The constant shaming of men in the name of women empowerment cost women dearly. The hysteria created around any form of violence against women by suppressing similar violence against men in the name of gender equality has become such a disease in India that even though almost everyone understands that there exists good amount of violence against men, the increasing injustice to those men and no remedy to those is creating a nervous society and greater gender inequality. So much so that the men who have ever supported women rights are also termed as abusers or rapists today. These are the same men who have created hysteria around rape and violence and as increasing number of women resort to this kind of empowerment. This women power was NOT created based on crime but created based on gender, the gender gap increases. This gender war created by some selfish criminals in the name of feminism is now hitting them back.
Of late, I find many erstwhile female feminist bloggers writing about men’s rights. They talk about the need of some laws to favor men, as they find all nice males around them going away in this false gender equality war . I received comments from young women on my blog stating how frustrated they are because of this gender war. How the men they desire don’t even pay attention to them or put them in friend zone even before they can do it.
Men who talk about Feminism today do not get lessons until they are hit themselves. The constant shaming of their gender has made Indian males so much spineless that they have forgotten to stand up for their rights or scared of being termed as a chauvinists. It is the same men who had shamed others for similar reasons and now facing challenges because they don’t want to be termed the same. So the way for them is to stay clear from women. Even the males who are in any kind of relation are scared to get into any relation. They are scared and do not know when they get a rapist tag by the same women they love. Many are feeling that it is better to stay away from all relations to avoid the rapist tag.
Because these males can’t stand up for their rights, today feminists can crate videos like “Aao rape Karo“, ‘My Choice‘ or ‘I am not a woman‘. Every time one such anti male video goes viral on the web, these men get threatened of their identity but it is the Frankenstein they have created. So far they thought it was a group of ‘few’ people who were rapists. But UN came up with statistics that most rapes happen within families and most women don’t even understand they are raped. This brought almost all males who have ever supported women’s rights under the purview of rape. This report along with the fact that even criminals like Rohtak Sisters are awarded for bravery or women like the wife of Amit Bachchan are protected by media, is making Indian men more nervous about their existence. The men who wanted to protect the women around them, are not able to protect themselves and thus deny getting into any relation.
With this kind of social changes happening, today empowered women are in greater danger to prove that they will not file false cases or demean men when they want to get into a relation. The theory that “Not all women are same” is no more valid as everyone knows that even village women are misusing such laws for their personal benefit. It becomes evident when we see some of the districts that are highest in misuse of dowry law are not even near metro cities.
So far, feminists have created an urgency for the men to prove that they are not rapists or molesters. Men have gone out of the way to support women and even lynched other men simply on accusation but still women claimed they were victims. So it became obvious that this eternal victimhood could only be solved by making women alone.. completely alone.
So feminists – men and women alike; feel the distress. India’s population trend shows that percent married is increasing for women but not for men. Even live-in relations have become dangerous for men as they get rape charges. Men in public places don’t look at women today, leave alone getting closer or trying to flirt with them. This in a way makes all effort that might have gone into a woman’s make up, beauty and clothes for getting attention from men turn to mere waste.
As more and more males become indifferent to the females around them and refuse companionship in fear of the society going nuts over her allegation, also refuse to extend helping hand to women. Empowered Women are increasingly being told to do their work themselves, pay their bills or carry those heavy luggage. As chivalry dies a natural death due to Feminism and women are increasingly forced to succeed in all spheres of life in order to prove they are more than equal to men, they deprive educated and qualified men from due respect. So when men find it increasingly difficult to get their required value and even random women with less qualification or skills gets more value through reservation or social bias, they lose respect in men’s eyes. Instances of women getting their work done and climbing up the corporate ladder faster than her male colleagues are around in the industry for sometime. Many men do not have problem with that but women find it increasingly difficult to find the right guy who will take care of them in future. This is because women always prefer to marry up in their social status and not below.
This double jeopardy created in the society, forces women and men to be single when they crave for a partner. A less successful man suffers from inferiority complex in approaching a more successful woman and a successful woman fails to find an attractive guy in search of a more successful guy. This becomes complicated when men stop approaching women either for plain flirting or for a relation. On the other hand, when women need to approach a man for a relation, they show themselves as loser and hence mostly rejected. This creates a generation of frustrated youth that is very dangerous for any nation.
So I don’t find it great when an erstwhile feminist writes for men’s rights and talk about law misuse by women. With society being so far blind to the need of severely punishing law misusers and giving justice to men; it is a necessary evil that the society has to face. The counselors of such issues do not find any indication of the types of women who doesn’t want such legal benefits.
They say there is no guarantee that a woman will not claim victimhood when her relationship does not work. It is their experience that even most empowered women want alimony or husband’s property as right and when they claim the same, they create more examples why we can’t say ‘NOT all women are same’. Because NO ONE knows who are those women who are different and the magic formula of finding them in advance.