Yes, I have seen molestation in Bangalore

Hi,

Today, I read your article where you showed that one of the molestation complainants has changed her story. Initially she told that she was in MG Road but later claimed she was molested in Indira Nagar. It wouldn’t have made any sense to me if I hadn’t attended a Cubbon Park meeting of a group organizing a campaign called #IWillGoOut. I chanced upon their meeting on 7th January when I went to the park to meet a friend of mine.

The meeting was protest of mass molestation in Bangalore that we read in newspapers. The news enraged me the most as I was really scared of women’s safety in the city. Everyone in the meeting was talking about mass molestation but none of them seemed to have seen anything other than utter chaos. They all believed in media reports.

I found a few other guys who were there as martial arts trainers and they were training women how to crush the balls of guys next to them. In fact, I found the trainer himself was molesting the woman in guise of training and she was very happy about it. I have some photos for you taken from their video –

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Cubbon Park meeting of #IWillGoOut campaigners

His hands were going all over her body and she was happy, something I felt very weird about. I thought they were there against molestation. Other guys around seemed to be enjoying the scene. One girl was repeatedly talking about “crushing the balls’ and everyone including guys were applauding. I didn’t feel good about it.

In the meeting they spoke about women being molested in masses and how the photos depicting policewomen carrying those helpless women showed molestation. Later when I read police version I came to know that police were only rescuing drunk women.

There was a lawyer from an NGO called Vimochana. She was telling everyone how to file molestation case. She told everyone that it is very easy to file such cases and a girl just needs to prove that she was present there when the incident happened. The lawyer also told the women present there to convince passers-by that molestation happened and her job will be done. I was little confused that if getting legal recourse was so easy then why they were making a big fuss about it. Why training, talking about crushing men’s balls or a separate march on January 21st.

I was not very sure if I understood their agenda properly and as they were talking about a second meeting on 11th at Town Hall, I decided to go there.

Their Town Hall meeting was attended by several hundreds of people, both men and women. Many media houses and police personnel were also there. The same set of discussion was happening. I tried to speak with a few journalists and policemen there. Surprisingly most of them were speaking about K’halli incident as mass molestation. I was little confused as I thought mass molestation happened in MG Road. They said women go through these every day, so the march is organized.

I was more confused after attending their meetings than ever before. Then I chanced upon your article and came to know that Chaitali Wasnik has changed her story and is claiming that she was molested in Indira Nagar Area. It reminded me of what the Vimochana lawyer told in Cubbon Park. “A woman just needs to prove she was present in the location of crime”.

Believe me, I was contemplating joining the march for women safety on 21st January and be a part of #IWillGoOut, but now feel something is not quite right. When we men are going out for women’s safety, women are actually planning to kill us; when we are concerned about safety of our mothers, daughters and sisters; women lawyers are teaching them how to file cases just like that. This is really dangerous. I have seen real molesters gathering up with #IWillGoOut and openly molesting; somehow I am feeling that we are emotionally blackmailed into saving drunk and immoral women. My perspective about them has changed. This is really scary.

  • Name withheld on request

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Indian mother gives a fitting reply to Akshay Kumar and Virat Kohli’s selective humanity

jyoti-tiwariAfter the media created hysteria of mass molestation in Bangalore, celebrities like Akshay Kumar and Virat Kohli slammed Bangaloreans. Akshay Kumar in his message slammed Bangalore men for their outrageous dance and also said that he was ashamed of being a human. He said, that a society that can’t respect their women can’t be deemed as a society for humans. He also said that some men even dare to justify harassment of women. In his address he admonished them by saying they should correct their behavior without any delay.

India’s Cricket team captain Virat Kohli also joined the bandwagon of male bashers by saying that women should now boycott Indian men.

An Indian mother of a boy, Jyoti Tiwari has given them a fitting reply to both.

In her message Jyoti said that it felt very strange to her that an actor like Akshay Kumar had the audacity to give this message when the films he endorse shows high end sexism and objectification of women. These don’t have any respect woman notification in the beginning of the movie either. Telling Akshay that his remark was solely based on one isolated video, couple of eyewitness’ statements and blurred images, Jyoti reminded that the same thing happened after Badaun rape case or during Jat protests as well but no celebrity tendered any apology when those cases turned out to be false.

Bangalore molestation – primary victim changed her story

She slammed Akshay and other celebrities for their selective humanity and for no reaction when videos of male bashing by women come to the light. She reminded celebrities that none of the celebrities ever feel ashamed when men are subjected to violence by women.

She stated that the focus of celebrities like Akshay and Virat is for selling products, be it a movie or other brands they endorse. Their ads also objectify women or show how men can get women by using those products. So she felt very strange that they spoke about respecting women when they themselves don’t.

Challenging the celebrities for their mindless messages without verification of facts, Jyoti expressed her grave concerns as a mother of a boy. She reminded them that they had created a society where boys don’t get justice or share their problems and are shamed without any reason. She expressed her grave concern that if this mindless male bashing continues then boys will be depressed and eventually succumb to this mindless social pressure.

Ladies’ gang uses molest trap for cash

She also reminded both of the higher suicide rate of males compared to women and strongly criticized both for making their views without any knowledge or understanding of current social situation. She asked these celebrities to think why they don’t get angry when a man is cut in 19 pieces by a woman (16 Dec 2012, Mumbai) and why no celebrity feels ashamed to be a human then.

This message given in Hindi clearly shows the fear of a concerned mother of a son and is going viral in social media ever since it got published -.

It is pertinent to mention that ever since the media allegation of mass molestation in Bangalore there is no evidence of the crime happening en masse. One isolated video, some statements and blurred pictures were circulated to convince people about molestation happening in masses. In spite of the fact police checking 70 CCTV footages police did not find any evidence of mass molestation until the time this article was published.

