I do not know how do I really express my happiness for having you as my mom. From childhood, I have built an image of a mother by seeing you that I used to think as universal. The lessons that I learnt at that tender age took me a long way to a new improved life.
You taught us (your children) the value of compassion for the street children by giving our old clothes to them or by giving our old books to them. The gifts given in kind was seen as a more kind gesture than the money given to them ever. I remember that dad used to take tuition for some of those poor children free of cost so that they could learn to read and write. The value of compassion for the poor and deprived took me a long way today to think about them. Today, I give the same suggestion to the men who come to me for help after suffering from a broken marriage and broken heart. The virtues of compassion take them a long way, they forget their pain, live a new life and let others live a better life as well. This is the virtue taught by you makes us think compassionately for men and boys who are increasingly denied their rights. Thus I took up the task of showing the importance of thinking with compassion about the problems men and boys face. A lesson that was well forgotten.
Ma, you taught us lessons of faith by being faithful to your family and all relations. In this way both you and dad taught us the virtues of being faithful to one’s family and fight against all atrocities with ease. This is the faith that restored faith in life every time we had fallen in our journey of life. When I see that we as human beings are losing faith in each other, I get scared. This is what everyone needs to learn first in their life.
You taught us to be sincere in whatever we do by sincerely taking up all your responsibilities in your family. We learnt from you and dad. You have not asked for everything as a right and taken up responsibilities first. I do try to emulate what I learnt from you. I try to do everything with sincerity today. If I don’t want to do something, I refuse to get into it to avoid complications later. I imagine if we become sincere in whatever we do, we will have a better world to live in. I remember the sincere dedication of dad in development of our family as well. It was because of both of your sincere efforts we could do whatever we have achieved so far.
Honesty is another virtue that I have learnt from you. But I am not able to follow that completely. I have also seen that ‘straight trees are cut first’. Today honest people are robbed of their life. I used to be honest initially but life taught me not to be honest anymore.
Probably the list of the virtues of our life is changing. Because today I don’t see compassion being shown to me from anywhere. The state is so much biased against me that I am deprived of a meaningful, respectful life. My freedom and choices are curtailed to ensure freedom and choices of empowered women. Today none of the crimes committed against me by a woman is recognized as a crime. Today faith only means how a man can keep the faith, whereas breaking faith is considered as women empowerment. Sincerity, honesty have become things of the past. The extent of honesty is seen in our courts where any young DIL can lie to send elderly MIL to jail and MIL’S honesty has no value whatsoever.
Mom, you taught me some good virtues of life but probably you needed to teach the same to those feminists who influence our lawmakers to create enormous bias in the society. Today I have lost all importance as a man. My father has lost all his importance as being the supportive pillar of our family all through his life. That is why I see Mother’s Day images completely ignoring us – the men in the house as if they are redundant, disposable.
I know a mom that you don’t like this world, too. You will never imagine your world without a dad or without your sons. But most of us are increasingly trained to believe in redundancy of men. ‘Little kids’ means only ‘little girls’ today, be it in ads or in govt policies or in reservations. We are moving to a new reality of single mother girl children.
On the occasion of mother’s day, I ask you if your compassion meant only to be limited to girls and women alone? If not then why we boys don’t find a place in the society today. I ask you if your faith was only meant to be broken by women? If not, mom then how come my honesty has no value in the courts of law today compared to a woman’s lies. Why is today’s mother think of having sex outside marriage as a right and depriving children of their dad’s identity is empowerment?
No mom, it’s not that I am very happy living with the virtues you taught, but I will change this system for the next generation before I die. The boys will get their identity, the right that they deserve. I want to die to change the ever cruel world that is progressively eliminating men and from all social roles and treating them only as disposable money machines.
I know my death will not be honorable because today all that matters to this society are girls. I am grateful that you have not believed in feminist theories of depriving the baby boys of nurturing by the mother. If you have ever believed in what you taught us you will know that I am on the right track. I am sure if I could die to change the world, you will be proud of me even from among the stars. This mother’s day, I assure you that I will work for my rights and bring back lost honor to the virtues you taught me – compassion, faith, sincerity, and honesty.
Love you, mom,