A secret ‘blind dating’ event organized by a group in Bangalore failed big time with the organizers backing off at the last moment.
This event, organized by a Meetup group that claimed it was the first time such an event was organized in Bangalore, had all the rules right. It charged 50% premium from males over females for attending the event. The rules were simple. Each guy was promised to meet three females of their choice and each woman was promised to meet five guys. The names of the organizers and venue details were to be revealed at the last moment. It was also promised that the identities of the participants will be kept confidential to all others until they find their date.
The event was well planned, rules set correctly following good standards. It has also set the right expectations from the beginning. However, the organizers had to pull out of the event at the last moment despite overwhelming response for this highly charged event.
The final mail from organizers to all its secret participants said something like this (not the same words)–
“Guys, I am sorry to pull out of the event and I promise I will never try to organize something like this. The reason is not registration for the event but the unnecessary high expectation of ladies attending the program. We believed that such events are a good way to mingle with like-minded singles in your area and find potential mates. However, ladies have been sending me emails stating what kind of guys they want to meet and what kind of guys they don’t want to meet. They are specifying the minimum salary expectation, size of the house, car etc. which we find impossible to meet. We are calling off the event as we don’t find it to be successful.”
This mail was a clear signal to the harmful effects of feminism that is set to ruin our relationship expectations. With no entry barrier for girls in marriages, and huge entry barrier created for the guys to enter into relationships, marriage as an institution of sustaining the progeny is sure to fail. What is worrisome is the overwhelming participation of males in such events despite high entry barrier to both the event and to marriage and low expectations from them from their potential mates.
Sometime ago I have done a study on the influence of feminism in the partner choice of women and found astounding facts from a matrimonial website –
As this event was organized for Bangalore’s niche social segment, I presume the attendees were educated and working in good companies with all of them having the good financial background. What worries me more is none of these women are bound to take care of their families. With very easy beneficial exit for them from marriages with heavy alimony and maintenance claims (stating same living standard after divorce) despite their working status should set alarm bells ringing in men.
I will blame Indian men for this situation. They are responsible for creating such a situation for themselves. In a rage of showing more care and protection for the females around them, Indian males have created such expectations that are making it impossible for them to find potential mates today.
The situation is not different for these females either. The online matrimonial portals are filled with profiles of good looking “never married” working females in their late ‘30s who didn’t find anyone to marry and only after coming too late ‘30s they have realized the danger. Now after becoming plump, fat and with facial wrinkles, they realize that they may not find anyone to marry at all.
Many such women in late ‘30s who contacted me for marriage have confessed to their high demands in early ‘30s and they always expected better grooms who were nowhere to be found. Many realize today that they will probably not get married ever.
Failure of the blind dating event in Bangalore only tells everyone that unnecessary raising a gender to a very high status created a vacuum in the society that will not be filled easily Such highly established ladies will never marry unemployed males as men were doing in large numbers so far. With dowry being illegal and alimony being legal and considered as a right for women and with no contribution (monetary or otherwise) being set for women in marriages, marriage as an institution is set to fail.
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