When Maneka Gandhi commented that “Marital Rape can’t be suitably applied in the context of India” many could not understand that she actually wanted to start the marital rape debate afresh (on the eve of pending Marital Rape PIL in Supreme Court) rather than stating her unwillingness to make another criminal provision against marital rape (marital rape is already a criminal offence under section IPC 498a).
This kind of comments by our politicians and ministers (who surely know that marital rape is a crime in India already) has no other justification but only to instigate a whole new set of debate as if it is not already a crime in India.
Now leading Bengali Daily Ananda Bazar Patrika (ABP) (আনন্দবাজার পত্রিকা) published a biased and misleading article. In this article Simantini Ghosh (who claims to be a US-based doctor) wrote on 13th March 2017 that in NFHS survey 9% women said that they were raped by either their past or present husband. However, she had carefully omitted the fact that NFHS report also stated the following –
“Sexual violence here includes being forced to have sexual intercourse or perform any other sexual acts against one’s own will. Table 15.3 shows that 9 percent of all women age 15-49 report having experienced sexual violence at sometime during their lifetime.”
Mind it these questions were asked only to women and not to men as the survey report also clarified in section 15.2.2 Lifetime Sexual Violence section. Simantini Ghosh and আনন্দবাজার পত্রিকা (ABP) carefully ignored that part as she believed (like many other men) that men can’t be raped and hence she concluded that not making Marital Rape a crime (false, she is ignorant that it is already a crime for men and NOT for women).
She also stated that the survey revealed that women aged between 15-49 experienced sexual violence, omitting the point that this figure is for their lifetime and NFHS survey on marital rape failed because it didn’t ask the same questions to men.
Now I understand that many of you will be curious to know how men can be raped and would request you to read the following to articles to understand –
So the argument and all debates should have been around the fact that rape and marital rape should be made a crime for women instead of the misinformed debate that it is not a crime in India for men.
Now for the information of all my readers let me also state some other statistics that has come out in 2011 (more recent compared to 2005-06 NFHS survey) that more women seek help when they are sad, disappointed or frustrated a complete contradiction that NFHS 3 survey found that only 1% women report marital rape (looks like women do not become sad, disappointed or frustrated when raped by their husbands). This is compared to only 11% men seek help when in trouble –
Also, the same IMAGES survey showed that 96% married women were sexually satisfied with their partners –
Also comparing the data of married women from 2001 and 2011 census we come to know that there is a higher rate of increase in the number of married women compared to that of men.
So does it mean that women are sexually satisfied with their partners when they are raped? Does that mean women enjoy rape? Probably Simantini Ghosh and আনন্দবাজার পত্রিকা will now have to agree if she wants to show 9% women are raped.
Also, let’s look at the various facts how feminists have changed their marital rape data based on their convenience. Marital rape debate was ignited in recent times with Barkha Dutt claiming that 70% housewives are raped by their husbands on NDTV show “We The People – Marital Rape: Eyes Wide Shut”. Just see the debate embedded in this article and see how she was guarding this data.
When MRAs said that the feminists who supported the same had their fathers, brothers, and sons included in that 70% and hence they should have started castrating men in their house first or chopping off their genitals (as this was a favourite punishment for rapists for the feminists that time and as feminists always said “Rape is a Rape”) and start cleaning the society from their homes, feminists changed the stat and started saying that 30% Indian women are raped like that of Nirbhaya –
That was again one in every three women and many men stopped believing such statistics because MRAs continued to point out that men in the feminists own households were rapists.
Now Simantini Ghosh of আনন্দবাজার পত্রিকা comes out with the stat from NFHS, a survey where the presumption of the survey was that men were the abusers and women were the victims.
In a debate on social media with me, Simantini Ghosh first failed to understand how a man could be raped by a woman –
Clearly, she was not aware of the complete definition of rape or the fact that in other countries rape is already gender neutral (and so is marital rape).
So I tried to explain to her that the survey was done in a biased way but failed –
And finally, she claimed that she had more knowledge and engaged with many agencies that did such surveys –
Clearly, she didn’t know about other international surveys and did not have the grey matter to understand if women could be rapists in other countries then they can be rapists in India too. She didn’t have any brain to understand how NFHS (and most other DV surveys in the world) have been biased by having a pre-concluded notion that men were perpetrators and women are victims and designing questions accordingly. (in-spite of specifically telling her about how the questions were drafted and how the survey was conducted she didn’t understand).
Clearly, Simantini Ghosh or women like her who claim to be well educated and intelligent and being associated with such surveys is a danger to the nation and to our future generation.
The present campaigns of these women are to term men as rapists on every divorce and create a potential avenue for more extortion. As Simantini commented on social media, she did not care if this created new extortion tool for women. Little did these intellectual understand or try to understand that it is already a criminal offense for men, now women needed to be recognized as rapists and suitably punished.
If you are concerned about this article by women who are clearly male haters and if you think this will create extreme gender hatred and make life miserable for Indian men on every divorce and they will be subjected to extreme forms of cruelty, job loss and humiliation, please give your feedback to আনন্দবাজার পত্রিকা (Ananda Bazar Patrika).