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Bengaluru mass molestation: primary victim changed her story

Earlier in this article I have shown how media could not provide any credible evidence of alleged mass molestation in Bangalore. The first person who claimed molestation in her FB post had natural tendency to blow things out-of-proportion as she would “punch a man’s face with a bat” on mere receiving a friend request.

In that article I used this picture from Bangalore Mirror –

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After publishing the article I received this comment on The Male Factor (TMF) from Chaitali Wasnik –

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Around the same time she has posted on her FB wall about TMF article.

The reason we did not publish this comment earlier was because we did not believe in her story told here for following reasons –

  • The face of the girl in the picture did not match that of Chaitali Wasnik
  • Chaitali mentioned in her FB post that she was returning from office when the ordeal happened with her. There was no mention of MG Road / Brigade road area which was very natural.
  • She claimed in this comment that the guys circled (by me) were trying to hold her back while she was hitting the molester. This argument seemed vague as the circled guys are not even close to the girl. And –

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We found Barkha Dutt being her idol.

So we knew what was cooking.

In another comment she tried to justify her abusive nature towards men –

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I have never seen any other woman being so abusive on FB or blowing things out of proportion –

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Obviously she didn’t seem normal to me and I left it to police to investigate the matter and waste their time because they didn’t have a choice anyways.

The reason I am forced to write this article today is because contrary to what she wrote on 3rd Januray, now she is claiming that the incident with her happened in Indira Nagar area which is approximately 5 Km away–

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So the question is, why does she have to change the place of the incident now? Possibly because she realized that she wouldn’t be able to prove her presence in MG Road / Brigade Road area where the Mirror journalist was present and her molestation claim will fall flat easily.

Women may be able to claim molestation easily and everyone will be forced to believe that unless it is found that she was not even present in the location of the perceived crime.

If her claim was right and Mirror journo took her photo then the Mirror Journo’s version that he took the images in MG Road / Brigade Road area falls flat.

There was also a possibility that what she told us was a lie. After all, she didn’t have to tell us the truth anyways. But if that was the case, then it would prove that she can tell lies about molestation.

There is also another possibility that the comment was made by someone else and NOT by Chaitali? Then it confirms feminists’ desperation to prove Bangalore molestation. But this can be ruled out as I found the email id to be hers but the email ID is used to maintain a different FB account with another name.

Even though this photo does not prove anything, the changing storyline of Chaitali’s claim raises many questions that we need answer. I will share the IP address and email ID used to write the comments to Bengaluru Police if needed.

Today, claiming molestation is very easy, no evidence needed and if police can’t nab the culprits that becomes police’ fault. If someone raises question about the authenticity of the claim, he is attacked as a patriarch doing victim shaming. But why should we cower when we see discrepancies? After all, how long do we need to undergo this emotional blackmail in the name of safety of our mothers, sisters and daughters?

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When Om Puri stopped acting for a while

om-puri1Today the demise of veteran actor Om Puri reminded me of our team’s meet with him and his little but significant contribution towards the cause of men’s rights in India.

When I read in newspapers about Om Puri’s estranged wife filing domestic violence case against him and his statement regarding the case, what struck me was his pain which many of us share. I saw a very honest remark without any attempt at political correctness when he spoke about the case being motivated out of greed.

I was surprised that he himself attended the call when I called him. When I told him about our NGO, he seemed a little excited. He was hoping if someone could help him in his distress. I didn’t know he would need help. A veteran actor of decades as a star, a celebrity who could boast Hollywood appearances would be vulnerable and would want help that our group could offer hadn’t crossed my mind. I used to think that alpha males have it easier and could wriggle out of situations given their social status and financial clout at disposal. The meeting was fixed for the next day itself.

Before the meeting, he was unsure whether he really wanted to talk to us about his issues. We were soon seated at his home and he arrived, limping. The chance meeting the Ghashiram of Ghashiram Kotwal or Arvind Velankar from Ardh Satya would have been too unreal for me and I was not expecting that, but at least I thought couldn’t it be Inspector of Pyaar Toh Hona Hi Thaa or the rebellious Sanatan of Maachis. It was a very different Om Puri. Real life was far too cruel for him.

Our conversation began as we told him that Vaastav runs a suicide helpline for men and provide help to men in distress.

“Yesterday I was contemplating whether I should take pills or hang myself” these were the words of the veteran actor in moist eyes. I did not see a versatile actor with an enviable profile of Hollywood feats in his kitty, but I saw a vulnerable human, like countless others whom we have counseled at Vaastav Foundation. It shook me and others listening to him. For the first time he spoke with us without his façade of acting. We realized he was putting an unreal face in disguised mannerism everywhere else.

He described the issues faced by him, in his estranged marriage, few financial details, his vulnerabilities as a man, issues faced by him and what transpired, problems fighting a litigation, difficulties in handling lawyers, complexities facing the judge, vulnerabilities engaging the police. Om ji was now flowing out with his matters almost like we were his closest childhood buddies. Above all, he was concerned that his son should not misunderstand him.

He called his lawyer and spoke about us. He was extremely at peril legally in that stage and he even wanted us to meet his legal team. Then he called his psychologist. Described us as ‘very positive boys’ and repeated it multiple times. That was the time when the psychologist also seemed happy, listening to his overjoyed child like enthusiastic conversation. Those few moments of joy, were quite familiar for us. Men who think they have no support and suddenly find strength in our group have numerous times displayed it in our group meetings.

We told him about the impending International Men’s Day on 19th Nov and if he had any message for men. He readily agreed for a video –

Today, I am happy that we could offer him some solace when he was most vulnerable and needed it most. When I got in touch with him again and congratulated him for his successes in his cases he gladly accepted my wishes.

