I was fortunate enough to get an opportunity to join the innovation conclave INK Live at Mumbai this year. This opportunity came to me for winning a blogging activity @Blogadda collaborating with another international blogger.
Such opportunities come only once in a while and I didn’t want to miss the same. Unfortunately for me during the same time Tata Literature Fest was also held in Mumbai. But I took this as opportunity cost and decided to fly to Mumbai from Bangalore for this conference.
Registration started at the venue from 8 am. I was surprised to see the security arrangement at the venue. Even airports don’t have such strict security measure. A few of the first day’s sessions were mind blowing. I am waiting for those videos to be up on the web by the INK team so that I can blog about the sessions that I liked or disliked the most.
By the time I settled down I started glancing through the INK Live schedule given to me by the organizers and noticed that my favourite singers Shantanu and Monali was set to hit the stage and I was indeed very much delighted when Laxmi finally called them on stage. They sang my favourite Rabindra Sangeets. One of them was “Jodi Tor Daak Sune Keu Naa Aase, Tobe Ekla Chalo Re” (if no one comes forward with you, please proceed alone) was very apt for the conference.
We Bengalis are always obsessed with Tagore’s music but at times they become the obvious choice as Tagore is the only one poet who had created at least one song for each occasion. For example, the song I mentioned above was apt for all the INK fellows and speakers who had set their own path and shown the way to others. They have gone down their success path alone.
Other impactful performers of the day were Team Indus, Arunima Sinha, Hamish Patel, Nameet, Ugesh Sarkar. One interview that I felt was full of lies was with the team SatyaMev Jayate. Directors Satyajit Bhatkal and his wife Swati Bhatkal spoke about their television show that I could realize was full of lies, but they were the only ones to get standing ovation on the first day at both the venues.
Swati told Laxmi that they conceptualized the show in 2010 when Amir came to them and urged about a social show on television. They considered television as a strong medium to convey message to the people and hence they have formed a small team and started doing research on the topics they needed to cover in their show.
The Satyamev Jayate (SMJ) team (Satyajit and Swati) were speaking about their episode on female feticide when Swati mentioned how she had met 62,000 mothers all over the country for that one episode. She mentioned that she was the only mother in their unit, she had to travel all over India to meet all 62,000 mothers herself. She told that she wanted to capture the female feticide issue from a mother’s angle as the gender ratio at birth might not be correct interpretation of female feticide even though she considered that as significant indicator.
To confirm their claim, the SMJ team also showed a video of a mother (with blurred face) who they claimed had to kill her unborn daughter, which was her second daughter. They had to shoot her video when her husband and in-laws were not around and they had only four hours to convince her and shoot the entire video. The story of the mother showed that her husband and in-laws had forced her to abort her unborn child while she continued crying in vain.
The video was heart breaking. It was mind wrecking, any normal human being will start thinking after the video that how could any person be so cruel to kill unborn babies like this. Even my eyes were moistened by their video, but soon my logical mind took over.
The following questions came to my mind –
- How did the Satyamev Jayate team come to know about these mothers when Swati herself agreed that making a mother convince to talk about feticide is not easy?
- Swati herself said that she had to travel all over the country to meet those mothers and they were not at the same place. So the second question came to my mind was – when she had to travel, get appropriate time out from these mothers when their in-laws were not around would have taken her substantial time. How could they manage the time, because even one hour discussion with one mother would mean –
62,000 X 1 = 62,000 hours = 62,000 / 24 days = 2583 days = 7 years
Since Swati had also affirmed in the same interview that she had met every mother personally to know their perspective, she wouldn’t have done this without spending at least seven years non stop meeting with the mothers. If she had to travel then this time increases drastically. When we know that the show was conceptualized only in 2010 and we have not yet reached 2017, we know how BIG lie the Satyamev Jayate (SMJ) team had said in the conference. But since everyone was emotional after watching the video no one realized that and they got standing ovation from the entire crowd at both the venues.
Another question came to mind. Why did they leave her house in hurry and never raised police complaints against her and her in-laws? in this way, they have only supported the crime that needed to be nipped in the bud. All these questions led to only one conclusion. The interview and the entire SMJ show was full of lies.
I was wondering why the SMJ team had to tell such a big lie and fool all illuminates present there. One reason came to my mind was their propaganda since SMJ is being aired again. But once I could catch their lies, immediately I realized another reason of their seemingly working for mother’s perspective to understand the issue of female feticide. It is explained below –
For a long time Men’s Rights Groups have been challenging the feminist created myth of female feticide in India. This was strengthened when we discovered from UNDP Human Development Report (HDR 2013) that statistically natural gender ratio at birth is 105 : 100 (Male : Female, when there is no feticide). In this article of mine earlier I have shown why India’s female feticide is a bog hoax –
If female feticide existed then male feticide also existed in India but that is never highlighted. Also from various men’s rights groups we have always demanded strict punishments for mothers involved in the female feticide. The interview of the SMJ team only clarified that they just wanted to clear the confusion through their programprogram, that it is NOT the mothers but the Indian fathers and their families who are cruel to the girl child. To prove that they needed a video like the one shown in INK Talks 2014 and claim that they wanted to capture the mother’s perspective.
