After the death of the Bollywood actor Sushant Singh Rajput and a section of people known to him saying he was suffering from depression, it is important to understand ‘depression’ a little better and how you can effectively protect yourself from being depressed.
I came across the following article in India Today (March 2015 edition) on depression and realized that it is high time that India should be concerned about this –
Different global researchers show that one in every four women and one in every ten men suffer from depression. This article of Psychology Today also tells us why women are more prone to depression due to different hormonal changes and outside stress related to career, education, marriage, and childbirth. Recently feminists have gone to a stage of demanding the killing of babies up to the age of one year under post-partum syndrome. Recently in another study, it was found that even men can undergo post-partum syndrome. This WebMD article tells us that one in ten dads suffer from moderate to severe post-partum syndrome even though NO men’s rights group ever demanded the killing of babies as their right.
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The reason depression becomes a very important topic of discussion today is, ever-increasing social stress and highly busy life schedule all of us losing touch to our lives and becoming more prone to getting psychological ailments like depression.
Doses of Feminism acts as a harmful catalyst in this as in order to prove them equal to men, women unnecessarily complicate things and invite more stress in everybody’s life. They being naturally more prone to mental health issues make the lives of men in their lives miserable with their weird behaviour.
If you read the India Today article you will know how some women adopted negative lifestyle after being depressed and some men resorted to good healthy methods of good food, regular physical exercise and balanced lifestyle to revive.
American National Institute of Mental Health lists these as symptoms of depression –
- Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” mood
- Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism, guilt, worthlessness
- Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities
- Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable
- Decreased energy, fatigue
- Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
- Difficulty sleeping, or oversleeping
- Appetite and/or weight changes
- Thoughts of death or suicide, suicide attempts
- Persistent headaches, cramps, digestive problems
If we look at these symptoms we will find many factors that may relate to us. In our lives, however, we ignore them very often. In a family, most of these symptoms are taken care of by the family. But today, the family is the reason we have more of these issues. With the constant breaking of the family system (or all relationships) under feminism influence, we are at a greater risk of falling prey to depression and the suicide rate is set to reach newer heights.
Even though men may be physically less prone to depression the following make things dangerous for them, especially for Indian men –
- A broken relationship is said to be a major cause of depression. Both the genders suffer from a broken relationship and it is found that the women break relationships more often than men. Hence men run far more risk of forced depression.
- Stress is another major reason for depression. In the erstwhile gender-defined roles where only men were considered to be the breadwinner for the family and women the caregivers, men are likely to get more stressed. Feminists today show women as capable of doing everything men do. So, now both men and women are thus exposed to a highly competitive life where work-life balance is compromised. However, the expectation that men will be the providers remained and women’s earning remained with her.
- Since women are not made responsible to financially contribute to their families but they continued to block opportunities for men in the workforce, this created double jeopardy for men. At the workplace, men’s chances of getting employed reduced and at home they are still considered as the provider and hence forced into the same.
- In order to prove their worth in their workplaces men are forced to work extra hours whereas women continued to demand that women get lower wages while they continued to work fewer hours compared to their male counterparts. This situation had led to increased stress and reduced work-life balance for men. In addition to this was feminist propaganda that demanded men take part in household work as more women are working now. So, that women got less work in both their workplaces and in their homes and men got to prove their ability even harder in both the places. This has led to a situation that has created an inhuman situation in men’s lives and they are forced into a depression.
- Creation of family breaking laws is yet another feminist agenda that forces men into depression. These laws made in the name of women empowerment gives undue advantage to women and increasingly deprives men of all their rights. This creates a dangerous situation for men. Since women are physically more prone to depression and Bipolar Depression (BPD) they continue to break their relations with impunity leaving men reeling under undue mental stress. This is forcing men to be more depressed and forcing them to commit more suicide.
- Gender-biased laws other than family laws are also playing their havoc on men. Indian rape laws that empower women to file rape case on their lovers even after years of their relationship makes the life of Indian men miserable in every relation either in love or in marriage. Every time a woman breaks a relation the man is considered to be a loser and loses his hope in all future relations. However, the woman moves on and enjoys other relations. On the other hand, when the man breaks the relation he runs a high risk of getting a rape case. So, in either case, a man suffers more than a woman and is more prone to depression and suicide.
- The absence of men’s welfare in India is another concern that makes men more prone to depression. In one hand focus on girl child and girl’s education is depriving boys of education, on the other hand, the job market is shrinking for men with the addition of women labour force and also extra benefits to them in the name of women empowerment. Whereas Indian men are expected to build a house and family from scratch a woman is not made responsible for any contribution to her family. Any financial help sought from a housewife is considered a crime but on divorce, the woman gets entitled to all property, even the property inherited or inheritable by the man. Men are thrown out of their own houses on divorce and even well educated and employed women feel proud to get alimony. This in a way is forcing men into more depression and suicide.
Thus it can be concluded that even though women may be physically more prone to depression, Indian men are forced into this by modern feminism. The ever-growing male suicide is direct evidence of this. With several one-sided gender-biased laws playing havoc in men’s life any depressed women can file any false case on any man with impunity, thus making the lives of men even more depressing. Indian men need to suffer for some mentally unstable or women suffering from BPD and the result is a high rate of suicide among men. It is thus the need of the hour that depression among men is taken more seriously and appropriate measures are put in place to improve the situation for men.
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