As I have observed him, he had become bitter from within. He spoke with us about what came to his mind. He also tried to make amends for his acerbic statements but misandrist society didn’t understand those. He was bullied everywhere by the misandrist society which did not see it was equal party in his bitterness and hidden anguish.

When things turn bad, alpha males have it worse, but they hide it better than the rest. That’s the lesson, Om ji taught me. I am happy that I experienced in person, when at least for some time, Om Puri had stopped acting. That was better than anything I had seen of him onscreen.

Today, on his last day, I see a wronged man, a very vulnerable one.

May his soul attain peace. #AumShanti
By Amit Deshpande

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Om Puri with the Vaastav team

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Amit Deshpande

Amit Deshpande

Amit Deshpande is the Founder-President of Vaastav Foundation. The prevailing misandry in society made him take up the cause of fight for men’s rights. He strives to highlight men’s issues which have been hitherto neglected. He appeared on TEDxTalk here.

Vaastav Foundation is an NGO working for Men’s Issues in Mumbai. It conducts weekly meetings in Borivli, Mulund and Vashi and is a part of the Men’s groups coalition in India under the banner of Save Indian Family. It runs a suicide helpline for men on 8882 498 498 where almost 100 activists from all over the country, operate the helpline round the clock.

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MRAs on Om Puri’s death

Anupam Dubey

स्वर्गीय ओम पुरी का जीवन व उनकी म्रत्यु एक ज्वलंत उदाहरण है कि कोई भी पुरुष जब अपनी टूटती हुई गृहस्थी को संभालने का प्रयास करता है और फिर भी उसे जबरन, महिलाओं के छद्म सशक्तिकरण के लिए बने कानूनों  के मुकदमों मे फंसा दिया जाता है और उसके बच्चों से भी दूर कर दिया जाता है, तो कैसे उसका जीवन अपने ही घर मे एक अजनबी कि भांति अकेला और क्रूर हो जाता है। ईश्वर  उनकी आत्मा को शांति प्रदान करे।

Amit Kumar Gupta

When going gets tough – tough gets going. At times when celebrities shy away from issues like atrocities on men, OM ji was candid to share his heart and speak for men however distressed he was. This shows true mettle of a person he was. The strength he displayed in his character was also reflected in his act and in reality when he spoke of men’s issues. He is a true inspiration for those who hide behind feminism.

Saurabh Bannerjee

It was a few years ago when I heard about problems in his marital life. I was very sad that on a mere statement of his wife he was maligned in the media so badly. I always knew he was a thorough gentleman. He proved it by fighting in difficult times and winning back hearts of others. He was and always will remain in our hearts as one of the most versatile actors.

Navneet Sahu

Om Puri didn’t die, a father died just because of a greedy and adulterous wife. Before trying to make India great, our PM should make India safe for her men.

Chetan CSK

As a man, I am deeply saddened with the news of sudden demise of Om Puri ji. He was a victim of biased legal system and society. He was paying a hefty maintenance to his wife and son. Two years ago when we met him in his residence, he was very happy that someone was there to stand for him. From Vaastav Foundation we have invited him to come to our meetings but he could not come there for his celebrity status. If he could join us, we would have saved him today. I wish we could bridge the gap and come closure in some way. RIP to the great soul.

Bangalore mass molestation – how media created stories

On the morning of 3rd January, 2017 one of my readers from a different city asked me about Bangalore’s night of shame on 31st night and my observation of the same. I was clueless about any mass molestation that could have taken place in MG Road, Brigade Road area as I opted to stay at home this year. Also I stopped following mainstream media stories after realizing how they had created false stories around Nirbhaya rape.

So to understand and to investigate into the matter I tried to search on web and in social media. The source of all news seemed to be a Bangalore Mirror article that first claimed about mass molestation of women. So I tried to read the same to understand what really happened –

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Bangalore Mirror took one full day to report such a crime or it was afterthought?

Looks like Bangalore Mirror’s Swamyji didn’t realize until 2nd January that there was such a grave crime committed in Bangalore. He thought his images would be convincing enough for the world to believe in his words.

So I started investigating the images that the article shared. Since some of the images on the article is now covered by ads due to this article going viral, I have sourced those images from other news sites –

The most discussed image to prove molestation happened media showed this image –

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This image was shown as a woman being groped. Except her facial expression we don’t see anything and if her facial expression could prove anything of molestation then the two irritated men circled by me also shows to be raped. I am not sure how Bangalore Mirror could show that image as molestation, unless being surrounded by men (and we don’t know if they were known) is molestation for women.

Given below is the second image in the article but I have taken it from India Today News for clarity.

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This image also does not show any molestation unless men looking at women is considered as molestation. It is only on journalist’s imagination to find out molestation here.

The image below shows a woman being rescued by a police woman and another woman is with another man who looks like her boy-friend and media captioned this as “Bengaluru Molestation” –

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The reason the guy looks like her boy-friend or husband is because she is also hugging that man closely. I guess no woman will clutch on to their molesters like the one shown here.

So the question is, is the drunken girl who is visibly in no condition to walk was molested? Clearly men didn’t come forward to help her (could be a possible feminist reason to bash insensitive men if this story was not about molestation) and here the police woman just could be taking her to a place where she could rest. From no angle we can see molestation here, neither does this photo suggest any.

Given below is another photo where a woman is helped to walk and no molester in sight. Anyone who ever went to such crowded New Year Eve parties would have noticed how women get tipsy over small drink or behave that way.

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So helping someone walk or rescuing a woman become evidence of molestation here in the lens of Swamyji.

