What If Alimony Is Made A Right for Women

Recently in many quarters, there is a demand for making alimony as a right to women. Many feminist organizations are seeking this as a right stating that divorced women undergo a lot of hardships after divorce and hence most of the time it becomes difficult for them to fight a court battle for alimony and many choose not to fight for the same. As a result, many of them suffer irreparable damages post their divorce.

Whereas these feminists always have projected a miserable image of Indian women but in reality, it is observed that the benefits of our alimony/maintenance laws are claimed by women who are working in reputed multinationals or in prestigious institutions. It is observed that men who suffer false criminal cases on divorce many times lose their job yet they are asked to pay maintenance to their wife by the courts. It is also observed that many women who work in reputed organizations leave their job so that they get alimony and after getting the same they again take up a job or get married. But even if these women take up a second job or get married the second time there is no mechanism to repay the previous husband the amount claimed as alimony by her.

This is creating a crisis situation among men as many times they need to take a personal loan to meet the alimony demand of their wives. If the man loses his job in between he still needs to pay the money or repay the loan. Most of the time they can not even think of remarrying and have a second life as they go bankrupt due to huge losses suffered in their first divorce. In a way the lives of these men are ruined for good and they become lonely. There is another psychological impact on these men as they can not trust any other woman for their future marriage and think of the uncertain behaviour of their future wife.

This is a serious issue raging this society that needs immediate attention from all concerned. With the new feminist demand for making alimony a right for women will only make things worse for men in the days to come. But many people and society at large still do not think of this as a big issue and even educated, empowered and working women demand and claim alimony on divorce from their husband and feel proud about it.

Alimony or Free Income, without doing anything

At the outset, it is very important to understand that this gender-biased thought process of only a man responsible for paying alimony and a woman responsible for getting alimony is wrong especially when we are talking about equality. This gender-biased approach creates an unnecessary burden on a man as it shows that maintaining a wife even when she is NOT present with a man is the responsibility of the man. In an era when we talk about equality in rights, we also need to talk about equality in responsibilities undertaken and no spouse should be allowed to be a burden on the other spouse simply based on gender. Because if that happens then the marriage will become a money-making and property transfer institution which is very wrong.

The proposition of making alimony as a right becomes outrageous when a woman’s contribution to a marriage is not specified and may be termed as dowry and a criminal offence; it is made legitimate and as a right when the man pays the same. So marriage becomes an institution where money flows only one way from the man to the woman whereas ideally, a relationship is the responsibility of both.

But even if we consider alimony in a gender-neutral way and talk about it as a right to any spouse that will be a wrong approach. It is because a ‘right’ is something that the state needs to ensure and provide. For example when we say education is a right to the citizens it becomes a state responsibility to ensure free education up to a certain level. The state can not force some private institution or any person to do the same. If alimony is considered as a right then the state needs to provide the same and the husband cannot be forced for the same. So we understand that alimony can never be considered as a right to any spouse.

So we understand that alimony needs to be considered in a gender-neutral way and can not be a right to anyone. However, it should not be a practice for any spouse to get alimony simply because of their marriage, there are other factors that need to be considered.

The first factor that needs to be considered is the ability of the person to maintain himself/herself. This is derived out of his / her education, skills, working experience etc. So a highly qualified spouse cannot be allowed to get alimony lest we as a society want to encourage parasitism. But even in these cases one not employed for a long time may not find himself/herself easily employable in the current highly competitive job market. And the alimony needs to be allowed wisely only to cover the employability concerns and only for a brief period of time so that the less capable spouse is given a reprieve for a limited period of time (a few months). This is what we see in countries positioned high in gender equality e.g. Sweden or in the Netherlands.

Question is what happens when one spouse is not capable of finding any job or employment opportunity because of very limited skills. It is even serious because in India we have high unemployment and under-employment problem. It becomes even more difficult for a spouse to find employment when one does not work for a long time.

