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I live in __________.
I m 32 and my wife is not living with me since October2014. She stays at her home in ________ with our 7 years old son. I’ve requested many times but she doesn’t want to come back to me.
During these past time, I have witnessed her many times with different unknown men with her and when asked she always defend and protected their (those men’s) identities from me and totally became aggressive to me. My son has told me about a man who often comes to their home mostly during the night and he starts making love with his mom on the bed in front of him. That’s in brief. So what I do now sir? I m suffering. My son is also suffering from mental anxiety and depression so far as I have talked with my son..I am helpless. I am very worried about our son…
Nowadays adultery related issues have increased manifolds in Indian marriages. (This is more likely to increase after the recent decriminalization of adultery). This was so far more for housewives as they were not be punished for this behavior. (Now after scrapping the criminal provision it is likely to increase). We have not made anything like women’s responsibility. So it is their wish to take care home and children not compulsion. There is absolutely no compulsion for today’s women to be a good person, forget about being a good wife or a good mother. Those who become one is their wish.
These women are now pampered from their childhood and they don’t know what is their responsibility? Feminism has taught them not to bear children and specifically ignore male children. While your case is an example of a horrible mother and wife, this is not rare. Husbands and children do not have any recourse from such crimes committed by the women in the house. Nowadays, many demands making prostitution as legal and once that happens husbands will not have any legal remedy at all because the weakest ground for divorce 9adultery) will vanish once prostitution becomes legal.
Psychologists have found out negative impact on a child’s mind if one is exposed to sex at an early age. This article on The Psychology Today explains that well. A male child’s first love is his mother and the first hero is his father. Once he sees his father (you in this case) being incapable of saving him, or his mother, he himself feels weak from within. He cries because he thinks his mother is attacked by the stranger and he is not able to do anything. His male existence gets a jolt.
Children often try to imitate the actions of their parents. In your case even though the child is not directly involved in the act, his exposure to sex by his mother at such an early age will make him more violent and will lead him to go astray in future. The psychological damage thus could be irreparable.
To come out of this traumatic relationship and to save your child, there is a very thin possibility. It depends on how strong your wife is and how robust is her backup relations. Because the law didn’t give you almost any possibility to come out of this relationship with grace and with your child. To test her strengths and your possibilities of coming out of this relation and to save your child, I need to speak with you.
So, please do contact me or MRA helpline number at the earliest to understand the next steps.
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