Laws should be change.today’s bad minded persons are misusing the laws.if this 498a and dv continue there will be no happy family in future.this is expanding like a virous and effecting base roots of family.
Time: October 12, 2014 at 11:49 pm

68. Name: Xavier
Comment: Appreciate effort being taken
Time: October 13, 2014 at 12:20 am

69. Name: S.Kumar
Comment: DV law should be gender neutral.
Time: October 13, 2014 at 12:23 am

70. Name: venkatesh
Comment: Suffer.. suffer.. suffer the mantra of bad marriage;  Till when I should be suffering like this?
Time: October 13, 2014 at 12:23 pm

71. Name: Amit Goswami
Website: https://www.facebook.com/sifjamnagar
Comment: This Is Very Useful Survey
Time: October 13, 2014 at 2:35 pm

72. Name: Sabyasachi Sengupta
Comment: For lodging false 498A case against me, my wife’s intention was to control me just like her own teddy bear. And my MIL’s intention was to make me “Ghar-Damad”. They forced me to cut-off relation with my parents and that causes to much trauma to my father that he died ( not suicide, but he left all hope to live ). Before death he wrote a note saying how my MIL is torturing my whole family. My MIL filed a false 498A case against me the next day my father died. She is an active member of “Mahila Samiti” in South Kolkata. She uses her husband as a trained dog and wants the same in our married life. After joining SIF, I got to know that I am not alone, there are lacs of husbands in India who has exactly the same story.
Time: October 13, 2014 at 3:01 pm

73. Name: sunir
Comment: pls save us (men) from these cruel species called wives.
Time: October 13, 2014 at 6:31 pm

 74. Name: Sunil Kumar
Comment: I wish if politicians could ever think that their vote bank is either ways taking a hit due to not taking an ethical step on gender biased laws.
Time: October 14, 2014 at 1:50 am

75. Name: Gladiator
Comment: It’s high time to reveal all these facts to the authorities and to break their silence in this issue. Indian politicians have one track mind and just for the sake of their vote bank they purposely ignore the facts. The time is not too far when boys will prefer not to get married …alway in India,  where the laws are extremely one sided and biased.
Time: October 14, 2014 at 7:24 am

76. Name: C.Rajesh
Comment: I suffrered lot by my wife & his family, they are balck mailing me everytime.
Myself & my family members mentally ill due her.she is telling i wont live with you
but they asking for 16 lakh as compensation.  i need help . please help me.
Time: October 14, 2014 at 8:36 am

– Please call 08882 498 498 and you will get free help by our counselors across India.

77. Name: mayank dua
Comment: A victim of all possible cases against me and my family members although me and my wife lived in different city from my parents from day 1 of my marriage becoz of our job. God help me
Time: October 14, 2014 at 3:59 pm

78. Name: Sachin
Comment: Hope to see a positive action taken to protect innocent Men from the clutches of unscrupulous women and women organisations who misuse the biased laws. Women who files false cases should be given severe punishment and should be considered as a threat to human civilisation and should be quarantined.
Time: October 14, 2014 at 4:28 pm

79. Name: madhusudhan rachakonda
Comment: help me i am thretening by my wife for false dowry harashment case call..
Time: October 14, 2014 at 5:49 pm

80. Name: sudhir pandey
Comment: i am faded up ..feel to commit suicide and need of help
Time: October 15, 2014 at 2:22 pm