For all such cases, our Govt. needs to have a citizen’s welfare program to improve their skills and make them employable. The reason is simple, any person earns or develops the capability to earn based on one’s capabilities for which the other spouse is not responsible. One may have several qualities that may bring fortune to him/her whereas these cannot be attributed to the other spouse always. Hence the other spouse can not claim the benefits of the high income.

One popular thought process to counter the above reasoning is that because of housewives taking care of the family and household activities the high earning spouse (the husband) is able to earn a high income. So the wife becomes a 50% shareholder of the property that the husband earns during the matrimonial period. However, this is not true always. There are many wives who create negative thought and hinder the husband from earning. Many suspecting women or adulterous wives make lives of their husband hell and these husbands undergo tremendous stress in their personal as well as professional life. There are many women who do not take care of household activities that they are supposed to perform. Since there are no responsibilities that can be legally enforced on the housewives making them eligible for alimony will only make marriage an extortion tool.

However, those who demand alimony as a right for the women say that household work needs to be valued more. The proposers of this thought claim that because the wife does all the household work the husband can peacefully earn and be employed in the first place. Hence she becomes the owner of his 50% property.

However, an analysis of the global time spent on household activities show us that Indian housewives spend around 5 hours every day which is on the higher side in the global scenario.

Time spent in household work by housewives

However, the people fighting for Men’s rights say that if we include housework in GDP and value it at a higher level we do not consider the following –

  1. When we consider a family is the responsibility of both the spouse the responsibilities of each spouse need to be defined. If the man is supposed to earn and feed the family then wife’s responsibility of the household work also need to be defined and any wife not doing that need to be held responsible and can not be given alimony or maintenance.
  2. Since a man can not claim additional benefit for earning money and providing for the family a woman too cannot claim additional benefit for doing her duty e.g. household work.
  3. A man always works under stress in a highly competitive environment with a chance of losing his job anytime. Whereas a wife does not have any competition in her household work. So these two jobs cannot be equated.
  4. A man’s work is always evaluated and his pay is determined not only by his qualities, experience, skills of the job etc but an evaluation of household work is never done that way. If we need to make household work valued at a higher level then all quality parameters, work hours, leave etc. need to be fixed beforehand.
  5. A man also contributes a lot in household work as his duty. These also need to be considered for evaluation.
  6. If we want to value the household work more then the families that keep maids for supporting the wife in her daily chores also need to be paid more. Also if the household chore is the woman’s responsibility then it is she who needs to pay for these maids since getting these done is her responsibility.

We have seen that housewives have round the clock responsibility of the family whereas the husband can enjoy weekly offs and restricted working hours. Indian women always have qualms about their 24X7 working schedule which also needs to be looked into.

If we consider equality and equal responsibility in a family then the husband cannot be over demanding from a wife and need to share household responsibilities. If that is not possible then they may consider taking the help of electrical equipment to reduce the household workload. However, the families having children it may not be possible. No electronic gadget can replace a mother’s love or care. Even keeping an ayaa may not be good for the family.

So it is seen that for the cases where children are involved the alimony or maintenance need to be looked into differently. But modern society has seen a different problem even in families with children.

Many times husbands find out that their wife having an illicit relationship and many of these wives carry child outside their marriage. Most of the time even though the husband comes to know that he is forced to pay maintenance for the child or the wife and our legal system take many years even to come to any logical conclusion. The problem in these cases is these housewives become eligible for maintenance and alimony simply because they don’t have employability in the job market. MRAs say if they were doing household work (cooking etc.) she can still work as a cook or an ayaa somewhere to support herself because no one can be made to depend on another person for lifelong as that will adversely affect our economy. This is because if we don’t consider the behaviour of a wife in a marital relationship marriage will only be extortion tool for these unscrupulous women who will opt for free lunch called marriage while they continue their unchaste behaviour.

It is thus observed that the discussion of alimony is not easy. Also, lifelong support for a spouse only creates an adverse impact to the economy and if the man is asked to pay maintenance always it creates a group of people (men) who only works like slave while few women enjoy the free lunch provided by patriarchy. This system of free alimony to women also undermines the effort of the women who works hard and takes up responsibility both at work and at home. It undermines the women who spend years in a marital bond and worked for the prosperity of her family and the benefits of the work done by these women go to the unscrupulous criminal women simply because of marriage. Moreover, when the money given by the woman to a man is considered as dowry and crime, how can alimony be even considered legal and as a right? Because both dowry and alimony are in fact two sides of the same coin.


