Hailing from a middle-class Bengali family from a village called Bangaon in WB Swarup Sarkar was the only boy who has got an Engineering degree to his credit. No wonder why many girls’ fathers queued up with marriage proposals for their daughters.
He was a hardcore feminist before his marriage and believed in full freedom and independence of women but he never knew that the same belief would cost him dearly in his life.
His joy in marital life was shortlived and soon after his sister-in-law got married it was over. His in-laws started demanding money for their second daughter’s marriage and when he could not provide the same his own marriage was on rocks.
Sarkar’s pregnant wife who went to her parents’ house the marriage aborted the child she was carrying and informed him that it was a miscarriage. There were many ups and downs in his personal life after this and eventually Sarkar tried to patch up with her and stay together. But that arrangement was not successful too and very soon his wife’s true character was exposed when she got pregnant with a second child. In one of the doctor visits, he informed the doctor that she had a miscarriage earlier and the doctor wanted to see that report.
NDTV debate on Marriage Law Amendment
To his utter shock and dismay, she started fighting with him for informing the doctor about the miscarriage and eventually the relationship was in turmoil again. He was gifted with all kinds of criminal cases alongside divorce. The typical feminist man Sarkar realized the danger of feminism for the first time.
He lost all his hopes in life and wanted to commit suicide because of the false cases. He was searching for the different methods of committing suicide when he came across a blog giving details of India’s suicide statistics. Feminist Swarup Sarkar realized that only innocent feminists like him commit suicide silently. He decided to create awareness among the people about India’s suicide statistics and started a new fight for life. The blog that has given him a new lease of life eventually prompted him to save more lives and prohibited many men like me from committing suicide.
To start his battle Sarkar met with other people fighting against law misuse and created online forums. Gradually he realized that India needs a model to save the family system because the biased laws are slowly poisoning the Indian Family system. He along with other pioneers formed a yahoo groups called Save Indian Family. That eventually became popular as SIF.
Today SIF runs meetings all over the country as a big movement against the gender-biased laws and Siffians from all over the globe join hands together to fight against legal terrorism and misandry. SIF as the umbrella movement of men’s rights in India has established Indian men’s rights movement as the strongest in the world. A movement that has started as an awareness campaign eventually became the only platform to destroy the juggernaut called – feminism. Today a handful of SIF commandos can take on the behemoth of misandry head-on without fear and thus changes the legal scenario of the country.
Delhi SIF Commandos in a discussion with SIF veterans
The success of a movement can never be attributed to one single person especially when the movement runs across multiple cities and in multiple countries too. But the pillars like Swarup Sarkar has made it possible for the movement to crawl, grow and eventually become a shelter for the distressed families, like the banyan tree for the exhausted traveller.
Journey to this point was never been easy for Sarkar. He has to consciously give up his career and stuck to the same company for seven years just to have a work-life balance thus forgoing the huge chance of earning more salary, perks, and lucrative positions too. His social organization has gone through many criticisms including huge pressure from other leaders to make this a paid model as everyone said – “there is no free lunch”. Sarkar says “we are only giving harassed men a glass of water and not lunch. The day when we can provide lunch to these distressed people we will have a paid model established”.
But for the men in distress, this glass of water provided by SIF volunteers is nothing less than getting a new lease of life. Many men turn around in life after being counselled by the SIF counsellors, many come back to life from being on the verge of committing suicide thanks to the free glass of water provided by SIF.
Sarkar never worked keeping success or fame in mind, he only believes in working hard for a cause. Thanks to commandos like him today Indian men are heard in parliament, the sufferings of men are highlighted in media, the gender-biased laws are shunned by many prominent women too and Indian men’s rights are heard in forums like TED talks.
Today he and his organization do not seek money from anyone and helps those who do not even bother to understand the suffering of other fellow men. Many feminists come to his organization for help and Sarkar has already counselled around 8000 victims and families suffering from atrocities caused by gender-biased laws.
An avid researcher of laws of the land, a cricket lover, a travel freak, a corporate football player Swarup Sarkar also likes singing. He says my hobbies and social work keeps me alive and gives me life. Probably that is what gives life to many others too.
He is the role model for many, not only me. He is the one person who can change the mindset of staunch feminists, win arguments from multiple opponents and create a huge impact.