Password

“My wife has the simplest password possible for her emails – 12345. Good thing that she had this password for all her email accounts.”

He sounded quite optimistic that he has managed to get a strong case against his wife. He just hacked into all his wife’s emails using the same password and collected evidence that she was cheating on him and carrying with her illicit relationship with her boyfriend for the last six years. He thought Adultery that is considered as a valid ground for divorce under IPC 497 will get him some relief.

“I am sad to note that the child who I love more than myself is not mine. I have admitted him to a school, I have done everything for them, still, she is regularly sleeping with her boyfriend”….his voice was heavy this time.

The emails read most raunchy and intimate details of his wife’s relation. In one of the emails, she wrote: “I will apply these techniques when we meet on the bed next time ..Mr. Penis”…

I could understand what would have been going through his mind when he discovered all these emails written by his wife of seven years. For whom he has done everything possible. Taken her to different places, bought her all luxury items, taken her to best possible doctors in the city wherever they have lived, taken her for dining in fine restaurants every weekend..still his working wife was cheating on him.

“She used to deny sex with me, it has become so heartbreaking for me that I have even thought of visiting prostitutes for satisfying my desire, but I wanted to be happy with her so never gone astray.”

He could not cry when he said these but he was looking elsewhere just to avoid eye contact. He trusts me more than his own lawyer now. Lawyers only understand and speak the language of their business, they don’t help us.

“I can’t believe she has cheated me with the son too. I love the child so much and he can’t stay without me. You know first, three of a child’s life is so beautiful. I don’t know how will I forget him. When I told her about giving me divorce she and her parents alleged that I have illicit relation and they threatened me and my parents of criminal action. Believe me, I do not have any relation to anyone. I loved them I don’t know what to do now. ”

I had no words to pacify him. Women like his wife are parasites protected by Indian laws. These prostitutes don’t bother about their family. All they want is to satisfy their sexual desire with anyone they want and still enjoy the money and status of their husband. They are bolstered by the feminist laws and the feminist political parties.

These are the men who either commit suicide or kill their wives. Some of them go one step ahead of killing their in-laws too. If the husband kills himself the wife immediately becomes an innocent divorcee, innocent single mother and still become entitled to the property her poor husband had. The child is told about how cruel his father was no matter if the mother was a bitch and a prostitute. The man who has just committed suicide becomes the instant villain. In Sarkari books, their suicide is written as one more farmer suicide. Feminist leaders come on national feminist TV shows and cry foul how farmer suicide is being highlighted by criminal groups who claim to be MRA groups. TV viewers easily buy their points as these programs always have feminists outnumbering MRAs. Then the host of the program does everything to suppress MRA views, not giving the MRA a chance, hiding facts, showing biased and false stats and concluding the debate with a feminist view. Thus the single mother is always made an angel and the husband who committed suicide becomes the wife beater. No one takes their statistics. Police come to arrest the husband first if they try to gather evidence by installing CC TV or by checking the wife’s mobile or emails. This is because men in India are considered as criminals with one simple allegation from a woman. So much when the Indian society is patriarchal and oppressive towards its women.

I tried to pacify him by saying that many men are forced to forget their own child. They are not even allowed to meet their own child and their own children are brainwashed by their mothers and become haters of their fathers. All single mother-child undergo these cycles. Whores are the new queens of our social system today.

He had a lot of hopes when he came to me. I had to cut him down, show the reality. Tell him probably he will not be able to prove that these emails were written by his wife and no one else. Because when it comes to the criminal justice system, when the adultery case comes up for hearing courts consider the woman as the victim NOT as the perpetrator.

He was surprised. I had to give him instances where the court has actually granted more alimony or increased the alimony to such wife after the husband challenged any lower court alimony decision in higher courts.

There was a protest in Bangalore where men wore skirts like women. Among other things they also protested that IPC 497 (adultery laws)* treated women as husband’s property; when, in reality, IPC 497 didn’t punish a wife for being disloyal to her husband and the husband was still asked to “Beg, Borrow, Steal” by the court to maintain the wife. I told him that such men who came to protest in skirts actually come to our weekly meetings in their Chaddis (underwear) crying to save their families from their cruel wives. The men who were saying IPC 497 considered a wife as the husband’s property, forgot that this is the reason a husband is asked to pay maintenance to a wife and rarely a wife is asked to do so. They said the IPC 497 was biased against women when it couldn’t even hold a woman responsible for her behaviour. This is the level of bigotry we have in society.

He came to me for new hope. After knowing the reality he became more dejected when I told him probably Mutual Consent Divorce (MCD) would have been better. “MCD!! when the wife does not want the same”…he laughed at me. “This is how you can help?”

Yes, I don’t boast of my magical counselling skills. I can’t change India’s legal scenario. If you are the one who somehow managed to get to know about your wife’s character – you don’t have legal recourse.

So no matter if you suspect your wife’s fidelity and get her password and chat records or SMS details or her sexual intercourse video – you as a husband is the criminal. In the eyes of law, you are showing cruelty to your wife, in the eyes of a society filled with she-males today who probably want to go unpunished for invading into your private life your wife is discriminated against. So don’t expect wonders overnight. Fight for changing the laws first and then expect justice.

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*Back then Adultery laws were not scrapped by the SC. Currently, Adultery is only a civil offence in India amounting to cruelty and thus one can get a divorce under the same.

**This article is a part of the Adultery series. All articles under this series can be found – Here