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The above picture shows a man rescuing a woman and not many people around. This could be they were trying to avoid crowd unless the man himself is shown as molester here. However, this picture does not show anything like that.

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In the image below too we find a group of men and woman walking. None of the woman seems to be disturbed but still it is shown as an image of molestation and women safety issue.

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Now let’s come to these two epic images that even in your wildest imagination you can’t think of anything wrong happening to women.

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In the first image of three men, one Punjabi man is helped by his friends to stand. Visibly he may be drunk heavily but with no woman around it is unlikely these three men were molesting someone.

In the second image there is only one worried man whom the girls are not even noticing. But the creative Bangalore Mirror journalists found a molester somewhere. Surprisingly, the only man (who could be possible molester per the media) in this second image looks more worried than the women.

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In the image above, also shown by Bangalore Mirror and all the leading Indian and Global media we see the crowd is being dispelled by police. The people seem to walk calmly and we find girls talking to each other. The boys around the girls look like walking in a group and no way look like molesting the girls. The man who looks scared of the policeman is far from any molestation unless the photographer could read his mind beforehand that he was about to pounce on the girls.

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The above image is also shown as prove of molestation where we clearly see two guys taking their girl- friends along.  Visibly the girls are not hitting out to these boys and they can’t be molesting the girls while seeming like taking care of them.

The Guardian reported this to prove mass molestation based on a woman’s FB post –

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Surprisingly everyone is supposed to believe her statement especially when on merely getting FB friend request she can “punch the guy’s face with a bat

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Her other Facebook posts also portray her to naturally abusive and it is a surprise to see that media like The Guardian promoted her FB post to prove a story that happened elsewhere.

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When I failed to see anything beyond mass gathering and unrest thereof, I tried to find out the videos posted by mainstream media or individuals on NYE parties in Bangalore. Surprisingly all videos contained the same images to prove molestation as given in Bangalore Mirror.

Then I saw tweet froom Bangalore’s Police Commissioner that if complaint is raised by anyone they will take action –

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So that clarified that until 2nd January evening 8:50 PM IST there was no complaint filed by anyone including those journalists who were showing us their story of supposed molestation. This also included women helpline numbers.

The Logical Indian came out with a story on this matter as well but only after two full days. In the article they claimed to have spoken with one of the victims and her story is not worth believing too. Per The Logical Indian article this girl was in a group of seven when she was molested by a stranger. Then other six surrounded her. Still she was groped by another stranger and she chased him. Surprisingly, when her friends were surrounding her they could realize all these happened. A Story very difficult to believe by commoners.

Also the question arises, how could The Logical Indian team meet a victim. The article does not say the victim contacted Logical Indian, it says The Logical Indian met the victim. It is not possible unless TLI was present at the molestation place. Again, when her own friends didn’t realize what happened, it is only idiotic to think someone else will realize that.

Finally the golden words from the editor in chief of The News Minute. She examined the CCTV evidences and still there was no evidence found –

There is no denying that on every NYE, MG Road, Brigade Road areas in Bangalore see mass gathering of unruly people. The celebration turns wild. So much that three years ago when I went there for first time, I decided not to go there again for my safety reasons. Anyone who visits such places need to remember that pushing, shoving, random comments etc would happen. One random drunk woman tried to hug me and wish Happy New Year. There were women throwing flying kisses to random guys or hugging strangers. Only when it is done by women it is not considered as groping or molestation, else media is there to create such stories. It is like Times of India creating their own campaign that the juvenile was most criminal and everyone believed that even though that was media imagination.

Addition on 4th Jan 7:38 PM IST

And after examining the CCTV footage the Bangalore police chief says this –

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One word of Caution

Recently there is a video of molestation came up from Kamanahalli. It shows a woman being manhandled in deserted streets in the wee hours at night. The video does not show mass molestation in MG Road as projected by the media but is being used by everyone to prove what media said. This is indeed shameful for us as men are being stereotyped by such campaigns without any evidence. Our urge as always is let the police take action if there is evidence but the initial evidences shown by Mirror does not show anything.

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Movie Review – Assassin’s Creed

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Can we end all violence? Maneka Gandhi, India’s Minister for Women and Child Development (I have stopped putting Honorable before that ministry, as that has lost credibility and constitutional validity to exist) may disagree as she thinks all violence is male generated and as long as males exist in this world, violence will also exist but Scientist Dr. Sophia Rikkin of Abstergo Industries think otherwise. Her research dedicated to end all violence was on ending violence using science. She explained her idea somewhat like this in the movie –

we have tried to end violence through politics, religion, consumerism but not succeeded, now we want to end violence using science”.

Abstergo a modern day incarnation of the Templar Order, gets funding in Billions for this project. Sophia, their lead scientist thinks that the first sign of disobedience in humans started with eating the forbidden Apple of Eden (and that makes Eve the first disobedient person on earth). If humans didn’t eat the apple, they would have been obedient and free.

The forbidden apple was last known to be safeguarded by a secret creed called ‘The Assassins’ that for centuries had opposed the Templar Order. Sophia’s research was to find the apple and end the root of all problems and end all violence (probably Maneka Gandhi will try to end male genes for).

The movie based on a video game series is an extraordinary work of special effects and fight sequences. Even Rajnikant fans will be amazed to see the stunts shown that could be performed someone other than the great Rajni sir. Oscar nominate Michael Fassbender as the lead character Callum Lynch was outstanding and can shame Bollywood star Salman Khan as he was shirtless in more than half of the movie.

The movie was recreation of memories from 1492 through a modern day machine that could take Callum back in the memory of his ancestor Aguilar de Nerha in 1492 Spain and trace the memories to trace the apple. In this process of retrieving memories, there were violence and dream escapes with best of Hollywood mastery all over.

