First published on CNN
Recently in India, a woman activist has slapped a man in a live national TV debate.
For those who do not understand Hindi, the man Ezaz Khan wanted to make a point in the debate when she was continued to interrupt him. The debate was on his party’s stand on some social issue. When he could not get into the conversation he said to her “whether she wanted to cry like that or allow him to speak”. To this Sharma has said ‘Shut Up’ and started showing her temper. Then Ezaz raised his voice in reply and reminded her that “she was misbehaving with him and should behave herself first”.
Since Ezaz shouted on a lady on a national live TV debate, the anchor demanded an immediate apology from Ezaz. The Anchor who is clearly having a biased feministic view of empowerment did not consider that it was the woman in question who raised her voice first and said: “Shut UP”. With this Ezaz was not happy and refused to apologize. He said he has not used any wrong language in the debate but she has instead used ‘none sense’ against him. With this she got violent and he gets a tight slap from her on the live show.
Later in her media interview on this matter, Sharma claimed that Khan was misbehaving with her throughout the debate. She demanded that he called her ‘mentally ill’, ‘shameless’ ‘cheap’ and that she was ‘greedy for party ticket’ earlier in the debate and hence earned the slap.
Even though the entire video is not available to be viewed but for discussion purpose even if we consider her claim to be true that does not allow her to take the law of the land in her own hands. She could have filed a complaint and criminal case of “outraging the modesty” or defamation or whatever she wanted. In fact, this act of slapping itself puts her modesty in question and shows how much a woman can stoop to take all benefits of law and still claim oppressed.
It is also important to note that earlier she has also approached Indian Men’s Rights Communities and offered to extend her support to the groups if they had paid her. Point to note, here is Indian Men’s Rights Groups work on a voluntary basis where no activist is paid anything for their social work. It is also important to note that she claims to be a social activist who was earlier in BJP, parted her ways with BJP and joined AAP only to part her ways sooner and being a rebel.
From the incidents of her supporting a voluntary community for money, changing political parties frequently show how vague her claim to be a social or political activist may be apart from casting doubt on her stability and ethics.
It is important to note here for the international audience is that Mr. Ezaz Khan was defending the debate in favor of his own party AAP and Ms. Sharma (who has just come out of the party after a short stint) was accusing the party. It was but natural for Ezaz to try to put forward his points when he was not allowed to speak while he was continued to be violated. In fact, the anchor of the show allowed him to talk but Ms. Sharma continued speaking and did not allow him to speak up.
This incidence on national TV shows the state of feminism in India. It is long been projected to international communities that India with its patriarchal culture oppresses women. However, we have not seen a similar incidence happening against a woman (a man slapping a woman openly on national TV) ever. Instead, this incidence tells us how empowered women are in India today.
Today Indian women don’t even allow men to talk and have the audacity to slap a man without being charged with a criminal offense. It is also shocking to note the role of TV anchor who is a woman has asked the man to apologize when all he wanted was to speak up and talk about his party’s (remember he was defending in the debate) stand on the matter. From the video clip, it is found that it was he who was supposed to speak up on the issue but Ms. Sharma was not letting him speak and when he reminded her that she misbehaved with him and she has slapped him.
There is another aspect to this whole video. The anchor has shown extreme biases against men and never tried to stop the woman for overshooting her time or being immodest on a national TV, the same point for which she has asked the man to apologize. This shows clear disrespect for a man by her and by her TV channel as well.
This incidence also clarifies that Indian men respect their women too much and even in self-defense men do not retaliate. If Ezaz had retaliated in this case he could have been arrested immediately under different sections of outraging the modesty of a woman. In fact, this is the advantage Sharma took and she clearly told that in another social forum. This shows another bitter truth about India. It is not women but in reality, even the most empowered, modern and highly placed male political leader cannot save himself from violence by women. This raises a serious question that if men in India are really oppressive then why the so-called patriarchal Indian society never raised its voice strongly enough against this crime committed by a woman and made her apologize on a national TV.
This incidence was followed by another shameful and hurtful incidence. AAP has detached itself from Ezaz instantly. With that decision, AAP has shown great disrespect not only for their own partymen who support the party but also promoted violence against men, violence against minorities (remember Ezaz Khan is from a minority community) and denied justice to the victim based on gender. So in a way, AAP has promoted gender discrimination too. This shows the dirty Indian politics that in one hand talks of empowering minorities but in reality checks their vote bank before doing anything. Clearly here AAP supported a woman because women consist of 49% of the Indian vote bank.
This video also busts the myth that Indian women can’t be violent. In fact, it reminds us of the hard reality that if we consider women as equal and if we consider them as human beings, we also need to consider them as likely to be violent and abusive. Hence this shows a dire need to make all Indian laws gender neutral and punish all such acts of violence irrespective of gender. Just imagine if this can happen on a national live TV show, then what happens inside four walls of Indian homes.
