Most of us, Hindus who get married by traditional Hindu rituals by pronouncing some Sanskrit Slokas don’t even know the vows we take during our marriage. We take saat phera or seven rounds around the Agni (fire) and take some vows that make us husband and wife. These are the vows that bind our relationship in the form of religious binding that is also legal. Here the god Agni (Fire) is considered as the witness of our vows and hence the bond becomes a holy one. It is important that as Hindus we know these vows –
Phera 1 – To nourish each other
Bridegroom’s vow – I will love, cherish and provide for you and our children. You will support me and offer me food.
Bride’s vow – I will honour my husband. I take upon myself the responsibilities of the house and children.
Phera 2 – To grow together in strength
Bridegroom’s vow- I will support my wife forever. Together we will defend our family and home.
Bride’s vow- I will stand side by side with my husband in protecting our family and home.
Phera 3 – To preserve a couple’s wealth
Bridegroom’s vow- I promise to work for the prosperity of the family. I will be faithful to my wife and will lead a spiritual life.
Bride’s vow- I will be faithful to my husband and will support him
Phera 4 – To share their joys and sorrows
Bridegroom’s vow – I declare my good fortune at marrying my wife. I pray for a happy life and good children.
Bride’s vow- I will do my best to please my husband.
Phera 5 – To care for children and parents
Bridegroom’s vow- I pray for happiness and well being of our family.
Bride’s vow- I will trust and honour you. I will be with you always.
Phera 6 – To be together forever
Bridegroom’s vow- May we be together forever
Bride’s vow- I will always be with you in all your endeavours.
Phera 7 – To remain friends, forever
Bridegroom’s vow- With this last phera (round), we belong to each other forever
Bride’s vow- I am delighted to be your wife. May we be together forever.
…..and thus we marry wanting everything from life.
…..and get divorced after a few months over trivial disputes. We realize actually we didn’t want this marriage. We lose all expectations and become close to wanting nothing from life.
Additionally Indian govt. is bringing the amendment to Hindu Marriage Law to rob the husbands of their inherited, inheritable property in the event of a divorce. Our Govt., too want to stop Hindus from getting married.
Then the question remains? Why marry?
When marriages itself are not desired, then why bother about pre-marital sex or lack of it?
Be an MGTOW, avoid the unnecessary danger of pre-marital sex and then getting false rape cases in India. India is ready to hang you or beat you to death on the mere allegation. You will find wanting everything being more dangerous, you will end up not even being able to want anything.