If you think this article was a useful read for you, please share this with others and spread this knowledge. You may also want to check my other articles as all of them are equally interesting. If you are outrageous and think this is biased then still you share with others to have a healthy discussion on this topic. My blog is open to the feminists to share their free opinion as well.

Today even working or capable of working women ask alimony as right and men are asked to “Beg, Borrow, Steal” to maintain such wives. Do you want to be the one to see yourself on the receiving end due to such criminal women who need to be punished but get free lunch? If not protest today against this. Alimony can’t be a right for anyone.



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  1. Wonderful, 100% true thing mention by you in this article..dowry and alimony two sides of same coin when dowry given or taken is illegal by law then alimony should also be illegal if given or take..but nobody thinking about this.Feminist created all this in the name of abla nari jo aaj kal hain sabpar bhari..
    women empowerment spoil our culture,our family and spoiling whole india.


  2. Partha,

    You are absolutely right. I had to pay huge amount as permanent alimony in order to get my divorce after she is found to be having illicit affair with her colleague (PT Teacher) which happily she is still continuing.
    (note: I have not taken any dowry and used to transfer more than half my salary into her account for household maintenance and her expenses – the money she earned from her job (teacher) – she used to keep)
    She took my son and I had to let him go since she told me that she’ll kill him and go for suicide if I claim any rights / fight for him / take him to my place. Now, I am in a situation where I cannot trust any working woman/lady/girl and as of now prefer to be lonely…
    I am 37 now, robbed of my life savings, with still 4 lakhs of debt (for the remaining money taken from friends to pay for part of alimony), own flat took on home loan sold to pay her.. so staying in rented house…life really becomes hell because of these type of women…

    Once again, You are absolutely on point.. Thanks and keep writing which encourages men like us to live… Thanking you…Krishna


  3. Well great post…I am glad that you wrote because i have seen women torturing their good husband…but because of these lame laws men are helpless…of course ratio is less comparatively but we cant ignore it…thanks for writing Indians really need to wake up


  4. This whole concept of alimony for housework is farce let me cut through bull shit as I debunk housework 1.a wife is a human .Humans have to eat food to survive and they have to eat cooked food as they cannot eat raw.Wife,being human is cooking before eat


    • ing and sharing some of it with husband out of love and since he brought home raw material with his money2.washing .About washing a human has to wash clothes clean because otherwise diseases arrive She is just adding some more clothes to washing machine


  5. 3 Regarding washing utensils ,humans need to eat and drink in utensils and a wife is human she is washing utensils she used and some more of her husband as he might have sponsored the utensils and washing bar and paying water tax.3 Cleaning the house


  6. is necessary because humans get sick if place of residence is dirty.She is cleaning the room in which she is living and this she has to do even she is single and may be her husband brought her the vaccum cleaner.4 There is no law to punish a woman if she


  7. a woman who shuns housework and also she can appoint a maid to do housework with her money or husbands money if the husband is willing .A maid costs around 5000RS in Chennai far more cheaper than maintaining an unscrupulous wife and we can change her


  8. if she doesnt work well .Also nobody is forcing a lady to do housework She may very well get divorce and stay single and eat all the food for her stomach without sharing with her husband but she wont because who will give her free benefits?lets put a rule


  9. a rule that a man can divorce a wife for any reason and a woman can divorce her man for any reason and one who has more money gets the kids.1If this rule is followed a woman will take up arms against such rule and men will have heart attack with over


  10. happiness and joy and this starkly contrasting reactions between both the genders for the same rule shows who is more benefitting from marriage peace stop overvaluing women while undervaluing men peace


  11. Everytime I ask myself if this gynocentrism shit could get worse I realize that yes, yes, it could be way worse… Alimony as a right for women, horrendous!


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