Finally, with a lot of action the original apple was traced back to the tomb of Christopher Columbus. Rikkin presented it at the Templars’ elders meeting in London. But The Assassins strike The Templars sanctuary and retrieved the apple and escaped in another action packed sequence.

The main attraction of the movie can be only enjoyed in 3D and thus one need to visit nearest theaters to watch the special effect. The special effects and the action sequences can be a real treat to one’s eyes.

While this movie is a sure treat for action and fiction lovers, this also raises some serious questions. If at all violence is curbed, will that be good for mankind? What if all of us submit to eternal obedience of a superpower? Modern man is happy with consumerism, they don’t bother about being in modern day slavery of capitalism too. Their rights are taken away slowly and they are dumped into eternal slavery by a few who control power. As Abstergo bosses might want to control all resources through this obedience. Their goal of ending all violence was to be able to control resources without any disobedience from anyone.

While this may give some unabated power, majority will be in bliss of eternal slavery.

In this aspect, Sophia’s words that “we all behave the way we do is because of morality or law” in thought provoking. Both are enforced by a few. If we were really free then the world would have been a completely different place to live in.

Even though all through the movie I was wondering if Adam and Eve really eat the apple, then how could someone retrieve it today even in imagination. Whatever may be the answer, feminists will surely be enraged with the analogy that the first signs of disobedience was shown by a woman Eve (by eating the Apple first). Thus, to the disappointment of women like Maneka who believed men are the root cause of all violence, it seems that it is indeed women who are the root cause of all violence. Movie Assassin’s Creed prove it once again.

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Here are the safeguards implemented by GOI to keep fraudsters away from matrimonial websites

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Fraudsters can no longer trick alliance seekers on matrimonial websites as new advisory implemented by GOI from June 2016 proposes stricter measures for the matrimonial websites and matrimonial mobile apps.

Here is the advisory in brief that takes a step closure to ensure safety of marriage prospects –

  1. A user agreements in accordance with The Information Technology (Intermediaries Guidelines) Rules 2011. This will clearly seek agreement of the user like –
    • Confirmation that the user wants matrimonial relation and wants to take it further
    • Confirmation that user information provided on the site is correct to the best of his / her knowledge
  2. A Privacy Policy with clear statements of protection of personal information
  3. Matrimonial websites to verify each users profile information by registering his / her mobile number
  4. Matrimonial websites should strongly solicit submission of one’s identification documents with the site.
  5. Matrimonial websites should clearly state that the website is only for matrimonial purpose and not for dating services.
  6. Matrimonial websites should get national / international data security standard certifications (e.g. IS/ISO/IEC 27000).
  7. Matrimonial websites to prominently display and send regular communication about  –
    • Terms and Conditions agreed by the user
    • Specify that unless specifically stated on the website, no information of any user’s profile is verified and should be checked thoroughly by the alliance seeker
    • Caution users about possible fraudsters on the site who ask for money, favours or about such fraudsters as reported to the website
    • Encourage registered users to report any fraudster to the matrimonial website and to the law enforcing agencies
    • Other Safety Tips as appropriate
  8. Matrimonial websites shall publish the name of Grievance Officer and contact details along with complaint redressal mechanism
  9. All matrimonial websites to develop FAQ to help users
  10. Matrimonial websites should store the IP addresses of profile creation and access logs with date and time stamping. This information needs to be stored until one year of account deactivation.

We hope that now fraudsters will stay away from matrimonial websites.

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This is how a Norwegian comedian exposed feminist gender specialists and proved them idiots

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Herald Eia a Norwegian comedian who exposed feminist gender experts by his documentary called “Brainwash”

Feminist gender theories of equality emanating from gender studies specialists in Nordic countries (that are top rankers in gender equality) were stripped to reality when a Norwegian comedian Herald Eia asked them a few simple questions. So much that Nordic council of ministers have later decided to defund this university.

Eia filmed a documentary where he tried to understand the answers of a few questions related to gender issues. He found that even in #1 egalitarian country Norway there existed a disparity in terms of choice of jobs. To show that, he first went to a Norwegian construction company and found only 10% female engineers there. Then he went to a hospital where all staff nurses were females. There were no male nurses. Norway was #1 in gender equality in 2008 and had been a top ranker in terms of gender equality ever since.  Even there these jobs were not shared. In fact, a report stated that almost 90% nurses in Norway were females. The ratio of genders in certain jobs in Norway was found to be stable since 1980. (it is called Norwegian Gender Equality Paradox).

Eia asked about this gender divide in jobs to Norwegian Equal Opportunities Commissioner Kristin Mile. She admitted that govt. efforts could get one / two year effect after which the ratio falls down. Former cabinet minister Huitfeldt said – “girls do better in school in all subjects except Physical Education”.

So, why less women were found in technical fields in the most egalitarian country?

Some women he interviewed mentioned that technical jobs were boring.

Camilla Schreiner, who studied trend of girls’ technical education in 20 countries found that Girls in less egalitarian countries were more interested in technical education. Camilla had taken a survey with a set of 108 questions and the she didn’t find any equality in job interests in most egalitarian nations. In fact, she found that the more modern a country was, more was the divide in job selection.

Some common women that Eia surveyed believed that it’s always been a woman’s job to take care of children. Some believed that it was human genes to select and like jobs. Some believed the two genders to be different. Feminists however believed that this was because of Social and Cultural training of human brains.

Eia then visited Catherine Egeland at Work Research Institute to understand the gender preferences of job selection. Catherine has written several books of job preferences by the genders.

Catherine didn’t think there was any difference in brains of two genders at all and thought that studying brain difference in genders was irrelevant when trying to understand their different behavior.