This also reminds us of another bitter and hidden truth. Indian fathers today can’t save their own children from the wrath of their mothers, because of the fear of getting falsely implicated in criminal cases. Today our children suffer abuses silently in the hands of their mothers. This situation is aggravated by the fact that the children welfare is being looked after by the same ministry that looks after women welfare and there is no ministry or national commission to look after the welfare of men in India. So this shows how important and urgent it is to form a national commission for men and also to separate the Ministry for Children Welfare from the Women Development Ministry.
In a nutshell, this slap was not on Ezaz’s face alone but it was on entire Indian society. It shows how poorly we treat Indian men who have only upheld women sanctity and respect in all matters including this one. This busts the politics of women empowerment in India and shows Indian men do not have any justice from the legal system there. Here women criminals move freely and claim everything as their right and take law into their own hands. This is a slap that takes away respect from deserving women too as a potential misuse of the law. This shows extreme disrespect for Indian legal system and lawmakers to show they can be abused for one’s personal interest. Overall this is a highly shameful incidence that needs immediate and harshest legal punishment to the woman and the TV channel. Both are guilty of abetting a crime and shaming the entire country and her women.
The Male Factor (TMF) 
is this not called violence ?
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नहीं रिज़वानसाहब!
ईसी को तो नारी मुक्ति कहती है हमारी NCW बहनें!
जनाब ! अब भी तो आँखें खोलें !
जय हिंद !
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बहनें! asi nahi hoti…
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Though I haven’t seen this video yet, even if I were to believe it is true, an isolated case of a woman slapping a man as against numerous cases of men physically abusing women (including burning her alive, forcefully aborting her kid) doesn’t hold much ground.
However, for the sake of discussion, I will study the video at leisure and come up with my analysis.
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Every incident of violence, cheating, murder assault by women is reported as an isolated one. Suicide by married man is said due to personal reason. Every suicide by women is taken due to dowry harrasement.
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Do read this post where a decadal increase in serious crime by women was seen and during the same time a decrease in crime by men was found.
Therefore, stating that violence by women is an isolated case may not be correct.
Post Link: http://standupforacause.wordpress.com/2013/08/28/the-fairer-criminals/
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Shut up! How do you like that?
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Every incident of violence, cheating, murder assault by women is reported as an isolated one. Suicide by married man is said due to personal reason. Every suicide by women is taken due to dowry harrasement.
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Isolated case? what a comparison with this incident? what if a men slaps a women in public like this, will u keep shut ?
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अरे चित्थडे चित्थडे कर देंगी ये आधुनिक अन्याय की प्रतिमाएँ !
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I would say that the woman shouldn’t have slapped the man in question in public or private unless it is in self-defence. It is only then that violence can be justified. Otherwise, I don’t support it
However, we also need to evaluate the impassioned responses of many other women in our society. Patriarchal societies like ours permits or even encourages women to safeguard their honour (or anything that might pass of as an attempt at ‘dishonouring’ her).
Patriarchy makes woman’s honour, out to be a prized possession and so, women behave aggressively to save it.
It has usually been found that it is the foot-soldiers (women included) of patriarchy that slap men for perceived or real offences.
So, we should try to do away with “patriarchy’ and strive towards building an egalitarian Indian society and many such incidences of violence (as described by me above) will vanish.
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Standard feminazi propaganda version of सीता-राज्य.
Life will magically become so much more livable, once gynocracy has taken over.
No it won’t. Ever seen women on women aggression, brothers.
Tell you what … men on men can hold not a wick, live alone a candle to it.
To feud within a set of understood and agreed rules, is the hallmark of honour.
The reason women can claim honour, is because they derive it from a system underwritten and maintained by men. In absence of it, we have the rise in dishonorable and ‘dishonest’ women. Those that push papers, press buttons, produce no real intellectual content, indulge in faux philosophical postulations, trade insults and barbs, claim commitment but indulge promiscuously, and survive on entitlements. No thanks, we won’t let that dystopia come to pass. Not in our country. Never. Please get lost. Wait … YOU ARE LOST!
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Rashmi educate yourself asap instead of sitting ideal at the TV and complaining on men. I know it is a fashion for women like you to take up candles and march with some volatile words. Come out from that couch and exercise your brain for some neutral thoughts. You are clearly confused or better an advantage-seeker in the name of feminism. It is only for patriarchy (your father and brother included) that you are in that protected couch. Hate filled women like yourself will always demean men (your husband as well) for their crappy and selfish interests.
Would you talk these bombastic thoughts if one of your kind was slapped by Khan on a national TV or a bus or park? Never one fake Rohrtak case and you were clapping.
We dont hate you or overreact…..we pity your sad state.