Call 08882 498 498 urgently

81. Name: Mamta Gupta
Comment: इस सर्वे में हम नहीं आते हैं. फिर भी हम अपने मन की बात रखना चाहते हैं. आज हर दूसरे घर में यही समस्या है किन्तु अपनी व्यथा दूसरों से शेयर करने की लोग हिम्मत नहीं जुटा पाते. आज लड़कियों और उनके परिवारीजनों के लिए शादी जल्दी से अमीर बन जाने का धंधा बन गया है. लड़कियां संपन्न परिवारों के भोले भले युवकों को अपने जाल में फंसा कर शादी करती हैं, फिर कुछ ही दिनों में किसी भी बहाने पति और उसके परिवार को दहेज, घरेलु हिंसा जैसे केसों में फंसा कर उनकी जायदाद हडपने की कोशिश करती हैं.
इन लड़कियों के लिए घर परिवार संभालना नौकरों का काम है. ये पति से ज्यादा अपने कैरियर (की आड़ में स्वछंदता) को महत्त्व देती हैं. ये पति को ही प्यार नहीं दे सकतीं तो उसके परिवार को क्या मानेंगी ? पहले लोग चिंता करते थे कि दामाद संस्कारी हो. पर अब लोग चिंता करते हैं कि बहू संस्कारी हो.
Time: October 15, 2014 at 3:36 pm

82. Name: Anurag Goyal
Comment: I am really in a big problem just because of this biased law. I want help for my family members and for me.
Time: October 15, 2014 at 4:00 pm

83. Name: Sachin
Comment: Thanks for the survey, society marginalizes us at every step and use us to further their cause. I do not want to be used any more.
Time: October 15, 2014 at 9:47 pm

84. Name: NKJ
Comment: I am suffering from trauma after being jailed for 22 days for not being able to pay Rs. 25 lacs to my wife’s brother.
Time: October 16, 2014 at 1:46 am

85. Name: Ashish Agarwal
Comment: Have always assumed that marriage will make life happy but Now recognised that marriage is the worst decision of my life. I have cared for her & her family but they have  tried to take me under their command through false allegations. Finally they first attacked on my house & later put False 498a on me & my family. I have CCTV footage for the whole incidence. U r doing a good job by doing a survey on  domestic violence on men in India. Hope it will wake up Indian government that all men r not bad & not all women r innocent
Time: October 16, 2014 at 11:01 am

86. Name: Anand Prakash Rao
Comment: Abuse and violence by women/wife on husband has been legitimized by UN and different governments by completely ignoring it.

87. Name: sabyasachi79
Website: http://senguptasabyasachi.wordpress.com
Comment: Well, I am a member of SIF Bangalore. My wife had put a false 498A case (4 yrs before) the day my father expired, to put me, my mother and my sister in jail when we were already mentally and physically shattered. She never stayed in our house so that my mother or sister can even touch her, forget torturing. We did not ask or take any bribe in any form. My MIL wanted to make me her ghar-damad and deliberately ruined all my relations with my parents. She ( my MIL ) is an active member of Mahila Samity in Kolkata.Her Tantrik ( using whom she killed my wife’s first lover ( before marriage ) told her that her daughter will get peace only from her second husband. So she made it a pont that my marriage was just to remove the curse from my wife’s fate. I have a daughter of 7 yrs, for her I am ready to even die. SIF helped me to stand at my point and fight back real strong. I fought my own way. I wanted to pass one simple message. Even though I told all my friends and relatives about my incident and I never kept quite and let myself die, I typed my entire story and gave hard copy to everybody I know. Everybody seemed to understand and gave me suggessions. But as soon as my wifes approached apart from a few of my very close relatives, all went in her favour. God and my patience helped me to get full control on this case. But what I understood and want to share with you is…..The entire society is not yet ready to understand and feel the pain of men. Mostly it is the men who are ready to cut the branch on which they are sitting. It is us who need to change. Not “police” nor “Women Council” nor “Juridiction” nor “Politicians”. We men are still very reluctant, selfish and alligned to “Abola Nari”. Even though we know she is using us (using false cases), we are ready to fight for them. Whereas women became much smarter now-a-days. If one woman is in trouble thousands will stand with her blindly. We guys need to learn this from them. It is not bad to learn from anybody. Please Please Please feel for 65K Indian husbands who sacrifice their lives every year just to give us proof and strength to fight for us. Should we let their sacrifices go in vain just like that ? I hereby promise to save as much husbands as I can till there is gender equality in India and our mind set is changed. Are you with me ?