Why are more number of Indian men not marrying or not finding enough reasons to get married. The reason is not only of misuse of family laws but there are other prominent reasons of this marriage strike. They are –
1. Law Misuse –
2. Women do not have any responsibility in families –
Believe it or not, in the name of equality today women have only rights that even men do not have. In the name of sexual independence, women can sleep around with many men without being held responsible for anything. She can decide to carry someone else’s child and still get maintenance for both. However, even the most caring husband can be branded as a criminal on break up.
3. Married men have no choice –
Married men can’t even decide what they should wear in a party or what they should watch on TV or where they should invest their own money. Women influences most of the decisions at home even if that is executed by the man. Many men opt to hand over their salary to their wives but whatever women earn remains theirs.
4. Giving gift is a never ending process –
There is no dearth of events to celebrate in today’s happening lifestyle. Be it her birthday or her pet’s, all gifts given becomes her property but doesn’t guarantee her satisfaction. Choice of the gift very often becomes a problem, either it becomes money waste or a miserly choice. However, not giving a gift or forgetting an occasion certainly creates dissatisfaction.
5. All gifts given to her becomes her istridhan while gifts given to him becomes dowry –
Blame it on skewed definition of dowry in Indian legal parlance. Giving any kind of gift to her is clearly a loss to the husband. While his money goes, on any future problem that becomes included in istridhan list. Forcing husband to lose. Anything given by her to the husband gets included in the dowry list for future recovery by police. On non-recovery of these items the husband may be forced to pay up, resulting in his double loss.
6. Husband don’t get sex when he wants, can’t deny when she wants –
7. Husband is only a sperm donor, child goes to the mother –
According to Hindu laws, a father is natural guardian of the child. Haha.. Not any more, he only pays maintenance and fight for a visitation right for two hours every alternate week while providing all luxuries to them. In the meantime, while the child learns about his father’s cruel nature from the mother, the father can commit suicide in depression after their separation. That only adds to India’s farmer suicide stats and some MRAs get balder thinking about how to prevent suicide.
8. Husband loses his relations while she carries hers –
They may stay in his house, but what matters after marriage is how he takes care of her family. Else problem starts. Some men end up paying reverse dowry to keep their marriage intact. While men are forced to leave their relations, women don’t or sometime they get their parents to their matrimonial home.
9. Why should husband share his ancestral property with her? –
Men getting married automatically takes oath of maintaining their wives for life. So no matter what happens after marriage she enjoys free lunch throughout. After amendment of Hindu succession act and HAMA now it is also his family’s responsibility to maintain her. Courts give such orders in DV Act as well.
10. Women suffer from more ailments, need more expenses for fashion and beauty. Unnecessary expenditure for men –
Most of the women suffer more ailments, be it depression, anemia, low bone density, breast cancer, hyper anxiety, obesity or menstrual issues. All they bring to a man is unnecessary list of expenditure for their whole life. When women refuse to take any responsibility in family then this expenditure becomes too heavy for men.
11. More than half the women are unattractive –
There is a dearth of female beauties. Especially when men starts looking at female beauty along with their skills. Traditionally, men were satisfied with only women’s physical beauty, but as women started claiming everything as their right and started questioning all their responsibilities as oppression, men have evolved to expect equally or more qualified women as partners. They don’t find any random female beauty as good enough for being their partner. As men’s choices evolve, they don’t find women attractive any more. More empowered women come out to be rude or intimidating for men, thus men avoid them. Men who respect women too much can’t think of mating with them. They fail in their marriages.
12. Free sex more costlier and un-eventful than paid sex –
With so many conditions, dangers and uncertainties ahead in free sex (marriage); the paid sex becomes more attractive and cheaper with more available varieties in different shapes and sizes. At least men do not need to commit suicide when the he relation is lost. They can always get a better one.