Another Nordic gender researcher Joergen Lorentzen at the Center of Interdisciplinary Gender Research at Oslo University thought the study of brain difference was “Old fashioned” research. He mentioned that most researches on studies on brain differences had been refuted later. He also confirmed that only gender difference that existed was in outer signs of gender and innate traits like Intelligence, capacity etc. of the genders were in fact identical.

Joergen said that it was about social reinforcement of gender roles that made the two genders choose different jobs. Martin Aurdal, Columnist said gender reinforcement by society happened from childhood that leads to different job choices.

So Eia went back to his mom and to his daughters to understand about the social reinforcement of gender roles and to understand if his mom treated him as a “tough little guy” from childhood or if he was discriminating against his daughters. He found that none were true.

Feminist gender specialists always talk about sexism in toys, TV shows, videos etc. to reinforce gender roles in humans. To examine the same Eia asked a few male toddlers if they wanted to play with girls’ toys and found none of them to be interested in female toys.

Feminist gender researchers like Jorgen believed that there was no limit to the extent a child could be moulded through social conditioning that led to such toddler toy preference.

To understand this, Eia then visited Richard Lippa, Professor of Psychology, California State University. Lippa had conducted a study on job preferences in 53 countries. He got over 200,000 responses from those countries. He found that men were more interested in thing oriented occupations and women are more interested in people oriented occupations. He found the trend to be same in ALL 53 countries. So he concluded that the job preferences is linked to human biology.

To understand social conditioning and to understand how early we can find gender differences, Eia then visited Professor Trond Diseth at the National Hospital Department of child Psychiatry.

In their experiment, Professor Diseth and his team had designed 10 different toys – four feminine toys, four masculine toys and two neutral toys. 10 toys were placed in a particular pattern and toddlers are sent there without anyone else being around. The entire experiment was monitored through CCTV cameras and there was clear differences found in toy selection among healthy boys and healthy girls starting from age of nine months. Male toddlers chose masculine toys while baby girls chose feminine toys. Dr. Diseth thus concluded that – “children are borne with clear biological disposition as far as gender identity and behavior is concerned, then environmental influences either increases or decreases that behavior”. Diseth also confirmed that he had done a lot of research through several years to prove that gender differences exist from early ages.

Simon Baron-Cohen is a British professor of psychiatry at Trinity College in Cambridge was a distinguished researcher for Autism and he discovered some distinct gender differences through his studies. Eia visited Prof Cohen to understand his findings about gender differences.

Professor Cohen designed two types of objects, one mechanical type and the other was a human face. He found that even one day old babies had gender differences as his study showed that more boys looked longer at the mechanical objects and more girls looked longer at the face. Professor Cohen also explained that this difference in gender behavior was because boys and girls produce different amounts of testosterone. This hormone determines how their brains develop. Boys produce ~double the amount of testosterone”, he said.

Prof Cohen also elaborated that as a part of his research he studied the testosterone level of babies at pre-natal stage and found that higher the amount of testosterone in pre-natal stage of a baby, they were likely to –

  1. Slower to develop language
  2. Make less eye contact

He concluded that more Testosterone leads to slower language development and slower social development. He also told that girls with higher testosterone level shows masculine toy preferences. Prof Cohen studied these children till 8 years of their age and found that they were less on empathy, less on recognizing other people’s emotions, or taking someone else’s perspective. But they had more interest in systems and how things worked.

Evolutionary Psychologist Prof Ann Campbell of Durham, Northern UK explained to Eia the differences in X and Y chromosomes and why they carried the respective characteristics genes. Campbell believed in Darwin’s evolution theory and process of selection of better genes for survival.

Campbell also explained that if women needed to carry children and raise them and if there were some psychological traits that could help them achieve that easier, then human evolution had sustained that trait as well.  So women naturally developed qualities of empathy, avoiding confrontation, avoiding social exclusions etc.

Ann explained that today’s women are more oriented towards other people than men. She said, gender typical behavior is observed more when one is put under severe stress. Women under severe stress want to be with other people whereas men typically choose to be alone. She explained, that this social behavior of women makes them comfortable with professions like nursing, teaching, social work etc.

But if gender difference is in our genes then why do more girls in less egalitarian countries like India want to study Technology?  This is because with equal opportunities both genders show typical gender behavior without any restraint whereas in poor countries like they are forced to choose whatever they get easily and whatever can give them money.

Ann also explained that if evolution had changed our body and reproductive systems, it was highly unlikely that it didn’t change our brains that controls everything.

When Eia confronted the feminist gender champions with the scientific research on gender differences, Norwegian feminists say that they had theoretical belief in what they proclaimed to be gender equality. Feminist champions of gender studies spoke only about their hypothesis on gender equality while refuting scientific research by biologists and evolutionary psychologists of The US and The UK.

In short, this simple yet powerful documentary by Norwegian Comedian Herald Eia exposed feminist gender studies experts. It showed irrelevance and stupidity of the Norwegian policy influencers that were sucking Nordic funds for years and leading the nation to a fools’ paradise. Once exposed, a group of Nordic ministers have decide to end funding for the NIKK gender studies department that was at the forefront of creating various policies in Norway since 1970s. This led to closure of the institute but it has reopened later with a different name (Nordic Information of Gender Knowledge).

Nevertheless, the efforts of Herald Eia in exposing feminist stupidity is commendable and we salute him for enlightening us about critical gender issues.

See his original documentary here –

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Feminists wanted to use sex to manipulate US election results, this is what happened

Feminists use sex as the biggest bait to win all debates, arguments, favors, benefits, laws and resources in the world. They win most of the time unless it was US election, 2016.

The campaign named #VoteTrumpGetDumped called for everyone to dump Trump supporters and deny sex with them.

