This is in reply to the feminists who are against WomenAgainstFeminism movement
Currently world over there is a huge debate going on whether feminism is dead. The recent movement of WomenAgainstFeminism on Facebook, Tumblr and Twitter has definitely given a much needed jolt to feminism. The campaigners of Women Against Feminism has categorically expressed that they are not a Men’s Rights Movement and they should not be considered as MRAs. But this movement is of great significance to MRM as well.
Feminists say that feminism is a movement for freedom, equality, choice, love, compassion, respect, solidarity and education. Their argument is because there is crime against women existing in the world feminism is needed. They quote examples of a Pakistani woman being beaten to death for marrying her choice of man but they don’t understand that even men are killed like this for marrying against their family wish. So it is a crime against humanity and not specifically against women. Also this is still considered as a crime in that country and not promoted as a national pride.
Feminists quote example from Niger where a poor girl is sold to a businessman double her age and forced to carry his baby against her will. Yes it is a crime but not specifically against women because poor people around the globe is always traded like this. If women are traded for sex, men / boys are traded as bonded labourer. It is a human rights issue and not specifically a women’s rights issue.
Feminists say that because a physiotherapy student was brutally gangraped in India so feminism needs to be there as a movement of equality. What they don’t understand or want others to understand that this kind of rape is always considered as a heinous crime even in these countries and feminism has NOTHING to do with it. So called, Indian patriarchy including its MRM didn’t ever promote such crime and hence it is purely unnecessary to think that such crime only happens against women. Worst still to consider that we need an entire movement to stop this. There are many men who are murdered even more brutally and those are not considered as a Men’s oppression issues.
Problem is crime and criminals always existed no matter how strict the law was made and it will exist in future too. That does not mean we need to consider crime only one way. Well it is more true in Indian context. As in India female to male rape is NOT considered as a crime, domestic violence by females on men is considered as a laughing matter, Harassment is only considered as a crime when a woman complaints and so on and so forth.
Feminists say there is less number of women at the top of corporate world and that is discrimination. WTH..what these feminists do not understand that for any position you need to display proper skillsets and prove to be fit so that you can acquire that position. Also no one has ever stopped a woman from starting a new business and become a global CEO. That is how Bill Gates and the likes are successful today. There is no one stopping a woman from doing that. In fact in India with so many facilities for women it is even more easy for them. But one needs to have that urge to start business.
Similarly feminists theory of pay gap is also fictitious. If for same skillsets and for the same results delivered a corporation can get women employers at less cost why should they hire men at all? If any woman is paid less for equal responsibilities there may be many reasons behind that, including her lack of negotiation power. Today many of my friends get paid more than I do and I can’t generalize that to my oppression.
To prove their point feminists have gone many steps ahead. They question why number of female judges in most TV shows less compared to men – lol..if men are less in these panels I don’t think that will be a MRM issue. We don’t have time for such trivial things. While I understand that it is upto the sponsors to decide the judges’ panel. In fact in many Indian shows I have seen more women panelists who we consider as experts in that area and never felt BAD about it. No wonder why we think that feminists feel better to be oppressed always.
Dieting products aiming women not men, women used as sex objects in ads – Maintaining one’s figure is of prime importance to anyone. Healthy living should be anyone’s top priority. That is why we see Pakistani singer Adnan Sami slimming down drastically. This is true for any man in showbiz. I never knew that proposing something good can be oppression. Also the male and female sexuality work differently. No matter what feminists try to refute, it is proven scientifically that men are sexually more attracted to women by their physical beauty. This is why women’s physical beauty is projected to sell almost every product. When feminists themselves say that a woman’s body is most beautiful artwork in the world then how does that become making them sex object when feminists think so?
Now let’s see some of the most shameful demands of feminists. They say shaving underarm or removing hair from the body is discriminatory. In today’s world when personal hygiene is of utmost importance and where even many men do the same, this theory of oppression / discrimination is somewhat hilarious rather than serious. Another campaign that feminists have come up with was “Manifesto for visibility of period” as they say that tampon or sanitary napkin is a male invention to oppress the female gender. Some of their campaigners have come out protesting like this –
We can only tell them that shitting is also natural phenomenon. You can carry that too along with you and display the natural phenomenon.
Feminists also say trying to have a baby or wearing feminine clothes is sexism, it is oppression. By terming everything feminine as oppression are the feminists themselves not making their gender inferior compared to that of masculine gender? If a man is not ashamed of wearing manly clothes why should a female be ashamed of wearing it? Why do they need to copy men to be empowered? Why can’t they be empowered as women? I am also not able to understand why trying to have a baby simply because someone is a woman is oppression? Even as a man I want to have a child, so? Does that mean I am oppressed? How can we be empowered by going against the nature and forcing something on us?
Feminists also ask these women whether they look at the mirror from the eyes of a man or from the eyes of herself? That is whether she wants to acceptable to a man or to herself. But the problem is trying to be attractive to the opposite gender is what we all want to, how is that oppression? No matter how much we say the opposite gender should accept us no matter what we are or what we do, we always try to be attractive to them. That is nature that is what all species on earth do. Looks like feminists want to make women a different species.
Feminists talk about disparity everywhere. They say women do not have right to work in every sector. In India I know women are not allowed in mining industry but that is not to oppress them. That is to save them from unnecessary dangers of that industry. In fact this is oppression for men that men are pushed to do these dangerous jobs for ages. But we have never complained.
Lastly this campaign of death penalty from Indian feminists. We don’t need to say anything what the feminists want by creating a sustained outrage around rape in India while only the common peace loving, law abiding citizens run for life –
Image from internet
Dear feminists, please don’t think that the gender roles can be exactly the same. It can not be the same. Men and women exist for different purpose and like it or not their biological factors are decided by mother-nature and not a conspiracy against womanhood. We may alter some of the factors as we evolve but do not ever try to make women as identical to men. There need not be any battle to prove supremacy over other gender. What is needed is to understand each other’s strengths and weaknesses and complement each other and NOT to create a competition for everything. The earlier you realize this, the more you will remain acceptable to the world. Else the women against feminism will eliminate you for good.