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Planning a child’s career
Planning a child’s future is never an easy task, especially when we have more career options and more avenues to show one’s expertise. Today it’s not enough if our children are educated, they need to survive in the competition. They need to have skills that never fade out or they know when to acquire new skills.
For any profession we choose today, we need money to pursue the same. Also it is not always that the child will like that profession in future, whatever we choose. S/He may completely take a different route to do something else. In earlier days Doctors / Engineers / CAs / MBAs were lucrative profession, but not any more.
Nowadays there are many professions that are coming up are different, some of the older professions are changing for better or getting abolished. Keeping pace with new generation and new challenges are not easy. Parents need to be well-informed today to guide their child the best. Many a times even the educated parents can’t guide them properly due to lack of knowledge. Teachers / mentors come as help to us.
Planning a good future for one’s child is every parent’s dream. However, the main concern that bothers everyone is money.
How much money is enough?
How much is too much? No one knows the answer. We earn money and plan according to what best we can do. Some of us save money in different schemes with the hope that when our child reaches different milestones in his / her life s/he gets the help of that money. But that money may not be enough.
So we need to understand that when no amount of money can be enough for a particular career option, we need to think differently. Money saving becomes secondary to many other factors expressed below. and even though there are websites like http://www.careesma.in we still need to plan their future.
Here are a few pointers that I would follow to build my son’s future –
1. Give him different exposure
He will be given exposure to different environments, different career options from the beginning. We really don’t know if he will be a Doctor, a Cricketer, a Musician, a Magician or an Entrepreneur. So he needs to be exposed to different environments from the childhood to choose from. It does not mean he needs to pursue each one to understand what option he likes. This exposure means seeing these shows, attending such programs or meeting such people who excelled in these activities.
2. Evaluate his interests
As parents it will be our responsibility to understand what he likes, and what he doesn’t. We need to quickly move out of those options that he doesn’t like. We will take help of professional and trained counselors for that.
I understand that in his childhood our son may not be able to understand the good or bad, but his interests will show up, at least to the experienced eyes. There are some necessary activities that one needs to learn like swimming or self-defense skills and I will definitely like him to pursue that for long even if he doesn’t want a career out of that.
3.Balance his time
Childhood is most precious to all!
Once gone, it never comes back!!
I believe this from core of my heart and want to follow this from core of my heart too. In his childhood apart from his required school time, study time and time for other daily activities, he should enjoy his games time and that should be ample. So I will prefer him to be in a good play school right from the age of 2 yrs. This is because he mingles with other boys and learns to socialize, create network from the beginning. This is the skill that takes one through bad times. Also this is important in today’s nuclear families. He should also spend quality time with his family members, so that he learns to love them, understand what a family is.
4. Make the basic skills very strong
This is very important as this will create one’s future. So no matter whether he wants to be a musician, or a doctor or a cricketer there are some basic skills that are very important. For example, conversation skills in English. This is because any global skill is recognized by one’s English speaking ability. No matter whether one is cricketer or musician one need to be good in English. As we live in India, knowledge of Hindi language is also important. In fact in today’s world knowledge of a few languages is always helpful and hence I will see if he gets good education in some foreign languages like German, French, Japanese etc.
Similarly body fitness. Anybody will be successful in future if one is physically fit, without any kind of illness. Healthy body is primary need of a healthy and sound mind.
There are some other skills, like cycling, driving, painting, swimming and public speaking skills that are very important. Any professional can be taken to a long distance by these skills. So training on all these skills will be in his daily chart. Compulsory.
5. Monitor his progress
I will constantly monitor his progress in all basic parameters while he grows affinity for any particular career. This doesn’t happen before the age of 15 / 16. By that time one has taken the first major exam in one’s life. The class X exam.
Since children of age 15 / 16 can be considered as matured today, as the maturity level has increased, after that we need to give importance and priority to his views. We will reason out the odd ones but if his decision doesn’t change, we will go by his decision.
6. Take him to places
The only reason I will do this is real life experience make our experience better, memorable. When we travel to different places, meet different people, see different cultures we start respecting those cultures. In future it makes our life easier as we are living in a globalized world today. This will make sure we don’t get cultural shock in future and work in better way to accomplish our goals.
While we take him to different places it is very important that explore different things in that new place. In this way his life will be fun, adventurous and full of learning. He will start loving his life and his family too. He will be better fit for the world.
7. Learning is fun
Learning can be fun for both the teacher and the student. And that is what we need to follow. While I understand that it is not possible to make one expert of everything but knowledge never goes waste. Since we can’t depend on any premonition of a child’s future or force anything on a child we need to be very careful on what we want him to be expert. In fact in first 15 / 16 years of his life, I don’t want him to be expert of anything. Just take part in everything. If we find any natural choice for him, he will pursue that, if not it will grow gradually.
In fact if we can concentrate on making one’s basic areas stronger and make one a better person to take on tough competition in future, one will be a successful individual. And for that, I don’t want him to stand first in class. If he by the process of education becomes first that’s ok but there will be no pressure for him to rank first, because the race of life is even greater.
Learning is made fun today, thanks to many edutainment channels and we really don’t need to name them. All kinds of interactive channels and programs bring quality education to our doorstep. Even fun programs can be so much learning. Internet is another media that is never ending. Only we need to remember that there is world beyond chatting and social networking sites.
8. Acknowledge he is an adult when it is time
Anything forced upon one person cannot be successful. So when he becomes 16 I will respect his decision to pursue a career. I will definitely seek opinion from other knowledgeable people like his teachers, but his choice will get a preference.
His preference needs priority because when he pursues a career that he loves, he does give his best into it. When he gives best into anything he is supposed to get best results out of it. Only as parents we need to upgrade our skills and learn more on that subject or at least be so much knowledgeable that we can help him.