Marriage – No More Sacred

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Martyrs of Marriage poster

Marriage in India were once considered as a sacred institution. Today, it can’t be deemed as sacred any more. Making criminal provisions for our family laws have criminalized marriage and now many husbands are forced to take the extreme step of committing suicide. A section of the society accepts the fact that the law needs to be changed but it never happens due to pressure from feminist organizations. The society is yet to be sensitized adequately about this kind of terrorism on Indian families.

To bring out this aspect of Indian marriages, Gurgaon based filmmaker Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj has filmed the pain of these unfortunate families in her documentary “Martyrs of Marriage”.

The film features a few stories of real life victims and expert opinions on the subject. Practicing advocates of different courts in India and retired judges’ were interviewed to being different aspects of the issue. All of them agreed that the law was being misused by many women and hence needed to be changed.

Martyrs of Marriage, popularly known as MOM among netizens today, is a documentary in English with Hindi subtitles. Some victim stories were narrated in Hindi with English subtitles. Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj is the sole Promoter, Filmmaker, Director and Writer of this documentary. In this aspect Deepika has shown good qualities of all the roles she had played in this documentary. As a first time docu-maker for a cause not generally accepted by the society, Deepika had done an excellent job and excelled in all fields.

This documentary comes at a time after a long history of misuse of dowry law (section 498a of Indian Penal Code). Even after many Supreme Court judgements, suicide of innocent families, arrests of elderly and infants together in such complaints no other filmmaker had so far taken up this cause for making a documentary. Earlier Suhaib Ilyasi, tried to make a movie “498a – A wedding Gift” on this topic but that never saw the path of theatres yet. In this aspect Deepika’s attempt is the first.

Since a documentary needs to be reviewed based on different parameters compared to those for mainstream movies, we will first discuss the qualities of Martyrs of Marriage (MOM) as a documentary film before coming to the point how she dealt with a very sensitive matter.

Other than the victim stories which were narrated by the victims or their families, Deepika used her voice over for the entire documentary. This is another unique feature of this documentary and was dealt with well. The narration was clear and rightly-paced so that the audience understands the complex legal matters. This went well with the interviews in the documentary as the victim stories also matched the documentary pace. Since it was an interview style documentary, the director did not have much options of showing her creativity with camera angles but she tried to include relevant stakeholders for each case and tried to bring out the suffering of the families of men.

The documentary used no dramatization as it was dealing with a very sensitive matter but the stories and emotions of the victims’ families hardly needed any additional dramatization. The heart wrenching stories of cruelty faced by these families were enough to keep the audience glued to the film for the entire duration. Coupled with this was the apt narratives on various judgements, crime statistics and explanations of legal terms that made the documentary easily understandable to all. This way Deepika had shown her in-depth research and objective approach to a highly sensitive issue.

Since the documentary was on suffering of families and involved sensitive handling of people’s emotions, the use of music and appropriate sound effect or even silence to highlight those emotions.

Even though the documentary was primarily to show the unheard stories of men’s families, the filmmaker did bring out opposite viewpoints along with legal experts’ views as well. The documentary brings out the pains suffered by women relatives (sisters, mothers, daughters etc) of men as well. Women like Uma Challa was candid in expressing their views on a law that was made to empower women like them. It was indeed interesting to watch how a woman director handled this matter in a way that didn’t set to create a gender war that is otherwise visible in any feminist filmmakers work.

This documentary not only brings stories from the husband families but also shows some real life recorded conversations of wives to show how some women are blatantly misusing Indian legal system. These conversations are sufficient to show the terrorism unleashed on many Indian families. To show the craziness of modern day divorces in India, this film also shows relevant news videos.

Overall, as a documentary film Martyrs of Marriage could successfully bring out the real issue of legal terrorism against innocent families and the helplessness of Indian judiciary in dealing with these matters. Also in order to bring out the pain of men and their families, Deepika was careful about not creating a war against her own gender. Feminist interviews taken for the film show real intellect as feminist like Ranjana Kumari self-exposed herself in such a manner that even in a serious heart wrenching film like this left its audience burst out in laughter at Ranjana’s response.

The real review of the movie came from the audience who attended the Bangalore premier on 19th November, when there was absolute silence for at least one minute after the movie ended before the entire crowd stood up in standing ovation. We wish Deepika and her entire crew all the luck and best wishes for their next documentary which will be on another men’s issue.

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6 comments

  1. In every State there are numerous victims of false 498a. If possible Deepika should try for to produce film using regionally affected people and produce in all religional language.. Interaction should be in regional language. Regional people should try to gather judicial authority to participate in documentary film show. If 1% of judicial authorities convinced, 100 false case will not be arose in the society. Judicial authorities like police, judge at all level should feel the real facts. Then only false 498a will be minimised.Police atrocities will be eradicated. Mere participation of affected people is no use.

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    • Dear sir, what you expect that the judicial authorities will change in India ,,,,never ever these legal provisions are a billion dollar business, in India people can loose anything self-respect, family, honesty, everything but not money? dont expect this in India??

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  2. the male factor why you are you showing the the femminist mrA DOCUMENTRY,SHE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MENS PROBLEM , SHE IS JUST A DOCUMENTRY FILMMAKER, MAYBE NEXT TIME SHE MAKES A DOCUMENTRY ON WOMENS ISSUE AS WELL,,. SHE IS JUST A PUBLICITY SEEKER NOTHING ELSE, SHE IS SAME SAME PERSON WHO RECIEVED AWARD BY FEMMINIST GROUP. I HAVE BEEN FOLLOWING HER IN FACEBOOK, I HAVE SEEN HER POST SOME FEMMINIST AND SOME RELATED TO MRAS.

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  3. I am a person with meager means. Having seen this trailer ,I really hope that this work gets the much needed promotion and distribution. (there was a movie made on 498A and it did not get the same) I hope that not only men but also women watch it… and try to understand (yes we cannot even expect to change laws overnight, given the exaggerated sensitization of events presented by a recent movie, given the matriarchal era wherein the discrimination against men is more rampant.. so I use the word “understand”) the plight of the (in)famous “patriarch”

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  4. Interesting trailer and topic. I’ve only seen a Bollywood version of 498, and before that I had no idea about it. I cannot remember the name of the film, but a father and his daughter decided to scam a perspective male husband to get money for her to go to America. While it ended in a love story, I wondered if this really happens or not. Where can I view this documentary and when?

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