In one of my earlier articles written on August 6, 2013 I have exposed how a similar lie was told by a foreign film maker Evan Grae Davis to promote his own film –
Attendees of TED Talks were also fooled at that time. Actually anyone who considers oneself as a human being will be shamed by these videos. When Indian MRAs filed criminal complaint against him for not filing police complaint against the mother for killing her children but for showing her happy face in his video, feminists came back with women crying videos for shaming Indian men. SMJ team too had not filed any police complaints against the mothers or families and hence the same criminal cases need to be filed against them as well.
This kind of malicious propaganda affects our psyche very badly and I shall explain the same below –
As a man when we see these videos we generate opinion about other men that they are cruel and start doubting other men around us. While we doubt other unknown men around us, they also do the same and some of them end up hating us. In a way men lose faith in each other or in other words all Indian men become criminals to someone or the other. But we don’t understand this and happily give-in to the blatant lies and create misandry ourselves o. In a way we create hatred against ourselves or feel guilty for a crime never committed by us.
When a woman sees these malicious videos they start fearing men around them and start considering men as cruel. They become reserved, protective of their own selves and react violently even to seemingly trivial incidents. This happens because these videos enforce a sense of insecurity perpetrated by the men in their mind and gradually all men lose their values.
As a society we create a mindset of stricter laws and generate opinion through such programs. Then one fine day an incident is blown out of proportion to pass an outrageous law that no one understands how damaging could be in future. This is the way new rape law was passed after the Delhi incident in Dec 2012.
A completely opposite perception is created in our minds when in fact women ask for killing their babies as right but when those are never highlighted in media or shows like SMJ –
I was shocked to realize the truth and was shocked that all the INK attendees were smoothly fooled by the SMJ team.
So when they claimed of receiving 19 lakh letters for their episode on child sexual abuse or their story of how a uncle narrated that a father had raped his own daughter seemed other great lies to me. But sitting at INK Live I could not question them, questions were not allowed in the show.
The first day at INK Live ended with soulful music by Joi Barua which unfortunately was not that great.
The first day’s show had increased my expectations about the subsequent days. Especially at the INK live we were fortunate to have workshops for the participants. Every INK Live participant was given an opportunity to take part in two workshops. I have chosen the Origami and Dell workshops.
Second day the program had many interesting speeches lined up. Among them, speakers like Shravani Hagargi of Safe Hands, Kenneth Sebastian the Musician, Melati and Isabel Wijsen of ‘Bye Bye Plastic’ and Bhavesh Bhatia were outstanding. The story of the Bali kids and our para-Olympian Bhavesh inspired me the most. Both of them received standing ovation for their outstanding contribution to the society. I was lucky to attend their speeches on second day as my Origami workshop was postponed for next day.
The Day 2 at INK Talks ended with a performance by Dharavi Rocks that I missed as my Mumbai friends had called me for a movie. But I dared to move out of the venue as earlier that day Usha Uthup mesmerized us with her scintillating performance. Once again she had proved why she is considered as a great crowd puller and entertainer.
She made the crowd at both the venues stand up and dance. The picture at the INK live auditorium was something like this –
I had no option but to tweet the image. Actually I wanted make others who didn’t attend this conference feel jealous.
Percussionist Bickram Ghosh was another attraction of second day and he had shown innovation in music. His Jugalbandi with drum was good to watch but I expected more from that show.
On the second day, Dell had organized a contest for the participants there. Participants visiting the Dell store could win a Dell tab if they were lucky. Many tried their luck but in vain. No one could win the tab till the end and I was the first person to try my luck and fail. L
However, I was lucky enough to meet another Mumbai blogger Oindrila De on that day at the venue. Oindrila has shared her experience about blogging with blogger platforms and it was good to know her at the venue.
The third day at the conference, November 2 was a bit relaxing. I missed a few talks as I had to attend the Origami workshop. The young artists who conducted the workshop could make us understand the basics of Origami in the timeframe given. I enjoyed the session while I did repent missing some awesome presentations and interviews at the main seminar as well.
The conference ended before lunch around 2:00 pm. But before that it was Usha Uthup mesmerized the audience again with her scintillating performance in her sari. Her Kolaveri Di made everyone’s day and ended the conference in a happy and exciting note only to come back next year.
All the INK Live attendees took a group photo in the end before we dispersed.
At the end of the conference it felt as if it was very short-lived. I only hope that it will come again next year and I will get an opportunity to be a part of INK Talks in 2015.
This blog is to thank Blogadda and INK talks organizers for inviting me for the conference. The ideas presented proved that it was worth my travel. I could be happier if I could expose the SMJ team at the venue for creating deep rooted misandry and shame for Indian men.
Let us know what punishment you want for SMJ team for spreading lies against Indian men in the name of showing the suffering of women?
* First image courtesy – INK Talks website