Guys ignore every misandrists……they merely exist to poke and make you hyper. Don’t lose focus over your visions, life and family.
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In my limited knowledge on law, if the men slap any women either for self defense or any offence, he should be have booked and in behind bars by say women harassment. Nobody listens even the law,state and no law to support men , in these cases. We got to have Gender neutral laws .
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You want gender neutral law, Rizwan?
Let me burst the ग़ुब्बारे !
The bloody biased DISUNITED INDIAN LEGAL SYSTEM,
where each special interest group has its only legal preferences and precedents,
won’t permit one. Which is why men will always be the losers.
Advocate and canvass for a single United Civil Code System,
and we can have gender biased laws.
Are you willing to do that? If yes, then good.
If not, then please smile next time a woman hits you.
Because the law will interpret as she ‘defending her honour’.
तुम क्या उखाड़ लोगे उसका?
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Rashmi why r u so depressed baba chill na rashmi you know suphnakha if u know about her then i dont want to comment anything on this Really a Abla nari effort what u r showing you satyvati she fight for her husband life and i know you you are opposite of satyvati .. Rashmi don feel bad the taste of truth is always bitter.!!!!
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Rashmi why r u so depressed baba chill na rashmi you know suphnakha if u know about her then i dont want to comment anything on this Really a Abla nari effort what u r showing ..you know satyvati she fight for her husband life and i know you you are opposite of satyvati .. Rashmi don feel bad the taste of truth is always bitter.!!!!
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@ innocent fighter
I don’t want to be satyawati. For a change, let husbands also fight for their wives.
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Rashmi previously U wanted to “strive towards building an egalitarian Indian society” and now U are saying let husbands also fight for their wives…U sound like feminist who says “Women have suffered in the past and now its time for men to suffer”…Y should any1 fight for any1 in egalitarian society in name of gender…In egalitarian society every1 should fight for every1 irrespective of gender….don’t u think so??We should make all laws gender neutral and I think then we will strive towards building an egalitarian Indian society…Don’t u think so??If U really want egalitarian Indian society then y don’t U say that this women should be punished…
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Meet Jyoti Tiwari. She is a Sister fighting for her Dead Brother! You can learn a thing or two from her. She can also teach you what class is. Quit your bigotry already!
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You are right … Satyavati is not in the same league as you.
मिथ्या महिला मंडल की प्रचारीका जी ठहरी आप साहिबा …
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Husbands already fighting in Court bcoz of stupid 498a law…
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@ Rishabh Kumar
I don’t address personal attacks made by others. I don’t need to learn what class is.
All I know is that I fight for rights of ‘women’ class – the oppressed, abused women
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@Rashmi..
“All I know is that I fight for rights of ‘women’ class – the oppressed, abused women”…You made it clear U are a hardcore Feminist… I don’t understand are you dumb or pretend to be dumb…coz somewhere u wrote “strive towards building an egalitarian Indian society”..If u want to strive towards building an egalitarian Indian society then u should have written “All I know is that I fight for rights of ‘Human’ – the oppressed, abused human” instead of “All I know is that I fight for rights of ‘women’ class – the oppressed, abused women”….Double standards…U really need to know about class …
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@ Deepak
Feminism supports men & women alike because it attacks institutions like patriarchy which hurt men too.
What makes you think that feminism is not about humanism?
A feminist can also be a humanist However, in our society, the prevalent misogyny oppresses women and unless it is directly addressed, humanism alone won’t be enough.
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@Rashmi If thats the case then call urself egalitarian n not a feminist…Thats what the problem with u feminist people U actually dont know what U are standing for….Feminism is not about humanism…if its about humanism them Y there is no candle march for ezaz Khan???Y don’t U shout the slogan arrest the girl send her to jail…so feminism is never about humanism and its neither about oppressed women too…its only about people who have had bad experience coz of their choice and now blame the MAN for it…I m sure u dont understand the true meaning of either egalitarian or humanism…
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आया नहीं अभी तक उधर से कोई जवाब देखो …
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It is so so sad that just because a few pseudo feminists are loud enough, the ‘real’ movement gets maligned.. I won’t even call such women Pseudo feminists..i’m gonna call them Misandrists.
I’m a feminist myself and i know for sure i don’t hate men, i hate patriarchy. Infact i’m proud that men , (atleast i can speak for my generation) have broken many stereotypes too. So this incident that happened shows the plight of this foolish woman craving for space on national television. People gotta learn to behave themselves!!
It is because of people like this woman that the word feminist comes across as some sort of a curse word. What we tend to forget is that a lot of men too are feminists, not just women. As for the lady in the incident – should get her act straight!!
http://akritimattu.wordpress.com/2014/03/16/does-the-f-word-scare-you/
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Udhar hi ek return slap dena chahiye tha… bevkuf hai vi jisane mar khaya…
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