Amidst huge uproar around the Leslee Udwin’s documentary “India’s Daughter” for BBC world, that has violated so many norms that Indian authorities’ have to do soul searching about the security lapses which has become a great concern today.
Even though it was clear to many that Mukesh’s interview could have been scripted and he could have been asked to say what he said, because his words, context of use, intonation, voice modulation, a conviction in voice was good enough for a close viewer to understand that his portion might be scripted by the filmmaker herself.
Read – Is “India’s Daughter” scripted?
There are also reports that suggest that BBC has a history of making fake documentaries –
But in a mood of outrage, emotional men who want to protect their women forget all rational thinking when news like Dimapur lynching comes up alongside a fake video like “India’s Daughter”. There is enough evidence against the filmmaker Leslee Udwin that she wanted to malign India and specifically Indian men through her video and also raised questions and the Indian mindset of being protective of her women.
The views expressed by many Indian men that women should not roam freely at night after a certain time etc. comes from the overprotective attitude of theirs. Indian patriarchy forces Indian men to save their women, they feel safe when their women are safe. Many of these Indian men are visibly overprotective when they comment women should not move freely after a certain time at night. What they don’t understand is that as a society we need overall safety ensured rather than being protective partially and creating unnecessary barriers.
If we look at this protective Indian society, we will realize such barriers exist for our boys too. Even when boys come late our mothers get afraid. This never becomes an issue because Indian men’s rights activists have better issues to deal with. Only the feminists who get easy funding from men can have the luxury of making everything a women’s rights issue.
For a moment let’s forget that the BBC documentary was done with criminal intent to malign India and Indian men and concentrate only on the message that created huge uproar worldwide; we will know that the radical views of some men featured in the video were projected as Indian view. It is basically the restrictive view that suggests the restriction of women’s movement.
Recently Amnesty International had a similar smear campaign in Bangalore Social Media Week (SMWBangalore) where they have demanded (citing Shakti Mills case, Mumbai) that women need safety measures to go anywhere, anytime. Ironically, even as a man, I set restrictions on myself in going to criminally infested areas or deserted places in wee hours of the day. I can’t blame police or authorities if I get terribly mugged up at those places. Many would raise questions about why I went there in the evening. Let’s face it – we do have criminals around and NO society is free of criminals. We need to take some responsibility for our own safety and that can’t become a rights issue all the time.
But feminists love to make such videos a big issue. They want to shame every man for putting restrictions on women which more likely comes from men’s protective nature.
Recently in Bangalore on the occasion of cycle day, two feminist leaders felt offended by the following posters of MRAs–
Initially, they tried to snatch the banners, failing which they called MRAs dogs and tried to shame men by citing the BBC video, “Indias Daughter”. Their point was that as men we should have felt sorry for the video. Just imagine some feminists standing with their banners shaming men, and some MRAs trying to pull those banners away. Don’t you see that as a huge global issue and the UN giving a statement on that? Truly feminists want to make every Indian man feel sorry for a crime they had never committed. Many men feel sorry too and that is because Indian men are protective in nature and any violation of women makes them feel as if they are responsible for the crime even without doing anything.
So lastly, I had to intervene and remind those feminists that they were criminals who wanted to shame their own nation based on views of a criminal.
At this outset, I remember one event on International Men’s Day (IMD) at Kolkata in 2014. In that meet one retired Supreme Court judge who himself got a false rape case was promoting gender-biased laws and was advocating for more such laws. Another popular male Bengali actor was openly bashing men for celebrating IMD. I am amazed to see the stark difference in situations on IMD and IWD.
Men are bashed everywhere and it is the men themselves who feel proud of the same. Men feel proud when they shame their own gender because all these men feel it is their duty to save women around them and hence they bash other men for any crime against women. Unfortunately, when each one of them continues bashing the other, they actually end up bashing one another for the crimes they had never committed but still feel sorry.
Women, on the other hand, do not have this problem. They can conveniently get all facilities and still blame men for everything. Men by nature are apologetic and they take all feminist shit openly. In turn, these men expect other men to behave in the same manner, too. But women never feel sorry for crimes committed by other women. If they did, they would have demanded severe punishment for every false rape complainant or for women like Rohtak sisters.
It is this NEED of being the best protector for their women that makes men more competitive with each other and shame each other. The men who openly endorsed the BBC video ‘India’s Daughter’ saying the views were Indian society’s view actually proved that they too endorsed the same views. Many Indian men felt proud of it. They openly defied the ban and shared the video on social media. They ended up shaming their gender as a whole.
But did this introspection help these overprotective Indian men? These are the men who had gone nuts after Dec 2012 Delhi incident as well. These are the men who violently protested every rape, these are the men who had brutally lynched a rape accused in Dimapur but still in India’s Daughter they were accused of having the mindset of a rapist. In short, the overprotective men who wanted to save their women were termed as rapists by the same women they wanted to save.
These women were never repentant of this act, too. These are the women who had gone everywhere to shame men. In fact, what these women did was only to shame men and blame men for everything. They spit on the men who save them, they create videos like “India’s daughter” and slap the men hard, but still, the protective breeds of Indian men do not understand that no matter what they do to save their women, feminist criminals will always shame them by making videos like “India’s Daughter”.