The Change.org petition created by feminists clearly said –

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This tried and true tradition of influence worked for the Greeks and women during the temperance movement in the United States. We’re employing those same tactics in 2016 for an election that will shape history.

We believe that women are more than an interest group – women are the majority of Americans. As such, we deserve a candidate that represents us – not one who objectifies, uses, or belittles us.

Donald Trump is unsuitable to represent the majority of Americans – women.

We are a movement of women who have committed to use our influence with our vote, our voice, and our… influence to stop Donald Trump.”

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In the countries where women are less in number (like India), feminists employ same tactics to gain sympathy as minority and weaker gender. In countries where they are more in number, they want to control everything and that once again exposed the reality of feminism.

So feminists clearly wanted to control the election results by their body – like always this was another cheap feminist strategy reducing women’s identity to their genitals.

Not only this petition has failed miserably and received only 352 supporters until this article was written, but also got royal bashing from general public and their answers have been eye opener for everyone.

This comment by Michael Brewer of CA posted after a few days of this petition going live received maximum votes –

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This comment that received second highest voting came from a male feminist and was quiet shocking –

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However there were some desperate male feminists like this man as well –

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Clearly men like John is the reason why feminists can use sex as bait to get their work done from any man, without any problem.

Trump supporters like this voted for a reason –

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Some men spoke about purging defective feminist genes in this way and that was surely a shocker for feminists –

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Clearly Trump supporters used the same feminist logic to their advantage.

People were both funny and angry at this new feminist propaganda to use their bodies to manipulate election results –

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These comments made us LOL –

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These messages would have showed mirror to feminists

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The tactics that feminists covertly use to get all benefits did not work out this time. Clearly feminists are exposed, globally.

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Nirbhaya – Imaginary media stories created terror

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On the morning of December 17, 2012, reports began to filter into Delhi’s newsrooms of a rape that had taken place in the city. Police officers, the main source of information for these types of stories, told journalists that a student in her 20s and her male companion had been attacked by a group of men inside a moving bus before being thrown from the vehicle. The girl was said to have been gang raped.” (emphasis added)

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Writes Joanna Jolly, South Asia editor of BBC and former Harvard Joan Shorenstein Fellow in her research paper titled “Rape Culture in India: The Role of the English-Language Press”.

Joanna has been doing a research on sensationalizing of Indian rape by English Language media and found premier Indian media like Times of India and India Today has written a lot of imaginary stories related to the December 2012 Delhi gangrape.

So the initial police information of gangrape in a moving bus gradually given a gory picture by media. Per her research, for the editor of Times of India, three facts stood out when the reports of this rape first came to Times house (comments in braces added)–

  1. The girl was a student (young in ‘20s, so we know why media is behind proving young women as saints)
  2. She had been to an upmarket mall (shows independence) and
  3. She went to watch an English Language Film – “Life of Pie” (shows she was educated)

Jo found that India’s English Language newspapers thrive because of ever growing English speaking population and details out how media chooses to select rape cases in the first place.

After talking to different editors and journalists Joanna found that the Delhi Physiotherapy student’s case had three important parameters to be selected as a trigger event –

  1. She was perceived to be from the right class (which was not true but media perceived like that because she went to see an English Language film to an upmarket Delhi mall)
  2. She was perceived to be blameless for the crime, and
  3. She was raped by the strangers

Joanna further detailed out how media selects rape cases with a concept known as PLU or ‘People Like Us”. India’s English language papers are predominant with upper class educated masses and they chose cases where the victims and attackers could be related to the press workers or the readers. The reason Dec, 2012 case fit in there was initially media thought she was a medical student so media thought she was from upper / middle class family (she was actually a physiotherapy student), she was from well to do family (actually she belonged to a lower middle class family) and she had a modern social life (because she went to see an English movie in an upmarket mall).

Media later did find out that she didn’t belong to the PLU category but by that time the story was unstoppable. In fact, in her interview with Manoj Mitta former TOI editor, Manoj referred to Nirbhaya as PLT (People Like Them). The category that does not get much coverage from English Language media in India.

Also to note, that it is same English language press in India that decides on what should be reported and what not. Hartosh Singh Bal, editor of Caravan told her the same. So it is imperative for the English Language media to be responsible. However, the important factor as evident from Jo’s research that worked in favour of the story was “Stranger Rape”. Joanna describes this as following –

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One of the key reasons this case caught the public imagination was because she was raped by strangers. Her attack confirms the universally popular, horror-story narrative that the biggest danger for a woman comes from leaving her home and social circle and entering a world of unknown men. This narrative persists in India, despite National Crime Record Bureau figures that consistently show that around 90 percent of rapes are committed by perpetrators known to the victim, such as partners, family members, neighbors and work colleagues.” (name of victim removed from the narrative)

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If we recall the facts after Dec 2012, Delhi gangrape it was English language media (both print and electronic media) showed Indian cities and particularly Delhi as unsafe for women. Any comment made to women were shown as there harassment and potential threat. One English media channel ran a campaign where the female reporter were going to places and showing on camera how women were being harassed that no one understood anything about but still the craze of India’s Damini made them believe the paid media lies. So it was English language media that had to continuously sustain the terror to fuel the news.

Coupled with this was coverage from international media that showed India as rape capital of the world based on stories created by global press. Joanna found that the sensational aspects of the case like gang rape, sodomizing by six men, attack by iron rod or pulling out intestine got more coverage to sensationalize the case. Joanna said – “In some cases journalists took information from leaked police reports, and used these as the basis for highly imaginative reporting.”

