The constant shaming of men in the name of women empowerment cost women dearly. The hysteria created around violence against women by suppressing similar violence against men in the name of gender equality has become an epidemic in India. Almost everyone understands that there exists a good amount of violence against men. The increasing injustice to these men is creating a nervous society and a greater gender inequality. So, much so that the men who have ever supported women rights are also termed as abusers or rapists today. These are the same men who have created hysteria around rape and violence. An increasing number of women think male bashing is a kind of empowerment. When women empowerment is NOT created based on crime but based on gender, the gender gap increases. This gender war created by some in the name of feminism is now hitting them back.
Of late, I found many feminist bloggers writing about men’s rights. They talk about the need for some laws to favor men, as they find all nice males around them going away. I received comments from young women on my blog stating how frustrated they are because of this gender war. How the men they desire don’t even pay attention to them or put them in the friend zone even before they can do it.
Using Males Against Their Own Gender
Men who talk about Feminism today do not learn lessons until they are hit themselves. The constant shaming of their own gender has made Indian males so spineless that they have forgotten to stand up for their rights or are scared of being termed as chauvinists. It is the same men who had shamed others for similar reasons and now facing challenges because they don’t want to be termed as chauvinists. So the way for them is to stay clear from women. Even the males who are in any kind of relationship are scared to get into any long-term commitment. They are scared and do not know when they get a rapist tag by the same women they love. Many are feeling that it is better to stay away from all relationships to avoid a rapist tag.
Because these males can’t stand up for their rights, today feminists can create videos like “Aao rape Karo“, ‘My Choice‘ or ‘I am not a woman‘. Every time one such anti-male video goes viral on the web, these men get threatened for their male identity. But it is the Frankenstein they have created. So far they thought it was a group of ‘few’ people who were rapists. But UN came up with statistics that most rapes happen within families and most women don’t even understand they are raped. This brought almost all males who have ever supported women’s rights under the purview of rape. This report along with the fact that even criminals like Rohtak Sisters are awarded for bravery or women like the wife of Amit Bachchan are protected by the media, is making Indian men more nervous about their existence. The men who wanted to protect women around them are not able to protect themselves and thus do not want to commit to any relationship.
Filing False Cases
With this kind of social change, women need to prove to their men that they will not file false cases in the future or harass their partners. The theory that “Not all women are same” is no more valid as everyone knows that even village women are misusing such laws for their personal benefit. It becomes evident when we see some of the districts highest in the misuse of dowry laws, are not even near metro cities.
So far, feminists have created an urgency for men to prove that they are not rapists or molesters. Men for ages have gone out of their way to support women and even lynched other men simply on the accusation of a woman. But women continued to claim victimhood. So it became obvious that this eternal victimhood could only be solved by making women alone.. completely alone.
Feminists – men and women alike; feel the stress today. That is why men are afraid for a long-term commitment. India’s population trend shows that the percentage of married women is increasing but not the percentage of married men. Even live-in relationships have become dangerous for men as they get rape charges frequently. Men in public places don’t look at women, leave alone getting closer or trying to flirt with them. This in a way makes all effort that might have gone into her makeup, beauty and clothes for getting attention from men to turn to a mere waste.
Showing Arrogance And Victimhood Together
As more and more males become indifferent to the females around them and refuse companionship in the fear of the society going nuts over her allegations, more men refuse to extend helping hand to women. Empowered Women are increasingly being told to do their work themselves, pay their own bills or carry that heavy luggage. As chivalry died a natural death due to Feminism and women are increasingly forced to succeed in all spheres of life in order to prove they are more than equal to men. But in order excel, they demand reservation or different other favors and deprive educated and qualified men of due respect. So, when men find it increasingly difficult to get their required value and even random women with less qualification or skills get more value through reservation or social bias, they lose respect in men’s eyes. Instances of women getting their work done and climbing up the corporate ladder faster than her male colleagues are around in the industry for some time. Many men do not have a problem with that but women find it increasingly difficult to find the right guy who will take care of them in the future. This is because women always prefer to marry up in their social status and not below.
This double jeopardy created in the society, forces women and men to be single when they crave for a partner. A less successful man suffers from an inferiority complex in approaching a more successful woman and a successful woman fails to find an attractive guy in search of a more successful guy. This becomes complicated when men stop approaching women either for plain flirting or for a relationship. On the other hand, when women need to approach a man for a relationship, they show themselves as a loser and hence mostly rejected. This creates a generation of frustrated young men and women that is potentially harmful for a nation.
So I don’t find it great when an erstwhile feminist writes for men’s rights and talk about law misuse by women. With the society being blind to the need of severely punishing law misusers and giving justice to men; it is a necessary evil that the society has to face. Also, there is no guarantee that the same women will not misuse the laws in their favour when the need arises. The counsellors of such issues, in fact, do not find any indication of the types of women who don’t want such legal benefits.
They say there is no guarantee that a woman will not claim victimhood when her relationship does not work. It is their experience that even most empowered women want alimony or husband’s property as their right and when they claim the same, they create more reasons why we can’t say that ‘NOT all women are same’. Because NO ONE knows who are those women who are different and the magic formula of finding them in advance.