What is the perfect recipe of a happy marriage?
How does anyone know when even Einstein couldn’t figure it out?
We obviously don’t need a brain like Einstein to figure that out as there is no perfect formula for a happy marriage.
This movie tries to bring additional effects of marriage other than what any celibate can dream of. Vidya Balan (Trisha) and Farhan Akhtar (Sid) are the married couple in this movie. They try to bring out new formulas for happy marriage. Even though Sid says this as his funda of happy marriage “When I am at fault I apologize, when my wife is at fault I apologize”. Well this dialogue brings out the eternal truth that everyone knows and jokes about. The husband has to apologize in all situations to keep a marriage going. This is the only reason why for ages men had been apologizing for almost every mistake / nonsense of their wives and that has become a norm in India today.
The situation worsens as they become parents. Sid fails as a father and started envying his relative Ram Kapoor who scores much higher than him as a good father. So eventually Sid turns to Ram for advice on being a successful family man. Ram gives his path breaking tips about happy marriage – “A marriage becomes successful because of its innocent smaller lies”.
He gives Sid tips of staying away from family in the name of work as he does. Ram assures that this action will get Sid the much needed attention from his wife. This idea initially works fine as Sid started getting the attention back but eventually that attracts their neighbour young-star Shekhar to Trisha. Eventually Sid realizes his mistake as Trisha was getting too close to Shekhar and decides to stay with his family and work from his home studio. He divulges his secret to Trisha one day. Trisha becomes outrageous and throws him out of his own home.
Sid stays outside their flat for sometime as all neighbours pitied him and occasionally offered him food. Some children offered their tiffin too. Still he didn’t raise any police complaint against his wife for forcefully throwing him out of his own house. After a few days of torture like this eventually Trisha allowed him in to hear him out when she started throwing up giving a sign of her second pregnancy. Sid was happy this time but then Trisha divulges that the child is from their neighbour Shekhar.
With the news Sid breaks up in himself and takes their daughter and goes out of their home to a hotel. However the child was not ready to sleep without her mother and Sid comes back to Trisha the next day and wanted to patch up. He said – “Let’s forgive each other and start living a life together for the sake of our child, Mili”.
Eventually they patch up and Trisha divulges that the second child is also Sid’s child but she wanted to test whether he would give her a second chance and hence enacted that drama. Towards the end the movie shows Sid becoming a house husband taking care of the child and Trisha becoming a working woman and enjoying her life and staying in hotels away from the family.
Even though this movie has ingredients to attract audience but some of the messages spread by this movie are quite misandric.
- This movie says the truth about husband apologizing to wife for everything going wrong. Even though this was presented in a funny manner but a serious issue of domestic violence against men is thus covered up. The audience do not realize that it is a form of emotional abuse to men.
- This movie completely ignores the issue of domestic violence against men by throwing them out of their own home by their wife. It was shown that the no neighbour came forward to help Sid when he was living outside his own flat. Even though this shows the sorry state of affairs of Indian men but it does not send any message to the viewer about the importance of protesting such violence against men.
- The most shocking was to show that a husband staying away from his family in a PG or in a hotel as the same level of offense as wife getting pregnant with another man. As this movie shows that when Sid comes to know about Trisha’s pregnancy from their neighbour even though initially he protests and goes out, but eventually he comes back and pardons his wife. This is a very serious observation as these are subtle cues given to the audience that a husband staying outside his family but not for engaging into any kind of sexual activity with other women but for his own mental peace is equivalent level of cruelty to the wife getting sexually involved with another man. This is how prostitution is brought into our families and movies like this try to justify the same.
This movie presents many dimensions of domestic violence against men but this does not make the audience serious about the same and does not make them realize that domestic violence against men need to be equally punished. Rather by bringing a hilarious touch to the same problem this movie tries to dilute the problem. Adultery is a seriously growing crime in India and many Indian men are forced to take all responsibilities of their wife’s illicit children while the women continues to take all advantages of the adultery laws. However, this movie shamefully tries to justify the same.