In this respect she mentioned this India Today report that was imaginative from the perspective of one of the accused –

The high point of his life was when he thrust his tightly clenched right fist into the womb of the bruised and battered 23-year-old on the night of December 16. Nothing beat the excitement he felt when he heard her muzzled screams, saw her writhe in extreme pain and watched the blood spurting from her young body.” –

Clearly this was purely imaginative and without any basis. Here the India Today journalist just written another porn story based on imagination that he was sure to have well taken by his readers without raising the following pertinent questions –

  1. How can one insert one fist in a young woman’s vagina? Is it physically possible?
  2. How did the journalist know about the feeling of the accused? Or
  3. When media also reported about inserting iron rod and then fist, how was the victim still surviving?
  4. Why so much emphasis on her being “23 year old” or being “young”?

As Manoj Mitta told Joanna – “The story was inherently sensational and the coverage was driven by the conviction that people were very curious to know about it and there was competition with other newspapers,

So in a competition to sell more papers Indian English newspapers created more porn stories. No wonder why TOI or India Today banked heavily on her being young and tinkering their readers with the thought of a young woman’s body, which in a way was another rape of the victim by so called feminist media who were out there to save her dignity.

Former Tehelka editor Revati Laul explained these porn stories by media like this – “All our reporting has become more tabloid across the board. So we’ve become voyeurs who are like T.S. Eliot’s The Hollow Men – with heads full of straw,”

So it is the media and especifically English language media and the so called elite class is creating these voyeurs through their reporting.

What is surprising is the fact the Dec 16, Delhi victim’s close relatives and family members were also against publishing these gory details by media. In an interview with The Indian Express via phone they expressed the feeling as mentioned in Joanna’s research – “they thought their daughter might live to witness it”

This feeling expressed by the physiotherapy student’s family members raise another question – Whether the attack was really so serious and gory (inserting iron rod / fist, pulling out intestines etc.) that she could survive the attack? Already questions arise because immediately after their rescues the girl gave statement to police. How could someone who was found in extremely battered condition and was in a vegetative state give her statement to police?

A research by Daniel Drache and Jennifer Velagic of York University on reporting of December 2012 Delhi gangrape by English language Indian newspapers found that reporting of the crime was as outcome of lust rather than force.

So Dec 2012 gangrape has generated certain keywords in crime reporting industry. These are catchphrsaes as mentioned in Jo’s paper. Words like “Juvenile”, “Nirbhaya”, “Damini”, “Gang rape” started to be used increasingly and it was also found that their searches have increased too.

Joanna also spoke about India’s patriarchy and demanded that even worthless and most ignorant men get more value because of India’s patriarchy. I am not sure how did she get this comment and would like to know more on this with examples. I am sure if she is holding such a prestigious BBC post and a fellow from a coveted institute, she would be able to give some examples.

The most vicious and worrisome discovery in Joanna’s study was the Times of India campaign to lower the age of criminal responsibility. She mentioned that TOI created and run a campaign that the “Juvenile” in Nirbhaya case was most criminal. Smriti Singh who was following the story as legal reporter for The Times observed –

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Suddenly out of the blue, one report came in one newspaper which said the police had claimed the juvenile was the most brutal of the accused…. So it was a gospel truth. No one questioned it, how it came about, whether the police had said it or not, whether it was the reporter’s figment of their imagination.”

Smriti Singh, legal reporter The Times

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From Joanna Jolly’s research paper on Dec 2012, Delhi gangrape

This was same the observation of Indian MRAs as well. Media has created many stories out of the blue but when Indian MRAs tried to tell the same as false they were viciously attacked by everyone in all forums. Only the MRAs with strongest conviction to save the future generation and juveniles could survive the constant threat of murder, battering and abuses by feminists. Many MRAs like me have lost their friends, supports but stood taller in the times of emergency that has later taken away right to peaceful existence from our juveniles with amendments to JJ Act.

Because TOI had an agenda to show that Indian juveniles (only boys) have become cruel they did not publicize the news that the Juvenile in Nirbhaya case was actually NOT most cruel. Avanti Singh, a TOI reporter told Joanna about the hardships she had faced for publishing the news that the juvenile was NOT most cruel because TOI management had their agenda and did not want to publish the same. Later they published it with a question mark diluting the news.

Ex Times of India editor Manoj Mitta, who wanted to correct some of those stories published by TOI without verifying the facts was also gagged. As mentioned in Joanna’s paper, Manoj was told by editors – “we have taken an editorial stand on the subject. We can’t afford to confuse our readers”.

This is the reason when JJ Act amendment was passed in 2015, Times of India celebrated that as their victory with the news – “Now, 16-18-yr-olds won’t get off lightly for serious crimes.”

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How TOI celebrated after their campaign of lies that Juvenile was most criminal

So, it is evident that salacious and baseless stories that can be categorized only as porn stories published by leading Indian media like Times of India and India Today have shaped India’s future. Leslee Udwin was another such criminal who created a scripted (read this) documentary. She paid Mukesh to say certain things and filmed that in the name of exposing the “rape culture” in India. The movie was named India’s Daughter to give it a perspective that daughters in India are looked down upon and has no security. Leslee paid Mukesh Rs. 20,000 and it was evident from the video that he was speaking from a script. Many words used by him, were not supposed to be known by an illiterate  person like him and are used by feminists to describe India’s patriarchy and mindset of Indian men. That is the way BBC created another salacious porn around Dec 2012, Delhi gang rape.

So what happens when people trust media blindly without knowing these insider information? They get rewarded like the amendment of JJ ACT that now makes a 16 year old boy a rapist even when a 30 year old woman forces herself upon him. That is the future of our boys who will now be easily termed as rapists thanks to the baseless porn stories created by English language elite Indian media.

Joanna Jolly’s complete research can be found by clicking the image below –

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