The Nymphomaniac

Nymphomaniac

I was traveling to Kolkata when I met that family in train. They were altogether four in number, the parents, their teenage daughter (14 yrs) and another boy in his final year of Engineering.

The girl was more beautiful than any film artist. If I need to compare, I can only compare her with Aishraya Rai. No Bengali actress comes near her in terms of grace and elegance. At a first glance it is very difficult to take the eyes off her. She was only 14 but looks like a matured college going young lady.

There were two other youths traveling with us. Both in their early 30’s and we befriended easily. We were having great fun amongst three of us while that family was little reserved. Very soon the father joined us and we slowly got to know each other. They went to Hyderabad for treatment of all of them – counseling for the girl and eye treatment for rest of them. I did not get into details of treatment and very soon we became like one family and started playing cards and share jokes and food. It was the best journey in my life. After some time I realized that the boy is actually the boy friend of that girl when they started being cozy in the train. The girl spoke less, slept almost in the whole journey and merely had taken any food in the journey. At a first glance she seemed to have eating disorder and we thought that was the reason she went for treatment.

After we became close enough one of the other two boys, became close to the mother of the girl and all I could hear was they were discussing something in whispers. Before that I heard the parents talking about sending someone to jail etc. but they didn’t divulge anything to me. I didn’t care much too.

The journey was over in due course and the guy who became close to the mother lived near my house. So I offered him lift till his home.

He divulged the whole story in cab, the story that the mother of the girl told him after he won her confidence.

The story goes like this. The girl and the family believe that they are very modern, so much modern that the parents allowed her to do anything in their home. So she had all her boy friends coming to their home and staying in her separate room for hours and sometimes in closed doors without anyone bothering to see what’s going on inside. It was but natural that the girl became involved in many sexual partners and got habituated in sexual interactions multiple times a day. She did have a steady boy friend (who belonged to a very rich family) at that early age.

Sex, multiple sex partners and multiple intercourse every day changed the girl’s psyche for good and she became a sex addict at the early age 12. All these years her parents allowed her to have uninhibited sex with boys in their home under their nose and that turned her into a maniac. Added to this was her beauty that attracted many boys to her and given easy access to sex in a protected homely atmosphere turned her into a nymphomaniac.

Sensing danger from her behavior her first boy friend fled and needless to mention that her family is now after that boy and he has got all suitable criminal cases including rape against him. After that old lover left, she did not take any time to find another new boy friend (this is the final yr. Engineering college lad).

This boy, the young protector fell for their story of how cruel the earlier boy friend was and how he used to rape her every day in her home. He is not conditioned enough to ask the question what her parents have been doing for so many days. He is happy as he is getting free sex multiple times a day with a woman as beautiful as any leading film actress.

What this poor boy doesn’t know that this sexual overdose can kill him one day, if not he will be royally thrashed by the same family who calls him their son today once the girl is cured. He doesn’t know that it is only matter of time that he will also get all kinds of cases including rape and the same uncle / aunty will be after his life while he runs amok from pillar to post for justice.

Simple search on Wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypersexuality) tells us that this mania which is also termed as hyper-sexuality and can be due to mental health problems like bipolar disorders.

According to experts this label of Nymphomania would apply to a girl who shows the symptoms like –

  1. extreme amount of time spent in sexual activity
  2. using sexual activity in response to low mood or stress
  3. failed attempts to reduce the behavior
  4. Excessive masturbation, use of pornography, cybersex etc

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) of American Psychiatric Association (APA) includes this as Sexual Disorder—Not Otherwise Specified (Sexual Disorder NOS). The DSM-IV-TR notes that Sexual Disorder NOS would apply to, among other conditions –

distress about a pattern of repeated sexual relationships involving a succession of lovers who are experienced by the individual only as things to be used

On the causes of hyper-sexuality some researches suggest that it may be due to biochemical or psychological changes that accompany dementia. Biologists say that the frontal lobe in our head is responsible for controlling our sexual behavior. Any injury to this part of our brain can cause hyper-sexuality in us. Excessive hormonal disorders or exposure to certain drugs at an early stage or excessive dosage can also cause hyper-sexual behavior in us.

The reason I have explained hyper-sexuality in detail is to bring home the point that any person be a male or a female may be suffering from this disease which is a psychological disorder. However, our rape laws being gender biased when this girl had forced her boy friends for sex multiple number of times daily that was never termed as rape. Rather the boy who had to flee the nymphomaniac for saving his life is running for his life now.

It is only a matter of time when her new boy friend will also run for cover for raping this girl. No one will ever say that the problem was with the girl who was a nymphomaniac or with her parents who only for showing their modernity have allowed her to have multiple sexual partners or encouraged their daughter’s sexual activities from their home and ruined lives of many boys.

As a human being we need to ask this question to our selves, when we demand death penalty for the rapists who most of the time are found to be repeat offenders, have we ever considered rape as psychological disorder? If yes, then how come we ask for death penalty for the repeat offenders rather than sending them for proper rehabilitation? If as a nation we demand death penalty for the rapists then why not we demand the same for such women and girls who are nymphomaniac? Can we ever demand death penalty for them or is their any court in India that will give them even minor punishment? When these cases come up in any court, invariably the decision will be to send the girl to rehabilitation rather than to judicial / police custody.

It is rather surprising that with change of gender, rape becomes the most heinous crime or just a medical condition. And this can happen only in India where the urgent need of the hour is gender neutral rape laws. (read – Can we have a gender neutral rape law in India).

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5 comments

  1. The whole basis of this Gender bias in the society is just 1 simple and basic hoax. The hoax that runs complete feminist foundation is the feeling deeply pushed into society that having sex is a pain for female and enjoyment for male. This is the basic issue where the origin of various Gender Biased Laws and their background Hoax get their birth from.

    This is biologically and in reality wrong. If this needs to be scientifically understood, in most alleged Rape cases, its the boy who suffers the pain as actually it is the women who enjoy sex more than men and their anatomy allows them to have it multiple times and much quicker. As we know how evolution happened where living beings were gradually imparted the properties that helped them to evolve. So, why did biologically women got the ability to have sex so many times whereas a man needs a hell lot of time to recharge? It is because a hard fact I.e. Sex is Pain for Man and Gain for Woman. The day this basic premise is understood, Gender Bias may see it’s end of life.

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  2. Good Analysis and insights ! Men are naturally wired to spread their genes. It is same across species. The good thing is, that gradually Men are getting over it (Though very slowly). It is an erroneous mindset prevalent in society, that it is men who enjoys more.

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    • Sandesh, thanks for dropping by..

      The point I wanted to bring in this article is excessive sexual desire or sexual overdrive or hypersexuality is a psychological disease / disorder, it can happen in either men or in women. When women suffering from this disease wins our sympathy and we think of their medical rehabilitation, treatment etc. and NOT DEATH PENALTY or any other cruel punishment, we do not think like this for a repeat male sexual offender.

      A serial rapist is considered as a dirtiest criminal and most cruelest punishment is awarded to him whereas in reality he needs our sympathy and proper medical rehabilitation rather than beheading him for his behavior.

      I am doing further research on this and will come up with a research analysis shortly.

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